My DS Barnaby (11) is from my previous marriage (my DS was 1 at the time of our divorce). His bio father has never had much input in Barnaby’s life and only sees him averagely once every few months. Although my ex’s Mother and father have a very close relationship with Barnaby and he often spends the night with them and they help with childcare occasionally.
I met my current DP when Barnaby was 5 so he has been in Barnaby’s life for most of what he can remember (he calls my DP dad and calls his bio dad by his first name as he doesn’t have a very fatherly relationship to my DS).
My ex has been in a relationship for around 2 years I gather with a women I have only ever spoken a few words to as when I drop Barnaby at his house she never seems to be in.
I had just came to find out through my DS that my ex’s partner was pregnant (around 8 months).
So when I next called my ex to discuss when Barnaby was going to next come around to his house there was a short pause before he said that his partner had just given birth about 2 days prior to a baby boy that they named BARNEY???
I was speechless I asked him why he called his DS basically the same name as our DS Barnaby and he said that he hadn’t realised that but was not going to change it because his DP had fallen in love with the name.
Am I the only one who thinks this is wrong on many levels practically calling your son the same name as your other son and what can I actually do about this (do I just have to leave it and tell my DS that he has basically been “replaced”???!!)
AIBU?
My Ex naming his Baby the same name as our DS
Lovelyflower · 03/09/2022 16:32
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLFlissyPaps · 03/09/2022 16:40
That is insaaaane!!
Does the GF even know your son though? Does he talk about her? If so, what’s their relationship like.
If your ex treats your DS as it’s own it’s really shady he never even mentioned to you that she’s pregnant. Some may say it’s not your business but if this man is in your sons life then it absolutely is your business.
mandalala · 03/09/2022 16:52
I wouldn't give all your kids names in here OP, as the gutter press pick up threads.
Has you ex been psychologically assessed recently, do you know? Is he well?
mandalala · 03/09/2022 16:42
I think you have to go round there now OP and just tell him this is wholly unacceptable and cruel to his first son. If they like, they can give the baby Barney as a middle name. Who the hell would have two sons called Barnaby and Barney ffs? Is he demented? What is wrong with him as there must be something very amiss mentally?
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Lovelyflower · 03/09/2022 17:26
@YesIReallyDoLikeRootBeer no clue to be honest he sounded so assured that this wasn’t weird and was surprised when I asked him about it
@mandalala he’s always been a bit on the “crazy side” but don’t think he has any “issues” if I’m honest I think it’s his GF trying to push my DS out of her “happy family picture”
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