To think some Mumsnet advice is crap?

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Lighthearted.

Lots of very good suggestions, kindness, support, not knocking anyone, just having a laugh here.

But there are a few tired old nuggets that keep finding their way onto threads.

Theres the super aggressive, over the top advice, like someone who is mildly annoyed with their husband has to SIT HIM DOWN. why does this always involve sitting him down, like a dog.

Ear plus or headphones as the answer to any excess noise. Does it not occur to people that we need to hear other stuff for a reason?

No, as in no is a complete sentence. No it isnt. I think my friend is a MNetter, I asked if she was free for coffee a couple of months ago. She said ‘no.’ I haven’t asked since!

what’s the worst advice you’ve seen on here?

Loving this thread. the problem though if your comments aren't particularly funny/witty/crazy/nasty/stupid/batshit then they get ignored!!! I'm Billy Nae Mates on here! Nobody ever wants to chat with me!😂

Hello, Billie, how are you? How's work?

😂, I love it! and thank you for asking!!!!

You made my day!

Absolutely agree with @Trying20!

They were also telling her to ring the hotel pretending to be the female colleague and ask for a receipt for the booking/pretend she'd lost an earring as an excuse to find out more. Or share a selfie with the couple in the background.

I think the consensus was "really none of your business" but I'd have to look at it again.

I think some of the LTB-type advice is given where posters remember the OP as having posted a long line of similar or worse threads. so the advice given takes account of all the previous events- there are people who post regularly on Relationships and AIBU about problems with their partners and if you're a regular, it's quite easy to recognise them even with a name change. Obviously if you haven't read the earlier threads, some of the advice might seem OTT. (And of course sometimes the advice is OTT.)

Bad advice on the Property board is generally given where the adviser can't help but substitute her own situation for the OP's- "I'm a single childless woman looking for a one-bed flat in Soho or Fitzrovia"..."How about a village on the M4 corridor? You could get a 4 bed house near an outstanding primary and it's only an hour and 20 minutes into London!"

Agree about the "no is a complete sentence" crap as applied to ordinary social interaction. Also most advice about dealing with a difficult MIL verges on the sociopathic.

Yep, I get a bit cross with the people who answer the question they want to have been asked, rather than the one they were actually asked.

”I really want a 2 bedroom flat in the middle of central London. I am disabled and can’t drive but have a sensible budget”.

”Look at this 6 bedroom place deep in the countryside! It’s got thousands of stairs and you absolutely need a car to live there!”

Bit off topic but I also can’t bear all the poems and songs that start appearing on interesting threads (about not wanting to give a neighbour a lift next Thursday).

OP: AIBU to think my neighbour is a cf. She regularly parks across my drive, let's her kids trample across my flowerbeds, and yesterday verbally abused me because I asked her not to let her dog shit all over my lawn.

Answerr: She's probably stressed. You should offer to take her kids to the park, and get her shopping in on the way back.

Ohy god I saw this answer on yhreads where ops were actually concerned about wellbeing due to excessive screaming.
Like fuck should someone do this. I think it comrs from shit parents who believe in this "it takes a village" when it suits, bit god for id village says something when they are impacted negatively...

Re LTB. Again. Many are ridiculous and I think it is lots of single posters who project a lot into it

Ugh. Sorry for the typos!

Oh yes, there was one not long ago where a 35 week pregnant woman was anxious about the cost of a taxi to hospital, neither she nor partner could drive nor had much disposable income. Answers 1. Learn to drive and buy a car 2. Don't have children if you can't afford a car.
Really.

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I've seen some of your comments @Billie676 on threads and thought what good advice you've given! You do it in short, sharp sentences and I've often quoted and agreed with what you've said!! 🙌

Yes, me too- always good advice and very kind.

Yep, it was barking 😁More and more ridiculous ways for the OP to let this woman she barely knew know that this affair was absolutely 100% happening - even though she actually had zero proof and didn’t even know if the couple were still together.

Another one recently was someone saying ‘Libel doesn’t exist on social media’ when I suggested a full-on name and shame of a company might not be the best idea. Tell that to Colleen Rooney!

There are a few posters on here who literally ruin threads for everyone with their judgemental attitudes

The men haters can get very extreme, there was a thread a while ago saying ,that if little boys aged four/five only wanted to play with boys they were clearly misogynistic,,never mind that some girls of the same age only want to play with girls of course.

Poster a short while ago about siblings coming to birthday parties, the OP said they couldnt afford more as they were at max budget for the party.

Advice given was for her to hire a minibus to transport only the invited kids to the party, neglecting the fact that would add a small fortune to the budget already

Oh that thread was ridiculous, people were tying themselves in knots about how other parents might not understand, that an invitation for one child means just that.

Of course some MN advice will be wrong or bad - MNers are ordinary people, and as fallible as the rest of society. This thread is like saying AIBU to think that some advice given by a stadium full of sports fans, or a concert hall full of gig-goers - or any group of people - may be crap.

When you have a lot of people, giving advice on a large number of widely differing topics, it cannot all be correct, just by the law of averages.

Surely the OP should move house?
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I’m not a step parent but the responses are mad… starting point is the child is always right , the step parent knew what they were getting into aka my dsc is hitting my child and stealing money from piggy bank… response is your child should give dsc money as they are living with their parent and dsc must need money/ step parent should make sure dsc has absolutely everything they want- move out of house every weekend so dsc can spend alone time with parent. There’s always some lovely posts mixed in but the vitriol makes me sad.

Also if you are the step mother you are always in the wrong ,no matter how unreasonable the mother is being, she is a Saint and can never do any wrong .