Is this dress "slutty"? (Their words not mine)

[PyongyangKipperbang]

I ask because, in MNspeak, a "close female relative" described it as such.

For context this is not my normal attire, I am currently wearing black skinnies and a Def Leppard Tshirt! But I have been invited to a "Come as you were" fancy dress party. I didnt really have a clue what to wear and was toying with going out and out silly and wearing something a 1970's little girl might wear when I found this for £6 in TKMaxx. Big hair, make up put on with a trowel, heels, more make up and enough perfume to kill an elephant....job done, clubbing early 90's me! Not that I did much clubbing but ya know, artistic licence!

She says that it would look ok on either of older two daughters as they are early twenties but it is "inappropriate and slutty on a woman of your age". I told her it was fancy dress and a laugh but she is deeply disapproving. In hindsight, me saying "Oh good, perhaps I'll pull then" to the slutty comment wasnt the best thing I could have said!

So....AIBU to wear it?

You have a stunning figure and it's not slutty at all.
Wear the dress if you're comfortable and take no notice of catty remarks. "Slutty" is a nasty derogatory term used by jealous women.

I think the dress looks great. I used to wear a short dress with thick black tights and Doc Martens. A favourite was black with white flowers on it (and sometimes I wore cycling shorts underneath). They weren't tight though - they sort of flipped out more at the skirt and you could dance in them.
Plus loads of eyeliner.
Early 90s.
Maybe not helpful to you but fun to reminisce!

I think your mum and my mum are friends 😂.

You've got an amazing figure and the dress is gorgeous. Not slutty and your mum is a jealous bitch!

You look amazing! Whomever says you don't is just jealous!

I dont think she is jealous as such.

I think its more that she is envious that I have a) the freedom and b) the confidence to say "Ah fuck it" and wear what I like. She was brought up to be so conscious of "what will the neighbours think" that it has stuck. She rarely brings it up now, she has accepted the hair and actually said that she thought I should keep it when I talked about going natural. I think she secretly admires me for sticking to my own style rather than following the crowd but occasionally her inner Hyacinth pops up, especially as my usual look doesnt show anywhere near so much skin!

If you are confident wearing the outfit why did you post?

To take you back to your teens.

”You’re never going out like that are you.

Funnily enough there is another thread on what women over 45 look like:

Is this what women over 45 look like? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4627222-is-this-what-women-over-45-look-like

This is a stealth bossy right OP 😂

You look fantastic. If I had that figure I’d never take that dress off!

I say go for it.

And the OP did ask for opinions.

On a fancy dress outfit, not a glam night on the town look.

It's 'come as you were'- you'd look as if you hadn't tried if you dressed in clothes stereotypical of your age. The whole point is not to!

You look great, your host will appreciate the effort.

Ignore close female relative.

Please, please, please, please, PLEASE wear that dress, OP, from one rock chick to another.

1. You look amazing. Hands down.
2. It’s out of your comfort zone which means it will have an even greater impact. You’re a rock chick so embrace the terror and cackle.
3. You look amazing.
4. It’ll make your mum tut (petty but satisfying).
5. You. Look. Amazing.

You don’t look slutty, you look fab! You’re late forties not late seventies 😂.

PS: What is the bra? 😍

I'm really pissed off that you have children a similar age to me and look that good because I could never wear something like that!

It's fancy dress! You look great, she's probably jealous- go for it!

That's not "slutty" - I rather like the print, to be honest! Take no notice. If that's the best she can say, she should STFU.

No way is it slutty! It just shows off your nice figure. I'll bet it was your mum who said that, mums of a certain age are stuck in that time warp, where mutton must not dress as lamb and beautiful long hair must be hacked off and styled into something matronly and bouffant as soon as you hit 35.

35? I started getting it at 30. I'm 43 and it's still long 😁. As is my sister's.

I do feel sorry for that generation. Outside of cities, they were expected to look sexless once they'd produced a couple of kids.

I'll always remember a mum at school that they all bitched about. Beautiful, long copper hair and in the summer she did the school run in hot pants. Clutch those pearls now 😂

I don’t recognise that as 90s club wear, but you look great in it, and your MIL (I suspect) is a jealous old trout.

The pulling comment was perfect.

Go forth 💃

The print is gorgeous and it fits you so well.

Slutty? 😂Fuck me, that's positively demur compared to what me and my friends wore in the 90s. I think your mother must be thinking of the 1890s @PyongyangKipperbang

@BadNomad I wouldn't use the word sl*y as I say in my comment

I would generally say a tight outfit where you are showing both cleavage legs and tight figure hugging is generally one which would make someone look more that way on the spectrum (if there was such a thing) - So whilst I think the comment from her friend is a bit much, I'm not going to lie think there I can understand her possible sentiment.

I also think just because it's a fancy dress night doesn't mean we have to dress up in a way we wouldn't (or exposing more) than if it wasn't fancy dress but I get that there is a trend for this to expose more and dress sl*y because it is fancy dress.

15 years ago there was a basic rule - show legs or clevage not both. I would say societal standards have slipped of late to the point where a lot of skin on show goes, kind of push it as far as you can, so that's why I thought I would add in my Devil's advocate comment

Ah yes. The 90s when I had the body to dress in skimpy clothes. Fond memories.