To put opposite sex DC in same room?

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Going away for a week and there’s a double bedroom and a twin room. I was going to have the double (on my own, nice room with balcony etc) and put DS 17 and DD 13 in the twin but I’ve been told I can’t do that it’s weird.
If they had the choice they’d have separate rooms because they annoy each other as siblings do but they’d both want the double bed but the obvious option is for me to share the twin with DD but I know she’ll wake me where as DS is a heavy sleeper and the other room is lovely and wasted on DS 😁
AIBU to put them together?

Who told you that it's weird and you can't do that?

We've recently come back from Spain.

My husband and I were in our room and the teenagers (one girl and one boy) were in the one next door.

It was no issue at all and they liked having their own room!

My son and daughter always shared. Never had any problems. They would change in a bathroom. They are 25 and 23 now, and still wouldn't mind bunking in together if they needed to. Honestly, why would it be a problem?

Provided they can get changed in private, eg in the bathroom or the other bedroom, it's absolutely fine.

The fact that they bicker is neither here nor there. Same sex siblings also bicker. It's tough.

Non-issue. It's a holiday. They should share.

My DC of different sexes have always shared on holiday, I don't think it is weird .

are people concerned a brother might touch up his sister or something? Just makes no sense to me

This is MN

Of course some posters are concerned about that

All men are rapists didn't you know?

Of course it's fine!

Mine always shared and we're not really bothered, DD moaned that DS snored but she managed!
Last time they were 21 and 23!
Not weird or wrong at all

That's housing law!!! It applies to what councils are allowed to offer to families where they have a housing duty, not to private family arrangements! Wow

I wouldn't. Awkward age for DD and potentially embarrassing for both of them. Twin for you I'm afraid.

No way would i put a 13year old girl in with her brother. I don’t think it’s fair on the 17 year old brother either. Would totally spoil the holiday for both of them as well as me. Just wouldn’t occur to me to do it. Quite surprised others think it’s ok, so that’s an eye opener for me - every days a school day, lol

No problem with that at all! They are kids and you're paying so they get to share a room and you get the nice big bedroom, they are siblings not strangers!

Keep the big bed/nice room for yourself.

Ours have always shared on holiday. They are now early teens, so like to be more private, but they have worked out ways around this eg changing in bathroom. The only exception is that occasionally we need to stay a night or two in a hotel with 2 doubles. In this situation mum shares with daughter, and dad with son.

We don't watch our kids 24 hours a day, so there would be plenty of opportunity for groping at home if they were so inclined (both would be horrified by the thought!). If anything holidays are safer as parents are always close by.

Just been away for 3 weeks and dd16 & ds13 shared a room no problem

One left the room when the other wanted to get dressed or they used the bathroom

I think realistically most teenagers - both girls and boys (find it quite funny that the poster didn't really think about the girl)- don't go that long without masturbating, it's pretty normal but there is absolutely no need to think about it particularly. The teenagers will sort themselves out without any help from their parents

So the mum, who is funding the holiday, had to share and let her teenage son swan about in his one rooms because some weird posters think he’s certain to abuse his sister?

How would it spoil the holiday? Presumably they live together at home so spend time together in the same room. As long as there’s privacy for changing and showering, which there will obviously be, then it’s completely fine. If anyone is actually worried that their son is a danger to their daughter, he really shouldn’t be allowed in the same house when at home!

Totally okay for them to share.

My DS shares with my niece - both over 18 years old.

They're siblings and it's for a few days on holiday. It's fine!

People saying it's inappropriate need to give their heads a wobble. My husband and his sister (both in their 40s) shared a room on a family holiday (I was elsewhere) this year, I suppose that's inappropriate and their 70-odd year old parents should be ashamed of themselves?

And wouldn’t occur to me not to. Doesn’t spoil the holiday a bit. They change in the bathroom and crack on with it. From what I can gather they eat snack, watch films and annoy each other occasionally. Normal and fine

Absolutely fine. My brother and I went to festivals and shared a tent similar ages. Definitely shared rooms on holiday too. If you were asking about them having to share a double bed that’s different but separate beds just for a short time, don’t even think about it.

I hope their son's don't know their own mothers consider them that... Imagine how that would fuck with someone's head

They’d be in the twin, without a seconds hesitation.

we all go camping together! I can assure you there aren’t tents big enough for separate rooms for us all plus separate bathrooms to change in! Standing under the awning in the raining dark whilst someone gets changed inside (illuminated in shadow by their torch for all to see!) is par for the course.

when we go away together as friends and family extended group the kids share dorms where they all sleep in the same space - or in all kinds of ages and combinations, they mostly sort themselves out, last year we had a room with 17y boy, 15y girl, and 8y boy, another with 15y boy and 9y girl amongst others, all at their own choice

I hope their son's don't know their own mothers consider them that... Imagine how that would fuck with someone's head

One of my DS(15)s friends has a mother like that. Shes a bit bonkers generally and has always treated him oddly, but she’s instilled (brainwashed) into him since he was young that all girls and women will be afraid of him and that he should never be alone with any female or he’ll end up in prison. She’s fucked him up so badly he practically started crying after he reflexively/automatically reached out to save DD(8) from falling on her face onto concrete after she tripped running past him and DS. Apologised repeatedly for touching her, kept asking if she was okay, etc. The kid needs therapy but his mother will keep brainwashing him into believing he’s a problem just because he’s male.