To put opposite sex DC in same room?

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Going away for a week and there’s a double bedroom and a twin room. I was going to have the double (on my own, nice room with balcony etc) and put DS 17 and DD 13 in the twin but I’ve been told I can’t do that it’s weird.
If they had the choice they’d have separate rooms because they annoy each other as siblings do but they’d both want the double bed but the obvious option is for me to share the twin with DD but I know she’ll wake me where as DS is a heavy sleeper and the other room is lovely and wasted on DS 😁
AIBU to put them together?

I shared a room with my brother as kids as we lived in a 2 bed. Hardly entitled. But you go ahead and be a martyr, I guarantee it'll come back to bite you on the arse later.

They're siblings, of course they can share a room.
I assume you've paid for the holiday, then you get the nice double.
If DD wants some privacy she can use your room to get changed.
I really don't understand the shock /horror on MN when siblings are asked to temporarily share a room, it's a twin room fgs with twin beds 🙄

@hangrylady you now think being an adult entitles you to more comfort than anyone else...

No of course not. I just don't think a brother and sister sharing a room on holiday is in any way a big deal. Your going on as though the OP is luxuriating in a double room while the kids sleep on the floor. In reality they'll have a twin room, bathroom for privacy and a lovely holiday. Hardly a hardship for them is it?

Of course they can share a room.

I used to share a bed with my dad on holidays as a teenager - it was that or we didn't go away at all as the price would practically double otherwise. We both changed in the bathroom and nobody imploded or died of embarrassment.

It's fine.

@hangrylady but it is a hardship if they feel uncomfortable

Sharing a bed with your dad as a teenager is where I draw the line. A bed in the same room is one thing but sharing a bed when you could be on your period is not. God I'd be mortified if I'd leaked... no no no.

I’d leave it up to DD and say she can share twin with DB or share double bed with you. I’m assuming you’ve paid for the holiday, don’t give up your nice room.

And we all know that this will eventually turn into anger for being hated.... Terrible. Also like what message does this send to the daughters if they are supposed to fear own brothers

Meh, I can't say it ever bothered me.

My dad was a doctor though and very pragmatic about that kind of thing. I don't recall if it ever happened, but if it did, it clearly hasn't stood out to me as being particularly traumatic

A lot of hotels in Europe don't have twin beds - it's a double or nothing, so we often had no choice. We always had separate duvets (or asked for a spare one if it wasn't standard) though.

If my kids felt uncomfortable sharing a room under these circumstances then quite frankly I'd be questioning my own parenting. They're siblings, they live in the same house, they're not some random cousins or friends of friends. I guess we'll have to agree to disagree.

When you're the adult and you're paying for the holiday fucking right it does!!

My two still share a twin bedroom on holiday and they are 18 and 20! We stopped asking them to share a double bed a few years ago, and occasionally we manage to book a holiday cottage with three beds if it's a good price, but they don't question sharing a room.

I think it's fine!

I wouldn't give it a second thought tbh. It's not like it's permanent, they're on holiday. I used to share with male cousins on holiday in caravans etc.

Sorry to come back to a post so old but this response is disgusting!

Sexual abuse in families does happen. Luckily not in most families…thank for most family are loving and kind… but abuse is not nearly so rare as most people would like to believe. Sibling sexual abuse is the most common familial sexual abuse, particularly abuse by an older male to younger female sibling. Small children sharing or adult siblings sharing is not comparable to children of different ages sharing due to the deferring stages of development and differ into power in the relationship.

Sadly children aren’t always able to “rebuff” another child or sibling from abusing them. Particularly if that other child is older and able to manipulate, coerce or intimidate them.

No one is insinuating that anyone is “in to incest” they’re highlighting that in some situations siblings do abuse each other and it’s sensible for parents to be aware of that even if they eventually decide that their children can room share safely.

I think parents make decisions about room sharing based on their own situation, their own children ages personalities etc. I also recognise that room sharing will be the best or right option for some families. HOWEVER to pretend that the idea of sibling abuse is ridiculous is scarily ignorant and comments like yours (“most of the world aren’t into incest”) is why many people feel deep shame about abuse, don’t talk about abuse and why it is so well hidden.

Sorry to get on my high horse but that kind of comment really frustrates me. Regardless of anyones opinion on this particular situation please don’t belittle those who wish to raise aware of potential risks, especially when those people may we’ll be keen to share the POTENTIAL issues because of having experienced that type of abuse themselves.

@CloseYourEyesAndSee so if you don't pay for the holiday you're less important? Weird flex but ok

That's kind of common sense though is it not

If I was taken away on a holiday and didn't pay a penny towards it I wouldn't kick up a fuss if I didn't get the room with an en-suite

I shared a twin room in a hotel one night when we were 19 and 16 (so a little different). We bloody loved it and had a blast 🙈.

BUT if I’d have had to share a room with my then 21 year old sister we’d both had HAtED it as we’re such different people. I’d have done it but I feel the whole holiday would have felt tense.

They’ve already stated how much they’d dislike sharing so I don’t think it’s overly fair to make them. Giving up the “good” room is just what you do as a parent.

I don’t suppose there’s a living room with a sofa bed?

@AnnaFri it's not about the room with the en suite, it's about sharing a room with somebody you don't feel comfortable sharing with. It's supposed to be a holiday for them all, not with one of them dreading every time they go back to the hotel

It's not a 'flex' it's a fact
adult comfort is more important than children on a holiday (not a hardship) that the adult pays for.
no apologies for stating that!

Now you're projecting! Who said they would dread anything at all?

@CloseYourEyesAndSee so if there's a weird man leering at your daughter but you're enjoying sunbathing you stay sunbathing? Cool.

The whole initial point I made that you're arguing against is that they shouldn't have to share if either of them feel uncomfortable

Did you just compare a random perv with her own brother?

Honestly, what's wrong with some of you. No wonder there are so many fucked up kids.

@Bubblebubblebah no I'm talking about the fact that an adults comfort doesn't trump a child's, JFC...

I would also think it's quite reasonable that DH and I get a double and kids share the twin room, but apparently not?