To put opposite sex DC in same room?

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Going away for a week and there’s a double bedroom and a twin room. I was going to have the double (on my own, nice room with balcony etc) and put DS 17 and DD 13 in the twin but I’ve been told I can’t do that it’s weird.
If they had the choice they’d have separate rooms because they annoy each other as siblings do but they’d both want the double bed but the obvious option is for me to share the twin with DD but I know she’ll wake me where as DS is a heavy sleeper and the other room is lovely and wasted on DS 😁
AIBU to put them together?

I'm very sorry if something has happened to you in the past for you to have this view but to assume a teenage boy would do anything untoward in this situation is actually pretty sick. Yes it happens, but I choose not to live my life assuming the worst about men and boys. It must be exhausting.

Being patronising doesn't make you right and me wrong. Go ahead. I'll still be right.

I feel sad that you actually think you're right in this situation

Please seek some help

Many years ago, I had a boyfriend who confessed that he had groped his sister when they were sharing a bedroom. Nice middle class,professional family. He soon became an ex. So, no, I wouldn't have them sharing.

I wasn't trying to be patronising, but unless you have been personally affected I can't think of another reason why you would hold this view. I have grown up with good men, my dad, brother, numerous uncles, friends dads and brothers, who all had the opportunity to abuse me if they felt inclined. They didn't. You're wrong.

Yes, in a way we do. Worried that it will happen to other children. That it will be ignored by family members because it's just "unthinkable" and if you do think it's a possibility, you're sick for thinking it. The fact is that it does happen and more often than you probably think.

So to answer the OPs question no I wouldn't at those ages put them together. The age gap is too large, with DD being only just a teen and DS pretty much an adult. To all saying when I was twenty something I shared with my twenty something brother, that is entirely different.

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My 16 year old DD shared with my 14 year old DS on holiday and was more than happy to do so. They are respectful of each other's space/privacy, used the ensuite bathroom to change etc.

I wouldn't have been worried about my brother attacking me. I just would have been deeply unhappy as a self-conscious teenager with periods and bras and body hair having to share that space with my fucking brother. I love him but fuck, 13 year old me would have been miserable. I'd have sooner shared with my parents.

Not all teens are self conscious to the point they can't share a room with a fellow family member

As a teen, I was actually more uncomfortable sharing with my mother than male cousins FWIW. All teenagers are different.

Yes, I know.

This. I cant figure out why this would EVER be an issue.

It’s completely fine.

You'd be putting your dd at risk. Sorry, but that's how it is

Bloody hell, you win the prize for mad post of the day.

Mine are a bit younger 14 and 11 but I will be expecting them to share a room on holiday until they can afford to pay for themselves!

When you think of it like this. I guess it has to be this way other wise you with need to book another room £££.

In OPS case though it makes sense for her to share with DD just ask for 2 seperate beds or out split apart in hotels. That way they can get changed in the same room.

How odd, I can't see an issue at all, I used to travel with my brother for work when we were around 18ish and we used to share a twin.

Of course they share. It’s a non issue. Only on MN would this be a discussion. It’s a holiday, siblings share and if they bicker it’s not your problem. My three mixed sex teens share on holiday as do their mixed sex friends

Our dc have always shared a twin room on holiday, even as young adults. As long as neither of them are bothered what's the problem? There's a bathroom to change in 🤷🏼‍♀️

Of course it’s fine for them to share. Unless your DD strongly objects there’s no problem, they just have to sleep in shorts and t shirts

I think it depends on how well your dcs get on but as a young teen the 4 years between your dd and ds is greater than if they were 17 and 21. I'd look at whether they could sleep in the lounge on alternative nights if they didn't get on.

I would not want to be in your head.

Why does it only matter if the DD strongly objects?

We have just been away and DS18,DD15 and DS10 were all in one room. They took turns in the bathroom to get changed or shared our bathroom if theirs was occupied. Don't see the problem - it's family not a bunch of strangers.

What would you be expected to do if you were travelling with a partner? One child with each parent? Surely it's normal for siblings (even teens) to share on holiday, hardly any places I've been to with my DC have more than 2 bedrooms, unless you're booking a villa. Often it's a double room (for the adults) and twin beds/sofa beds in lounge. We didn't go abroad often, but the first time we did we (me, DSis, DB) shared the lounge area of a 1 bed apartment room (3 sofa beds) at 11, 12 and 15.

If it really doesn't work then DD could go in with you.