Would you go out if your child was on a sleepover?

[Bagpuss2022]

Dd has two friends stopping over one has been sick and is running a temp. We know the parents well girls been friends since reception now 12 y8 ,
I can’t get hold of either parent I saw earlier on fb they were at some gig I’m not opposed to parents going out when I have there children sleeping over but not to be able to get old of them and the Dad has posted on social media since i have called them both

of course I’m taking care of “Lilia” she’s laying on the sofa in the dining room with Netflix and a sick bowl I keep checking on her and she’s in the next room the other girls are upstairs I feel mean but I don’t want them both to come down with it too

wwyd? The poor girl just wants her mum and her bed

Early hours? It's possible to go out and be home by 11!

In response to your op, of course we would go out if DC were at a sleepover - that would literally be our one opportunity to go! However I would drive, DH would have a few drinks and we would keep a close eye on our phones. Hopefully they will be suitably apologetic and grateful for you caring for their DD. And I hope you guys avoid the bug! Happy birthday to your DD.

I'd be fuming OP but I would have taken sick child home for them to deal with.

Wow! Why on earth wouldn't they get a taxi & come get her? I'd take her home myself with a bucket & a blanket in the car! Poor girl. And poor you! That's really taking the piss. They MUST have seen your attempts to get hold of them before the gig ended. 😡

i knew someone would comment that she is 18.

she has just passed her test and the roads she has to drive are extremely quiet rural roads and I get really anxious at times.

hey I’m a mum and I worry, shoot me!

Do you think they knew their DD wasn't quite right when they dropped her off?

They are U
And cf
And just looking to ignore your messages
id be tempted to to stir some shit up because they are untrustworthy!!!

Track them down. Via family or friends
Or contact a grandparent maybe the kid can go there.

Must confess when I saw your thread title I thought "If you can't go out when your young child is being looked after by someone else when can you?!"
I would be/have been contactable though. It happened when ds was younger. I'd been drinking so couldn't collect him but the mum of his chum dropped him back.

You looked after their very sick child all night because they were too drunk to come and get here, and I'm betting your calls and messages went to them before they had actually had too much to drink. So they could have stopped and collected their daughter.
They owe you!

Hope you made it to your activity and their daughter has been dropped home.

They are CFs, if the dad was on Facebook he would definitely have had your messages and just chose to ignore them! I agree with others and would have driven their DD back home and left them to deal with their own child.

My son’s 19 and I’m the same @2pinkginsplease

OP - see you at George Ezra next week!

And, I would go out, but would check my phone regularly. If they have their phone out to post on SM, surely they could see the notifications??

Agree with most others here, I’d go out for a meal/few drinks but not “out out” and there’d always be a way to contact us (and grandparents, if for whatever reason that failed).

There is no way I’d ever leave my ill child at someone’s house.

Well done you for staying calm, and I hope you made it to the activity today.

Hope you both managed some sleep and she's not too poorly

Well I would go out if my DC had been at a sleepover, but I would be contactable and absolutely would pick up my sick child in a taxi and ask to borrow a bowl temporarily in case they were sick in the taxi, if we had been drinking. I would never expect my sick kids to be looked after by someone else. I'd want them home. In my experience, nothing like a sick child to sober you up immediately.

Even when my kids are at school my phone is constantly been checked just incase, let alone a sleepover sn been out. Iv be on pins personally
I'd of put on the social media post. Your DD is really I'll. can you please contact me back, make a holy show of them
Drunk or not I'd be getting a taxi Atleast to get my baby that must of been horrible for the little girl been so poorly in someone else's house an just wanting your own parents

Your one of a kind op. Hope she's okay an you all don't get it xx

Thankfully it isn’t more serious than a tummy bug but still one of them should not have drunk, different if it’s family but you’re not an unpaid babysitter/nurse bad enough cleaning your own kids puke up poor girl that’s pretty horrible for her.

I don’t do sleepovers thankfully and it doesn’t appear to be a thing with kids locally, so not nagging about it but I remember my sister having a friend who could never stay past 9pm without her mum coming to get her as she was upset I don’t know why they kept trying. Hope your daughter has a lovely birthday op

This

And if I was going out, I would let the host know where I was going.

All the pearl clutching and competitive martyrdom!

Id have let her parents know, and if they wanted to collect, fine, but otherwise I’d just look after her

I sure as shit wouldn’t drag someone running a temp with D and V into a car and deposit her with 2 people who had been drinking. THATS cruel.

let her rest and sort it all out in the morning.

they weren’t unreasonable to be out but I think their response was especially as it’s your daughter’s birthday today. My own (admittedly much younger) child was vomiting through the night and this morning. I’m knackered and have had to cancel all my plans for today. It’s hard enough to deal with when it’s your own.

Totally poor. They could come and get her or I would have offered to drop her off.

That's awful of them both. Such bad parenting. You should not have had to deal with that. Could you have took her home? Why couldn't they have got a taxi to collect her like normal parents would?!

Disgusting parenting from them. They knew she was unwell and STILL didn't attempt to collect her.

Parents should be contactable. But really, this is just one of those unfortunate situations where a combination of events conspired against you.

Plus, this is a 12 year old, not a tiny tot. She's safe, with people who have known her many years. She's got a bit of a sicky bug, it's not the end of the world and it's not life or death.