To put opposite sex DC in same room?

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Going away for a week and there’s a double bedroom and a twin room. I was going to have the double (on my own, nice room with balcony etc) and put DS 17 and DD 13 in the twin but I’ve been told I can’t do that it’s weird.
If they had the choice they’d have separate rooms because they annoy each other as siblings do but they’d both want the double bed but the obvious option is for me to share the twin with DD but I know she’ll wake me where as DS is a heavy sleeper and the other room is lovely and wasted on DS 😁
AIBU to put them together?

Like 75% of my friends grew up like that. Including me. This thread is just another head scrather about uk tbh.

According to pp that's illegal 😆

Too old to share. I'd share the double with your dd unless she kicks then the twin it is.

@Whowhatwherewhenwhynow you and others have failed to see the point OP was making. What is your solution?

I see what your saying.... we all do. What erks me is that some people don't have extra £££ to shell out on another hotel room just like that and considering it's just for a week or 2 what other choice is their?

OP has a choice granted so as stated prior..I would share with my DD if it were me.

I often go away me and DS there's just us 2 he's only 7. I don't have the funds to be booking 2 separate rooms so whilst it's not the most ideal it's TOUGH unless he stated he doesnt wish to holiday with me any longer!

This thread has now turned into some potential sexual abuse thread. Christ........ and to the poster who pointed out that's it's all about DDs feelings it's true I'm sure the boy also ideally would like his own room.....mean while in the real world!

You laugh but couple of weeks ago I had to explain to foreign family they don't need to take on rent which would mean no spare money at all to provide 2 bedrooms for their 13 and 11 year olds. They thought they will have them taken off because they were told (or misunderstood) sharing over certain age is illegal.😳 New arrivals to UK, got some cultural shock tbh. I don't think they will stay long....

Fyi it was common questiom on some immigrant forums few years ago because it is put to them kind of like "this is what you do or ss comes"

Why would anyone want their daughter to put up with a brother having a wet dream?
I mean, really, can you not see that is just gross.

Is thos new version of if you cannot afford them, don't have them?

Jesus Christ

Some on here need a mental health intervention

That's when the chastity belts come into play of course

Because you can never be too careful

No, I do not need a mental health intervention. I am stating quite calmly that incest was once very common in communities. Large families where siblings had to share due to lack of space inevitably led to such things. There are many scholarly works on the subject.
It's why there is Environmental Health legislation which specifically mentions 'moral overcrowding' i.e. the situation where 2 people of the opposite sex and not in a sexual relationship are obliged to share a bedroom, it's why allocations policies in local authorities award priority for an extra bedroom to families where 2 siblings of opposite sex are sharing a bedroom and one reaches the age of 10. It's why allocations policies often include priority where 2 siblings of the same sex, where one becomes 16 are awarded extra bedroom priority, because adults are worthy of privacy.
As I said in my first post, I had a nice middle class boyfriend who confessed to me that he had groped his sister when they shared a bedroom as teens. As a working class girl who lived in a council house and hadn't had to share a room with my brother, I found that gross.
So no, I wouldn't have put a boy and girl in the same room, because, sadly, abuse or discomfort can happen.

I think some posters may have their own issues in overdrive If this is what your mind goes to when it's suggested a brother and sister share a bedroom then I worry for the mental load that person is carrying!

As said before thousands of siblings of opposite sex share rooms - not beds as a previous poster claimed was happening - every single day due to not having enough bedrooms at home, let alone for a two week holiday.

That is not gross, inappropriate or anything bad. It's just real life.

I think you are extrapolating a huge amount from my comments, which is just not the case.
We clearly have different opinions and that is fine. You are happy with a situation ; I wouldn't do it. That's fine. I wouldn't put another person in a situation that I wouldn't want to be in, That's fine.
Posters often talk about 'boundaries', I have mine you have yours, that's fine.
What I do find upsetting is the idea that you can believe me to be mentally unwell and have 'issues' because I have those beliefs.
My desire for privacy is not founded on being abused by a sibling, because that never happened.
I just would not want, and have never, shared a bedroom with any teen or adult male , if we were not in a sexual relationship. Hence, I would not place another female in that situation.
We have different boundaries.
I shall now bow out of this discussion.

Some people’s minds! I don’t think it’s the teen brothers of these girls we need to be worrying about, it’s the adults and their sick minds.

Teen siblings sharing a room on holiday are most likely to involve lots of staying up late watching films, mess being made, sleeping til the afternoon, laughing, piss taking, bickering and ‘banter’. Normal teen sibling stuff.

There’s a bathroom/shower for any privacy needs. Teens can ‘manage’ their own bodies. Ffs.

Hahahahaha how nice it must be to be able to just "book another room" as though the cost is immaterial.

Correct. That’s exactly what sharing s room between mixed sex siblings on holiday is like but the mess, omg the mess. Why is it so much worse than at home.

Oh the mess....

DS who is 14 had definitely lost his beach towel. Absolutely definitely lost it at the pool. So asked at reception, the bar, the cleaning staff. Nowhere to be found

Except he hadn't lost it at all, it was festering in the massive pile of clothes he and his sister had created.

No I wouldn't let teen siblings of opp sex share a room.

My two DD 15 and Ds 19 shared for a fortnight this summer . No issues and both respected each others privacy for changing ect. I did ask both seperatly if they would prefer to share with DH and me ie same sex parent but apparently that was a gross thought 🤣. I think it's fine if you check they are happy .

Some of the comments are hideously offensive.
Yes, some sexual abuse may occur in families I’m not denying that, but this is rare and is not common and to assume any teenage boy would be a risk to his sister is disgusting.

I’ve happily shared with my brothers. It wouldn’t even cross my mind that it would be a “risk”. Actually makes me feel sick to my stomach thinking it.

Even the comments about giving the boy space to have a wank are ridiculous. They’re not so out of control they need to desperately wank.

Bizarre.

I thought the comment about needing a wank was ridiculous. Any one of the parties might equally want a wank, and have to restrain themselves until the holiday was over.

I didn't say you were mentally unwell. I said that issues must be at play to consider siblings sharing a bedroom for a week's holiday as inappropriate. I stand by the fact that the vast majority of people wouldn't have any issues with this and it is, Infact, something that happens every day for thousands of people all over the world, not just for holidays but often as their normal living arrangements.

Thank you. You put that a lot better than I did. If you see one person's response to mine, they say they are glad they don't have to live in my head. Be glad.

Childhood abuse colours my entire life. I work hard on it and am actually not as affected by another sibling it happened to but this type of trauma lasts a lifetime. I'm so very glad it doesn't happen to everyone and will speak up about risk to lessen the potential it happens to anyone else. Part of the problem is the attitude by some that it doesn't happen and you're sick (and somehow desire it to happen) if you think it does.

YABU. You share with your dd