I can see why women stick with men who have money

[FayeGovan]

I mean even when they arent a great match. Money makes life easier. I have friends in this position, they arent worrying about the energy cap or the price of lurpak. They have their own new cars and holidays to look forward to. They work part time in an undemanding job. Nights out and weekends away aren't a worry.
I can understand why they are with husbands they dont particularly like or love though.
Its not for me but i cant see why they do it.

Colleen Rooney is an extreme example of this. Later it possibly became about wanting her children in a two parent family and her not admitting she might have made the wrong choice. Some people haven't had examples of good marriages around them, so don't think that they can exist, or that marriages last, so they settle will the lesser of evil, because they see money is a cushion against worse case scenarios.

Bit of an aside but I hate the way that Colleen Rooney is judged liked this and it is blithely assumed that she has made the wrong choice?

She's an adult savvy woman and she has obviously made the right choice for her. I find it really misogynistic that other women judge her for it too. Or assume that she is staying for the money when presumably she would benefit rather favourably if they were to divorce.

None of us knows what goes on in someone else's marriage. CR is Roman Catholic and is at liberty to follow her faith without judgement if that is one of her reasons for staying.

And lots of people know that WR has more of a drink issue than a womanising issue. And there are lots of journalists and unscrupulous people willing to take advantage for the price of a newspaper story (as the tawdry Rebekah Vardy saga demonstrated).

Life can be easier with money. As I've got older I've been struck really badly by the peri-menopause. I don't have to work thankfully. I need dental treatment which costs thousands of pounds, that's okay. I have projects I want to work on so I'm not bored. I have time to attend appointments, time to work on my sense of self. Time to do voluntary work if I want to do more. Time to work on my fitness. Extra tuition required for dc = no problem. There is a sense of stability and security. DH does a fair bit around the house, there is definitely team work at play.

I think we all know women like this. Im not judging anyone, im saying i can see why they put up with these men for a cushy lifestyle. Constantly worrying about money, robbing peter to pay paul, turning down nights out, listening at the school gates while everyone discusses their holidays, new kitchens etc etc is just so fucking wearying.

In rl life I don't know anyone who is as baldly calculating as this.

Most of my friends and acquaintances met their partners at uni and none of us knew then how things would turn out for us financially but I think most of us were attracted to certain qualities in a man (stable, hard working, intelligent, positive) that probably indicated that they would be good providers and the men probably made similar assessments.

Now we are in our fifties most of us are reasonably happy and those that aren't have divorced. I can't think of one person who is staying with their other half for financial security. But maybe that's bc we were all educated to a reasonable level so we have had more choices?

Absolutely. Choice is everything and money gives you choice.