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Wedding on day of Queen’s funeral!!!

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RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 19:12

The Daily Mail are saying funeral is on day 10 of mourning. Assuming tomorrow is day 1, is that not Sunday 18th? What happens to a wedding on that day?!

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freckles20 · 08/09/2022 21:31

GhostFromTheOtherSide · 08/09/2022 21:19

the funeral will be on the 17th.

Weddings etc won’t go ahead because clergy will be holding rememberence services in the various churches so they’re unlikely to be open for business.

Also am reading that there will be no day off work.

Seriously? The clergy will refuse to marry people on that day? People who have been planning for months if not years, piled savings into getting married on that day in-front of their loved ones? I am flabbergasted.

I accept that things will be different, and businesses will close but I would heave exoected some things to go ahead regardless- weddings, funerals, flights, medical treatment,

I'll be working. I'm self employed. Customers rely on me and I won't be letting anyone down who needs me.

EntertainingandFactual · 08/09/2022 21:32

DrRuthGalloway · 08/09/2022 20:41

Sat 17 is moving in day for thousands of UK students starting uni. I hope it's the Monday as postponing freshers for a day is much easier than changing moving day for working parents....

Yes, and Sunday.

GretaVanFleet · 08/09/2022 21:33

Twawmyarse · 08/09/2022 21:23

I don't understand the OP.

Are you suggesting people should - with all the time, planning and expense that goes into planning a wedding - cancel their big day bc the queen has died?

If so, how mad!

I would be going ahead with it or still attending if I was a guest and if I were the bride or groom I'd be mighty unimpressed with anyone who didn't even make the effort to attend just bc it's a "day of mourning". Yes, the queen has died and she was a good queen and will be sadly missed but it doesn't really affect anyones life. I'm bracing myself for all the impending virtue signalling about to be unleashed! (Incidentally just went out in the car and saw a couple walking up and down the street "praying" - I mean fine, pray - but why on earth are you doing it out in the street??)

I think the point that the OP is trying to make is that someone getting married may not have a choice.

WhereDoesThisToiletGo · 08/09/2022 21:34

Our friends got married on the day of Princess Diana's funeral

TenoringBehind · 08/09/2022 21:34

Times says funeral on Monday 19th

LIC1985 · 08/09/2022 21:35

Looks like more recently released articles are now quoting Monday the 19th . Hopefully they will confirm the date tomorrow as I can't imagine the uncertainty for some people with the possibility of things closing

Minniemummy19 · 08/09/2022 21:35

We got married same day as Lady Diana's funeral, everywhere was closed so suits, flowers etc had to be collected earlier but apart from that it went ahead as planned, all guests came as intended too. Granted it wasn't the Queen though.

PurBal · 08/09/2022 21:35

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AllyCatTown · 08/09/2022 21:35

I’m getting married tomorrow and the registrar called to assure me weddings would take place tomorrow.Some other bride had called worried 😂 and so they were calling to assure everyone. Life does go on.

BrownTableMat · 08/09/2022 21:35

The Church of England’s official guidelines, just published, say:

‘Weddings, funerals and baptisms may continue as planned through the national period of mourning. Clergy should check with those planning these events whether they wish them to take place during this time. Particular sensitivity should be taken when reviewing those which are planned to take place on the day of the funeral.’

www.churchofengland.org/sites/default/files/2022-09/Guidance%20for%20parish%20churches%20on%20the%20death%20of%20HM%20the%20Queen%20-%208th%20September%202022.pdf

in case that helps anyone.

BrownTableMat · 08/09/2022 21:38

I’d also bet on Monday 19th. Official London Bridge guidance has long said that the funeral will take place on D+10, where D is the day of death, unless D+10 is a Sunday. Also, there has been a change just announced, which is that contrary to previous guidance, D will actually be tomorrow as the death was announced relatively late in the day, so D+1 will now be Saturday, etc. Allowing a full ten days of national mourning takes us then to Monday 19th for the funeral.

EntertainingandFactual · 08/09/2022 21:40

BrownTableMat · 08/09/2022 21:38

I’d also bet on Monday 19th. Official London Bridge guidance has long said that the funeral will take place on D+10, where D is the day of death, unless D+10 is a Sunday. Also, there has been a change just announced, which is that contrary to previous guidance, D will actually be tomorrow as the death was announced relatively late in the day, so D+1 will now be Saturday, etc. Allowing a full ten days of national mourning takes us then to Monday 19th for the funeral.

Makes sense

Original poster
RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 21:44

Diana’s funeral and the Queen’s funeral are not the same thing

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Original poster
RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 21:45

BrownTableMat · 08/09/2022 21:35

The Church of England’s official guidelines, just published, say:

‘Weddings, funerals and baptisms may continue as planned through the national period of mourning. Clergy should check with those planning these events whether they wish them to take place during this time. Particular sensitivity should be taken when reviewing those which are planned to take place on the day of the funeral.’

www.churchofengland.org/sites/default/files/2022-09/Guidance%20for%20parish%20churches%20on%20the%20death%20of%20HM%20the%20Queen%20-%208th%20September%202022.pdf

in case that helps anyone.

Thank you for this - very helpful @Slightlystressedbride have you seen?

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Snugglemonkey · 08/09/2022 21:50

nachoavocado · 08/09/2022 19:58

I would want to watch it. Perhaps set up a TV like people do for the world Cup. A quiet zone for reflection.

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I would not want a quiet zone for reflection or funeral watching at my wedding.

Zippy1510 · 08/09/2022 21:51

Does anyone have a source for the link saying that D is moved to tomorrow now?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/09/2022 21:52

Blimey, I've hear of Bridezillas but The Queen has just died and you want to make it all about you? Good luck with that.

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 21:54

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/09/2022 21:52

Blimey, I've hear of Bridezillas but The Queen has just died and you want to make it all about you? Good luck with that.

Yeah obviously OP shouldn't be thinking about any potential impact on her wedding at all.

nachoavocado · 08/09/2022 21:54

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/09/2022 21:52

Blimey, I've hear of Bridezillas but The Queen has just died and you want to make it all about you? Good luck with that.

Weddings are stressful at the best of times and when something happens outside of them that could impact them I think its only natural to be concerned. It was the same with Covid.

HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 08/09/2022 21:55

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/09/2022 21:52

Blimey, I've hear of Bridezillas but The Queen has just died and you want to make it all about you? Good luck with that.

Odfod

Slightlystressedbride · 08/09/2022 22:00

@RIPQueen @BrownTableMat thanks so much for that, I'd looked earlier but not found anything on CoE website.

I'm a bit Confused at those saying no flowers then?? Really?! I'll have a chat with our vicar on Sunday but otherwise really hope it's business as usual.

Amazed at so many posters not realising the significance and that things involving the state (yes, marriage!) may shut down!

Snugglemonkey · 08/09/2022 22:02

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/09/2022 21:52

Blimey, I've hear of Bridezillas but The Queen has just died and you want to make it all about you? Good luck with that.

Bridezilla? For wondering if your wedding will go ahead? Give your head a wobble! Weddings are a big deal to organise, of course people will be hoping their day will go ahead!

FelicityFlops · 08/09/2022 22:06

I am certain that HM Queen Elizabeth II would not have wanted you to change your arrangements, on the contrary.
If you wish to pay respect, have a toast.
Have a lovely day!

LBF2020 · 08/09/2022 22:07

Our wedding is on (or not!) 17th September. I am going through fazes of freaking out and then feeling fine. I have my fingers crossed for the brides on this thread.
For those saying it's only a wedding.. Yes, a wedding which most have spent hours planning and stressing over. The money lost would be crazy! Not to mention family who have travel booked and paid for :-(

Arnaquer · 08/09/2022 22:08

My wedding was on the day of Diana's funeral and there was initially a worry that it wouldn't go ahead, as the Church of England were considering cancelling all weddings that day out of respect. Fortunately they didn't.
I struggled to get lillies for my bouquet but everything else went ok, not a car on the road apart form the wedding party.
Appreciate the Queens funeral is more important but I hope for those getting married that their weddings go ahead, life goes on and arranging a wedding takes so much planning.