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Wedding on day of Queen’s funeral!!!

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RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 19:12

The Daily Mail are saying funeral is on day 10 of mourning. Assuming tomorrow is day 1, is that not Sunday 18th? What happens to a wedding on that day?!

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BrokenMatress · 08/09/2022 21:06

whenwillthemadnessend · 08/09/2022 21:02

There are 5 days prep then the coffin is moved to Westminster for 3 days for public to pay respects.

I live in Westminster- there are pictures of the queues to see the body of various people in the past going past my house

If that happens and anyone fancies a tea, gin or wine brought to the queue- just pm me.

Drunkencrow · 08/09/2022 21:07

Worried it is 17th now. Hearing more and more speculation about this over last hour.

whenwillthemadnessend · 08/09/2022 21:08

From what sources @Drunkencrow

Fivemoreminutesinbed · 08/09/2022 21:08

EmmaGrundyForPM · 08/09/2022 19:16

I didn't realise you could get married on a Sunday.

I think maybe not a church wedding.

basilmint · 08/09/2022 21:08

What sort of places do we think would close? Have a trampoline park booked for DC1's birthday on Saturday 17th and wonder if it would be open. It's not a particularly big deal to re-book but DD will doubtless be peeved and consider her birthday to be of far greater significance than the Queen's funeral.

etopp · 08/09/2022 21:09

Septemberslooming · 08/09/2022 21:01

These arrangements have been planned for years so she would have endorsed them.
I'm in a similar situation so will just have to see what happens.

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Neither of us knew her, so anything is conjecture. I imagine, though, that she would have approved anything that involved protocol, but wouldn't have been concerning herself with whether freshers should be able to move into halls or not.

Her own behaviour (including her initial reaction to the death of the Princess of Wales) would suggest private grief/mourning to be preferable to outpourings of emotion and cancellation of life.

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RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 21:09

People acting like this is no big deal are insane. If you didn’t care for the queen and want to act cool about it, that’s fine. But a state funeral and the period of mourning etc is going to cause massive amounts of disruption and pretending otherwise is disingenuous

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LIC1985 · 08/09/2022 21:11

Drunkencrow · 08/09/2022 21:07

Worried it is 17th now. Hearing more and more speculation about this over last hour.

It seems to be the most popular date on the news ! I'm really hoping for the Monday

Drunkencrow · 08/09/2022 21:12

LIC1985 · 08/09/2022 21:11

It seems to be the most popular date on the news ! I'm really hoping for the Monday

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Same

nachoavocado · 08/09/2022 21:12

RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 21:09

People acting like this is no big deal are insane. If you didn’t care for the queen and want to act cool about it, that’s fine. But a state funeral and the period of mourning etc is going to cause massive amounts of disruption and pretending otherwise is disingenuous

I agree. It's a national event.

the80sweregreat · 08/09/2022 21:13

The Royals would not cancel their plans for you!
You go ahead ! X

lurchermummy · 08/09/2022 21:13

The funeral is on 17th which is also my birthday. I will raise a glass in honour of her. I'm
sure the queen would not wish for weddings etc to be ruined.

BrokenMatress · 08/09/2022 21:13

LIC1985 · 08/09/2022 21:11

It seems to be the most popular date on the news ! I'm really hoping for the Monday

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My DD is getting married (or not) on the 17th
Interesting times!

SirGawain · 08/09/2022 21:18

Generally you can get married on any day of the week. But many C of E clergy will not perform weddings on Holy Saturday; (the day between Good Friday and Easter Day). By the way it is not called Easter Saturday!

GhostFromTheOtherSide · 08/09/2022 21:19

the funeral will be on the 17th.

Weddings etc won’t go ahead because clergy will be holding rememberence services in the various churches so they’re unlikely to be open for business.

Also am reading that there will be no day off work.

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RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 21:20

I don’t understand why people are incredulous about a church wedding on a Sunday?

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BrokenMatress · 08/09/2022 21:22

SirGawain · 08/09/2022 21:18

Generally you can get married on any day of the week. But many C of E clergy will not perform weddings on Holy Saturday; (the day between Good Friday and Easter Day). By the way it is not called Easter Saturday!

My parents married on this day in the 1960s and the bishop had to agree

Twawmyarse · 08/09/2022 21:23

I don't understand the OP.

Are you suggesting people should - with all the time, planning and expense that goes into planning a wedding - cancel their big day bc the queen has died?

If so, how mad!

I would be going ahead with it or still attending if I was a guest and if I were the bride or groom I'd be mighty unimpressed with anyone who didn't even make the effort to attend just bc it's a "day of mourning". Yes, the queen has died and she was a good queen and will be sadly missed but it doesn't really affect anyones life. I'm bracing myself for all the impending virtue signalling about to be unleashed! (Incidentally just went out in the car and saw a couple walking up and down the street "praying" - I mean fine, pray - but why on earth are you doing it out in the street??)

BrokenMatress · 08/09/2022 21:25

If the funeral is am do you think a 3pm C of E wedding can go ahead?

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RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 21:25

im saying that if the funeral is happening on my (or anyone) wedding day, it surely isn’t happening because the venue and church will be closed? Because people won’t be able to get there in central london, because some people won’t want to/it’s not going to be a huge party mood.

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freckles20 · 08/09/2022 21:26

Murraysmum · 08/09/2022 20:51

Just be prepared for any service providers to cancel. My friend got married on the day of Princess Dianas funeral. Both her florist and hairdresser cancelled on her as they were going to close for the day as a mark of respect.

Maybe I'm crass or insensitive but that seems incredibly unprofessional. Weddings can't just be rearranged and are a huge deal for the bride and groom!

Fupoffyagrasshole · 08/09/2022 21:28

Honestly a wedding venue isn’t going to close they would have to refund so much money it would be a terrible business decision !

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RIPQueen · 08/09/2022 21:30

Well I will find out tomorrow I guess!

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AlwaysInTheKitchenAtParties · 08/09/2022 21:30

I think you just have to fly your pants at half mast and you'll be fine

bananatuna · 08/09/2022 21:30

My friend got married on the same day as Diana's funeral. It had no impact whatsoever. It was just unfortunate they both chose Pachelbel's Canon (tbf an odd choice for a wedding). Crack on with the wedding.