To think that of your 12 year old makes dinner

[BlackShoes]

The only correct response is "thank you"?

Dd made dinner for 5 tonight. Pork loin chops, corn cobs, broccoli, and roasted courgette and tomato in garlic.
DOD all the prep, timings and everything.
Dh was trying to be a spoony fucker, telling her she should do this and that, this was overcooking etc and she roundly said to stop "backseat cooking" and leave her to it.
The dog subsequently ate one of the chops while dd was in the loo and dh was in the kitchen.
Later, dd served up the chops but not the veg, but as she is having trouble with her tummy, popped to the loo again quickly. Dh commented that we were obviously having cold dinner tonight. I told him.tonshish, she has gone to a lot of effort for everyone and if his is too cold, pop it in the microwave.
Once dd was back and served up, she took one plate up to ds upstairs, put one plate aside for other ds whonwas ar work, and told DJ to come down and get his (he was upstairs by this point). Dh said, can you bring me mine like you did ds? Dd responded with no, you have been talking shit to me all night and I am not your slave.
Dh came down, looked at the dinner and said "wheres the rest of it?" meaning there wasnt enough and she had left off the tomatoes and chop. She explained that she had left the tomatoes off because she didn't think they were good enough. She had also taken the chop off his plate to replace the missing chop for (upstairs) ds as dh had been commenting in the cooking of it, so he was the one who could miss out. He then questioned why ds (the one working) got two pieces of garlic bread and he didnt. Dd explained that ds didnt have a chop (vegetarian) and had also not eaten lunch as we were out and had gone straight to work without eating so would be hungry. He complained he was the one that needed the most calories in the house.
Anyway, he needed up flopping the plate of dinner on to the couch and stating nah dont want it now and storming upstairs remarking he would just make his own.
Later he came down and went to take his plate off the couch to eat it, and found most of it gone as dd had fed it to the dog. He was then annoyed about that, even though he said he didnt want it!
Aibu to think he should have just 1)warmed int up if needed 2)just damn well said thank you and 3)if he was still hungry, make something else later and 4) not then stropped that dd fed his "unwanted" dinner to the dog!

I'm assuming this isn't typical behaviour for the OP's husband, otherwise that's a very good question.

Why is your daughter taking food upstairs to your son?

The responses on this thread are hilarious. People critiquing the meal choice, the dogs behavior, berating the ds for not coming down for dinner, for you all not sitting at a table to eat dinner 🤣 classice pole up your arse MN responses.

If the OP was 'daughter worked hard to cook a meal, father complained it was cold ,should he have just said thank you?' Then the responses would've been about this. The OP added all of the embellishment and so this is also what is being commented on.

@excitingusername why TF should the father's meal be prioritised?!

I'm really impressed by your DD. I couldn't have done that at 12!

What are you talking about? Where was he being nasty? The girl was making dinner. She was overcooking it. He tried to help/advise her. She told him to leave her be. So he left her be. Then she served him corn, broccoli and courgette and told him he wasn't getting a chop. The comment about it being cold was made to the OP, not the DD. The only lesson that girl learned is that her mother will fully support her in withholding food from people, and it's fine to run around after her brothers.

Ummm… he was rude, entitled, dismissive and downright nasty. RTFT

Entitled because he didn't say "Thank you for my plate of veg, I hope you three enjoy your chops."? Fuck that.

Then don't read it AND comment on it then 😂😂😂😂

He could have said thank you for her efforts.
You could teach your dd that if there's not enough food to go round, what there is should be shared out equally. Its really not OK to just serve one person half a meal.

@BlackShoes Your Daughter is amazing and you are correct thank you should have been the only response. As a Mother of a child with Disabilities I would be shouting from the rooftops if my DD managed to cook a meal like your Daughter did and would eat every part and would ensure she knew how thankful we all were for the time and effort she had taken. You should be very proud of her.

Yes in normal circumstances but it sounds like H let the dog get the pork chop on his watch simply to be nasty so he could continue to find fault with her efforts.

In that case it's more than reasonable that he didn't get one.

Wow, your DH is awful. Sounded like you were describing the behavior of a small child. I bet he’s awful when he eats with friends too. IMO if anyone makes an effort to cook for you, you eat it, find something to compliment and say thank you. It’s just basic manners. The only exception would be if you’re in a restaurant and even then an adult should know how to complain about poor food without being a dick.

I think your daughter’s response was totally reasonable. She sounds great, and you’re doing a great job of raising someone who hopefully won’t end up with a manbaby like your DH. Sorry you’re in that position. Does he have any redeeming qualities?

@Sartre

Watch MasterChef junior from the USA, you will be shocked at what a 7 year old can do.

As for someone else taking over the playing - you don't know anyone with autism do you?

I would have had to get a nice juicy takeaway if I was the DH. You can’t withhold food from someone as a punishment.

Also not sure why everyone is hailing the DD as a feminist hero when she’s waiting on her brother for in that way.

The whole situation sounds miserable. OP or the DH needs to be supporting her with cooking until she learns how to portion and supervise the food.

Your DH was being nit picky and a bit mean. But honestly I get it because she doesn’t sound at all capable of preparing a meal for the family and the whole situation would stress me out.
you need to address how she speaks to her dad.
and unless she’s earned her own money and paid for the food, she doesn’t get to dictate who gets meat and who doesn’t. Nobody’s coming off great here.

Because I turn off the TV and eat dinner with my children?

You couldn't have cooked some veg and grilled a chop at 12?

This really isnt impressive. I know a lot of people think it is because they infantilise their children and dont give them any responsibility. I see it on mumsnet and with my kids' friends. Children here are treated like they cant do things and called amazing if they do a very simple task.

I wasn't born here. Maybe that's it. But british people raise their children very differently from a lot of other countries, so a 12 year old steaming a veg and grilling a chop is seen as incredible when it would be common place elsewhere.

Yes. Good for her.

Your DH is a twat.

I hope the son being served in his room really is a one off. If not then he's on the road to being just like his dad.

You are being sarcastic aren't you?

Her Dad coukd have just eaten it, she is 12 and cooking for the whole family and managed to do meat plus sides.

She. Is. 12.

Low bar?!

You nasty 🐶

what a waste of food

I don't think that the dog agrees

It is a low bar, in some cultures. A lot of other countries have their kids doing a lot more from a young age. British people dont really, if mumsnet is anything to go by.

A 12 year old grilling some chops and stealing some veg is really, really basic.

*steaming

Wow! Were you Mary Berry at her age?