Child’s birthday party - accidentally invited the class horror

[MyToasterHatesMe]

My little one has a party today. They’ve just started school and we didn’t want to invite all the kids so party invites were a bit of a grab-bag of nursery friends, kids that he seemed to get on with, parents I chatted to etc. Now we’re a week in I’m getting the feeling that one of the kids is pretty poorly behaved - runs out of class at home time rather than waiting to be called, has tried to pick my (not small!) child up when they were queuing up and carried on when asked not to, hit him repeatedly. Mine seems to like playing with him but says that he suddenly hits, pushes etc. He’s not totally wild and the parents seem on it (I think?) - plus it’s all new being at school and I can imagine that affects behaviour.

Anyway - there’s nothing too structured at the party but if this kid starts hitting / crashing into the food table / being unpleasant - what do I actually do? A parent will be there - how do I politely say that they need to make it stop? Help!

I don't deny there is projection.

But my point is that you are referring to CHILDREN as 'horrors'. Young children, often with very good reasons for their behaviours. And that makes you a really shitty person.

Would love to know the basis for your view that 'often' horror children have a reason to be that way

I'm thinking you have 0 basis for this and it's just further projection of your own situation

@pickledpotato and no,there are plenty of people who do not judge.

If the mothers of my sons classmates judged him, their own actions towards him would be very different. Passing on info about events he would like, giving him things related to his special interests that their children want him to have "because it makes him happy", making sure he is never excluded from parties etc. They show empathy, they don't judge.

@pickledpotato do you know anything about child development at all?

The majority of children want to thrive and want to do well and be seen as being generally fantastic. Especially when we are talking four or five year olds. So yes, when their behaviour is bad there is usually a very good reason for it.

Anothernosebleed, don't let that poster get to you. They're currently showing how much they don't understand how to be nice to children on another thread too.

Horror adults are worse than horror children.