To think some Mumsnet advice is crap?

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Lighthearted.

Lots of very good suggestions, kindness, support, not knocking anyone, just having a laugh here.

But there are a few tired old nuggets that keep finding their way onto threads.

Theres the super aggressive, over the top advice, like someone who is mildly annoyed with their husband has to SIT HIM DOWN. why does this always involve sitting him down, like a dog.

Ear plus or headphones as the answer to any excess noise. Does it not occur to people that we need to hear other stuff for a reason?

No, as in no is a complete sentence. No it isnt. I think my friend is a MNetter, I asked if she was free for coffee a couple of months ago. She said ‘no.’ I haven’t asked since!

what’s the worst advice you’ve seen on here?

Oh so much at the moment on money saving threads. Buy an ebike, join the national trust, grow your own fruit and veg, get chickens. It’s almost borderline as to what’s worse, that type of post or the posts that blatently state that central heating is an unnecessary luxury.

The ‘could be my partner be having an affair’ threads. Some of these he obviously is but some could be completely innocent misunderstandings and posters pile on to say he will definitely be guilty.

This sites USP is advice where whatever the situation the OP is at fault; neighbour playing loud music, pissed up your front door and slashed your tyres? You must have done something to upset them, you must be being too loud and they’re drowning out your noise. Maybe they’re stressed out, you should be offering to make them a cup of tea and walk their dog.

I think Mumsnet should just delete such posts. It's obvious they will attract unwelcome guests. Even if the poster is naieve but entirely genuine. Just don't allow it - not rocket science.

Many on here like to be critical or unkind for the sake of it. Probably to get a power kick.

Those "central heating is an unnecessary luxury" threads are just competitive Scrooge fests. The house never getting above 9°c? Wearing duvets and 5 pairs of socks? Come off it.

The advice on S&B threads to 20 something women asking what they should wear to a hen do in a nightclub in a small town North of Watford.

I'm staying off the central heating threads. They're making my head explode.

What's the advice? And what 20-somethings are asking Mumsnet for advice on club wear?

It made me understand why so many houses have mould issues

They. Are. Insane.

I haven't read them but I imagine they are of a similar ilk to the competitive how little do you spend on your children at Xmas threads ,I don't mean people who can't afford many gifts but those that can but take great delight in being stingy .

It's an odd sort of one-upmanship, really and reminds me of the Monty Python 4 Yorkshire Men sketch.

Similarly, whenever there's a wedding thread, they'll be people saying that they got married for half a crown, received only a jar of pickled eggs for a wedding present and yoinked in 2 random people in off the street to be witnesses.
And everyone said it was the best wedding they'd ever been to before or since!

I mean...🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes, @x2boys - not so much about sharing tips on reducing fuel bills, more about never heating the house and acting like they're in the Siege of Stalingrad.

I never forget the post where the OP was complaining their neighbour was using their outside tap to connect their hose and water their garden. A legitimate complaint, some posters were saying get a tap lock to prevent it happening in the future which seemed a good idea to me.

However, one poster was up in arms as they said that homeless person would not be able to use the tap for a drink.

Only some?

There was one poor woman asked for advice on S&B about treating herself to an expensive handbag. She came in for some stick, but the best one was a poster telling her to spend the money on a bench which could be donated to a park.

Conspicuous consumption was always a bit iffy, and is about to become close to taboo on both COL and environmental grounds.

You're right, but it doesn't seem to happen much with other high end items though. Designer handbag threads seem to attract a lot of criticism.

Almost always some sort of maxi or floaty dress, like summer day wear, with trainers or wedges. And that she will look dated and out of place in heels, or jeans and a nice top, as NO ONE wears those things anymore. In reality that may be the uniform in London, but elsewhere, not at all.
Occasionally the poster says 'I'm 28' or similar but haven't been out since having DC...etc

Yanbu. Sometimes it is the twilight zone.

Things I have seen:

1. call the police because someone is wanting to buy your child's used shoes that you listed on eBay.

2. Anyone asking to swap seats on a plane is a criminal, guilty of theft. People would happily see a young child cry all flight away from their parents, rather than swap seats, and to help with that child if there is an emergency.

3. LTB. For anything really.

Well of course some MN advice is crap. It's given by a selection of random people on the internet. It would be a bit surprising if all of it were wise and intelligent, since plenty of people aren't wise and intelligent.

you detach the bag first before you fill it.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Does anyone remember the thread not long ago in the book topic.

Someone asked for recommendations of a romance (?) book for her mum, just something easy reading in the genre her mum liked.

Another poster then kicked off about the assumption ops mum wanted this particular genre of book, started going on about her mum liking thrillers etc, she was so offended on ops mums behalf.

Absolutely bizarre.

I think 'no is a complete sentence' is very valid in the right context.
I think it's good when someone is consistently pushing your boundaries and/or being controlling.