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Original poster

To think my partner acted like an absolute child!

149 replies

Shineshinecoast10 · 05/09/2022 09:57

Over the weeked me, DS, DP and her DD were at an event. I brought 2 camp chairs and thought she would bring along hers. She didn't. So we had 2 between 4 of us. Anyway I didn't mind standing. Me and DS came back from the toilet and DP and her DD were sitting on the chairs. My DS sat on the floor. I politely asked DP if he could sit on the chair instead.
She got in the biggest strop. Involved her DD and told her DD to get out of the seat and they both went and sat on the floor. I said her DD was fine to sit in the seat and I didn't want her DD to move. They both wouldn't talk to us and she created a frosty atmosphere.
My DS who is 6 then went up to them both to show them something. She made a comment to him saying I thought you wanted to sit down, go on, go sit down. It was me who asked for him to sit down not him.

I jumped in here and said this comment was uncalled for and for her to stop it. I didn't get an apology for the childish behaviour.

If it were the other way around I would not have minded giving my seat up for her DD. Me and DP are adults and I don't think a fuss should be made.

AIBU to think she behaved like a bratty child?

OP posts:
Teenyliving · 05/09/2022 09:58

Wouldn’t be my partner for long…

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 05/09/2022 09:59

If you brought the chairs why were you not sitting down?

girlmom21 · 05/09/2022 09:59

She's a twat and someone who acted like that towards my child would be told exactly where to go.

Cherchezlaspice · 05/09/2022 10:00

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 05/09/2022 09:59

If you brought the chairs why were you not sitting down?

If they bring chairs, they’re required to be glued to them throughout the event?

Cherchezlaspice · 05/09/2022 10:01

Your DP is extremely childish and acted like a dick.

billy1966 · 05/09/2022 10:03

You sound very passive.

Is this really someone to have around your child?

She sounds nasty.

You need to put your child ahead of your relationship.

This sounds a bit familiar, have you posted before about this woman and her behaviour towards you and your son?

Baconking · 05/09/2022 10:05

I wouldn't stay in a relationship with someone who acted like that towards my child.
She sounds immature and petty

Hobnobswantshernameback · 05/09/2022 10:13

Have you posted about this partner before?
this seems
weirdly familiar

DialsMavis · 05/09/2022 10:14

Did you post recently about her being mean to your DS?

DialsMavis · 05/09/2022 10:14

oops x post with others above

Unanananana · 05/09/2022 10:15

I would have picked up both chairs and taken you and your DS away for good.

Your DP was a twat. I couldn't be with someone who is happy to have a go at my six year old either. They are disgusting.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/09/2022 10:17

Yeah I wouldn’t want to be with her any longer.

i also don’t see why you and your ds didn’t both have your own chairs. If she’s wanted chairs she should have brought chairs.

Behaving that way towards your ds was really off and would put me right off her.

Christonabike37 · 05/09/2022 10:31

God she sounds awful. Someone who spoke to my child like that would not be welcome in their life. How can the relationship possibly progress if she behaves like that towards your child? Poor lad.

Obviously she's an idiot for complaining about sitting on the floor, where did she expect to sit if she didn't bring chairs? But the way she spoke to your son is the real problem.

girlmom21 · 05/09/2022 10:41

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/09/2022 10:17

Yeah I wouldn’t want to be with her any longer.

i also don’t see why you and your ds didn’t both have your own chairs. If she’s wanted chairs she should have brought chairs.

Behaving that way towards your ds was really off and would put me right off her.

Probably because the OP isn't a prick (unlike her P) so let the children have the chairs

aSofaNearYou · 05/09/2022 10:50

Tbh I think the adults should have the chairs and the kids should sit on the floor.

But obviously her attitude about it was awful so YANBU.

Original poster
Shineshinecoast10 · 05/09/2022 10:55

DialsMavis · 05/09/2022 10:14

Did you post recently about her being mean to your DS?

No I haven't posted before about DP

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NotLactoseFree · 05/09/2022 10:55

yes, I would have had adults in chairs too. But she sounds very unpleasant and even if there's' some huge backstory where you're constantly nitpicking her or whatever, having a strop at a 6 year old is very immature and unpleasant and you should consider carefully whether you want to be in a relationship with someone like that.

SafeMove · 05/09/2022 10:57

She was horrible to a 6 year old little boy who was trying to engage with her. Whether he is a child within the relationship, a family member, a friends child or some random kid in the street, any adult who is like this with a child isn't an adult or a decent person IMO.

As adults, we model to kids how fully functioning humans should behave in social situations and interpersonal relationships. She wouldn't be modelling anything to my DC, I'd be keeping her well away.

dotdotdotdash · 05/09/2022 10:57

If there's a shortage of chairs then I'd normally expect the children to sit on the floor and leave chairs for adults. But your partner behaved badly. What triggered such an extreme reaction? Or does she often behave like that?

Original poster
Shineshinecoast10 · 05/09/2022 10:58

aSofaNearYou · 05/09/2022 10:50

Tbh I think the adults should have the chairs and the kids should sit on the floor.

But obviously her attitude about it was awful so YANBU.

Perhaps but yea it was the attitude that followed really

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Original poster
Shineshinecoast10 · 05/09/2022 11:00

dotdotdotdash · 05/09/2022 10:57

If there's a shortage of chairs then I'd normally expect the children to sit on the floor and leave chairs for adults. But your partner behaved badly. What triggered such an extreme reaction? Or does she often behave like that?

I don't know what triggered this behaviour. She does like to get her own way most of the time

OP posts:
BodenCardiganNot · 05/09/2022 11:01

No I haven't posted before about DP
If it's not you then it is someone who is in the exact same situation - also involving a 6 year old boy and a dp who is abusive to him (and the dp also has a daughter).
I feel very sorry for your child. You have no right to subject him to this behaviour. He only gets one childhood.

pinkyredrose · 05/09/2022 11:02

Why did your 6yr old son need a seat over your DP?

RedHelenB · 05/09/2022 11:03

Adults get the chairs in my world in that situation. Kids way more used to sitting on the ground. No one in my acquaintance would think otherwise.

SleeplessInEngland · 05/09/2022 11:06

This is such an obvious YANBU it was barely worth making a thread over. The real question is: is this behaviour normal for her and if so why are you with her?