To put opposite sex DC in same room?

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Going away for a week and there’s a double bedroom and a twin room. I was going to have the double (on my own, nice room with balcony etc) and put DS 17 and DD 13 in the twin but I’ve been told I can’t do that it’s weird.
If they had the choice they’d have separate rooms because they annoy each other as siblings do but they’d both want the double bed but the obvious option is for me to share the twin with DD but I know she’ll wake me where as DS is a heavy sleeper and the other room is lovely and wasted on DS 😁
AIBU to put them together?

It's fine. Maybe offer your room to DD to get dressed in for privacy if she wants but honestly it's fine.

This is one of those threads that is such an eye opener. I can’t believe anyone would think this an issue! It’s not as though they are going to want to ogle their siblings, or flaunt their bits to their siblings.

Oh course siblings can share together on holiday. They’re siblings not friends etc

I think it would be really weird to give your son the double bed room with the lovely balcony whilst you and you dd bunk up together.

I mean I have shared a room with 8 yo ds whilst dd (13) had her own room on holiday, but that was where her room was a small single and ds and I were in a twin. So not such a disparity in room standard if that makes sense.

MN is a bit weird about this kind of thing, any child over 10 sharing a room with a different sex sibling is seen as wrong, I’ve just booked a hotel for me and my kids one 10 one 11 much younger I know but it wouldn’t even occur to me that this is an issue, people are really weird about this kind of thing I even seen someone say kids over 10 sharing a room “isn’t allowed” I think people think there is some kind of law on it

Also find it weird that anyone would think this is an issue. Of course they might be 'eurgh I don't want to share with my sibling' but that's because they're teenagers, and want their own space full stop, not because there's actually a mixed sex issue here. It's for a holiday not permanent. I had to share with my DB on holidays because my parents of course shared the double - we certainly didn't get the luxury of a room to ourself.

I don’t see the issue on holiday. Mine would. Who says it’s weird?

I don't think it's a big deal at all. I shared with my brother many times that age.

I’m not saying I’d 100% not have them sharing a room, but can people seriously not think of any reasons people might think separate rooms were a better option???

Personally I’d keep them separate if that’s what they said they wanted but op you know your kids best.

Just said on another thread, my dd 17 and ds 15 will share . I think you should have the nicest room as you are paying. They will be fine .

Is there an elephant in the room? I don't see it.

Absolutely no issue, put them together

Yes, they are way too old to share a room.

It's not a mumsnet things.

www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/in-the-home/sharing-a-bedroom/

"It's important to know there are laws in place to help make sure everyone's home is safe and comfortable. Legislation states that children of the opposite sex over the age of 10 should not share rooms - and that this can be considered overcrowding."

Yes but it's a holiday for a few days , not permanent. They don't need to be ever in breach of the others privacy or get changed in front of each other.

I shared with my brother when I was 20 and him 14 while on holiday, my dad was in the other room on the sofa bed and kept having to tell us to stop chatting till all hours. Yanbu if it all goes badly just switch, have a lovely holiday.

Who is paying for the holiday? You are the adult, your holiday as well.
They do as they are told.
They share and be reasonable and get on with it, and behave themselves.
You get the double.

The only issue I see is the bickering not the opposite sex thing.

They’ll have a bathroom they can use for dressing, and you can swap part way through if the bickering gets too much.

If you’re going to make a 17 year old boy share a bedroom with his sister you need to be scrupulous about giving him bathroom privacy. No knocking on the bathroom door telling him to hurry up or jokes about him having long showers etc.

Why don’t you just share the double with your daughter? Or put one of the single mattresses in there?

Oh my god, that means permanently in their home, not a bloody holiday! Who is this dense?

Holidays are usually overcrowded!

I once shared a hotel room with a friend that had glass walls for the bathroom and toilet, that was overcrowded! 😁

Has no one ever crammed lots of people into small spaces on holiday? Really? You generally only sleep there.

That’s for council housing, there is no law just laws to when someone becomes “entitled” to their own room IN A COUNCIL HOUSE the law you have quoted simply applies to council housing and even then it’s not against the law for them to share and they still have to wait on the list before a house becomes available!

And only if it’s a council house. And I know plenty of people in council houses with mix sex children sharing a room over 10 because the waiting lists are so long, they just become “entitled” To a room at that age doesn’t mean they get one.

There is some bizarre hysteria about teenage siblings of the opposite sex sharing. Mine are 18 and 14 and there is absolutely no problem with this. They have often shared on holiday and strangely seem to like it!! Unless they are for some reason going to fight like cat and dog, I don't get the problem. What does anyone think is actually hoping to happen? It is fine OP. Don't really know why uou need to ask?!

So I've just read some of the other responses and the world is just bonkers.... OF COURSE IT IS FINE. MOST OF THE WORLD IS NOT INTO INCEST FFS.... Even if the one of them were inclined to seriously try it (most unlikely...) I'm pretty sure there would be a pretty swift rebuff from the one 🤔

I shared with my younger brother when we were that age, not weird at all.