AIBU to just let DD go to school with earrings in.

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School starts tomorrow and DD is saying that she will go to school her earrings in (not allowed). Now i dont agree that earrings shouldnt be allowed however they are the school rules. Ive said to her health and safety but she says that 1) my earrings are small and screw on- there is no chance of them falling off or getting caught on something. Tbh shes right- shes worn these earring from nursery right through primary school and there has never been an issue. 2) if its health and safety concerns why are the teachers wearing earrings. Shes right on this to- in events and parents evenings ive seen the teachers wear earrings/jewellery. Shes gotten phone calls home about this and got shouted at by the school but she says to me ' its a bit hard to take them seriously about the danger of earrings when they have like 5 earrings as well'. I cant get hett up about her wearing the earrings to school. Shes doing amazing in all other areas of school so far and this seems like a pointless rule
AIBU?

So what happens if you have a 15 yr old daughter who leaves home in the morning with her skirt on the knee in regulation fashion, is wearing no earrings/make up, nice sensible shoes etc - and then rolls her skirt up, does her make-up in the loos, sticks her earrings back in and changes her shoes as soon as she gets there? Some teenagers are absolutely hot-wired to rebel about this sort of stuff. It's all very well to act as if one's perfect parenting will create an obedient Start-Rite-wearing 15 year old - but my experience of having been a teenager and of having had teenagers (grown up now) is that the ones with parents who try to enforce this kind of stuff are the ones who have the worst problems.

The poster who commented on some annoying teenager wasting everyone's time by dropping her nose stud etc - does anyone honestly think that teenager was being annoying purely about a nose stud, and would have been an angel if only she hadn't had a nose piercing? I'm pretty certain she'd have been a pita about something else if it hadn't been a nose stud. That's just the way some young people are. They mostly turn into reasonable adults, though.

OP's daughter wants to be an annoying dick at school - that's her problem. If she's not going to be an annoying dick about her "special lucky ear-studs", she'll be an annoying dick about something else. She's obviously one of Those Teenagers.

OP is too involved, though, which is arguably making the problem even worse by giving it oxygen.

So what happens if you have a 15 yr old daughter who leaves home in the morning with her skirt on the knee in regulation fashion, is wearing no earrings/make up, nice sensible shoes etc - and then rolls her skirt up, does her make-up in the loos, sticks her earrings back in and changes her shoes as soon as she gets there?

You tell her to get the bus/walk home when she's finished detention.

So what happens if you have a 15 yr old daughter who leaves home in the morning with her skirt on the knee in regulation fashion, is wearing no earrings/make up, nice sensible shoes etc - and then rolls her skirt up, does her make-up in the loos, sticks her earrings back in and changes her shoes as soon as she gets there?

Totally irrelevant . In your case the parents doesn't know, in the OPs case she does know but can;t or won't step up to the plate

Stupid rule - I wouldn't get my DD to take them out. A small stud should be allowed and so should reasonable make-up and nail varnish
IMO the real reason they don't allow earrings is the same reason they don't allow make-up or nail varnish... so it doesn't "distract" the male students. Ergh.

Stud earrings would be a weirdly specialist distraction, no?

if you don’t like the rule get the rule changed, or find a school with different rules. Deliberately breaking rules is just lazy and a waste of everyone’s time.

@TheClogLady yes it would be, along with nail varnish & minimal make-up IMO 😂