Expecting HIM to do school run?

[Brighton5555]

Just wanted to get a idea if I’m out of order .
My Dh runs his own business and works long hours normally getting home at 12.30am..

I am a stay at home mum to our child plus my elder child who has sen.

We have a agreement where Dh takes our son to school each morning and I do all pick ups.

He has said as he’s is working so hard at his shop it’s really not fair for him to get up at 8.15am Monday to Friday to do this .. hinting I should do it .

I don’t like school runs but do all pick ups. I also do all the housework / cooking / cleaning / appointments / admin/ planning/ paying bills / taking kids to clubs / activities .. you know the list is endless.

The only things my husband does is this school run and taking the bin out once a week. Nothing else .

some might think as I’m a stay at home mum I should do it but if I do ( I’m already up each morning and all the work of getting the kids ready for school is done , he literally just drives our child ) then he literally does one thing a week - the bin.

I could take my child but I don’t see why I should. I get he works long hours and in the summer holidays he’s been getting up at 10.30am every morning so to have to wake up at 8.15 he isn’t going to like but he doesn’t have to do it during the holidays / half terms and weekend …

Am I wrong ? am I being lazy ?

Finally a sensible post from @WeightoftheWorld
I agree with everything you’ve written.

Many fathers don’t see their children as they are the main bread winners and have to work ridiculous hours to earn the money. This isn’t the case here. This is a choice that the DH has made. A very self indulgent one that is having a huge impact on his family life. I hope it’s worth it to him.

There is literally nothing to be jealous of in the OPs life.
Well I would quite like to find a huge amount of money hidden in a blanket I'd bought from a charity shop but then i'm a mug and would feel too guilty to keep it.
Karma though...

This thread has gone weird. Lots of PP clearly just extremely jealous of you OP that you are a SAHM but also seem to have a secure income that means you are simultaenously the breadwinner. I'm sure a lot of the aggression you have received on this thread is just because of jealousy.
😂😂😂

I don't see any jealousy. I see a lot of well-placed scoffing at OP's unsubstantiated claims & increasingly inventive dripfeeds.

Why's the jealousy line always brought out 😂

So you do all of the housework and childcare and you provide all the money (from adult work) while he works long hours but brings in no money and probably has a lot of downtime?

See if you’d said that in your original post you’d have received more sympathetic replies. Mumsnet being Mumsnet has seen that you’re a SAHP and that isn’t allowed! You have to work at least ten hours a day and if you still don’t have enough money it’s “Can I ask why you don’t have a second job?”🙄🙄🙄

Is your DP’s business likely to make money at some point? If it does, will he be contributing more. Just that if he’s working for nothing he may as well be at home supporting you.

Ultimately, don’t ask anything on here unless you have Mumsnet experience. You need to work out what’s reasonable and what isn’t. I’d be concerned that he’s never going to make any money and that he isn’t going to give you any. If you feel that’s the case then there’s no point continuing.

@berksandbeyond is that the same poster?!

There’s a bit of jealousy on this thread for the OP who has generated an income/enough money not to need to work..

Not sure where youre getting jealousy from? More like fed up with inconsistancies and drip feeding

SHE DOESN'T DO ADULT WORK.

Yep

The accusations that she’s a sex worker or a drug trafficker stink of jealousy .

She couldn’t possibly have had a well paid job previously and invested wisely- maybe at the right time in property. Maybe shares. Maybe she was an investment banker. But you’re right prostitute is much more likely… or drugs mule..

Why don’t people actually read before they post?

read and comprehend!

Yup.
Also the same poster who wrote about her H setting up the business a year ago.
He had the temerity to employ a delivery driver without asking her permission.
The delivery driver was - wait for it - female.

The horror!
OP told him he wasn't allowed, he refused to be railroaded into obedience, so she called him a cunt & stormed off.

He works 13 hour days to keep some distance from her, I imagine.

They're jokes. Not accusations. Granted, they might be in poor taste but nobody actually thinks she has an only fans page.

@FloydPepper I don't know! But it's annoying me now and I'm not the OP

Oh, I did.
Her post about adultwork was so poorly worded & confusing I had no idea it was a 'joke'.

Or why she needs to be so coy about her income source, on an anonymous forum.

Ha fair enough @KettrickenSmiled - i stand corrected

Don't think any of us need to beat ourselves up about our ability to comprehend this baffling thread @girlmom21. I'm only here because the entitlement & stropping is so hilariously batshit.

Maybe she’s doing Body Shop At Home 😂

Because if that was the case surely she would just say? It's the fact she refuses to say kind of makes one think it must be embarrassing.

As for jealousy 😂😂😂 nooooppe not a smidge

Are Tupperware/ Ann Summer parties still a thing?

This is perhaps the case. Idk why op is being so coy if it is. Plenty of people on mumsnet have investments or a lot of money, good salary etc.

If he’s indulging a hobby, which will never turn a profit at the expense of family life and you’re living off your investments or spread betting or even inheritance, YANBU. YABU not to explain. And because you’ve not explained, I’ve said YABU.

However, if you genuinely have a decent amount of money, why not pay people to clean your house etc?

She's definitely a #BossBabe hunbot working her way towards a white Mercedes

@Brighton5555
Your post at 10.12, said you do adult work?

You both clearly do a lot. As long as you both have the same amount of free time to yourself, then split everything else (work and household chores) however you like there’s no right or wrong.

My money is on the OP making some good investments/shares/ property-
maybe she’s worked her arse off for 15 years ans earnt a fortune so quite rightly wants to spend time at home for now-

I don't think you have invested your money wisely there.

I struggle to match a high earner with someone who demonstrates very little ability when it comes to communication, awareness and understanding.