Women blocked on DH What's App

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Feel sick to my stomach writing this. Currently on holiday with DH and 3DC. DH went to the shop and left his phone on the table. I never go near his phone but I checked it.

No messages on what's app or text messages that were suspicious. Nothing on his email in the inbox sent or archived.

On his Whats App contacts there were three female contacts I don't know. One was a picture of a girl and her name the other two were saved under initials and they were in lingerie but couldn't see their faces with suggestive emoji after their name. He had them all blocked and no conversations.

I don't know what to do. I've never ever doubted him. He works really hard for our family. He's loving affectionate and attentive towards me.

You can see names and photos without having the person in your contacts, it will be much the same as when you get scam texts, calls, emails, etc. He's blocked them because he doesn't want scam messages I'd assume.

You’d put the phone number in so you can block.

This simply isn't true.

OP this thread is full of falsehoods and wrong information, written by people who clearly have no idea what they are talking about.

Think about it. Which is more likely? That your partner of 20 years, who has given you no cause for concern, has suddenly started seeing sex workers or, like the vast majority of people with a phone, he has simply received some spam messages and blocked them.

Google the phone numbers.

The last few weeks I've had several women in lingerie message me on WhatsApp with suggestive messages and a few blokes with supercars as profile pics trying to get me to invest.

I blocked them and didn't mention it to my DH cause its obviously spam.

One of my daughters must be on some list because there have been times that she has received a dozen spam calls a day.

She blocks everything and has been very careful with her number and doesn't really bother with SM.

Can't figure it out.

Blocked spam accounts.

And yeah sure you don't look at his phone 😂

@OneTC, Don't know what you find so funny. If you read my previous post you would see that I have been unwell lately so feeling quite low. We are together 24 years and he is my best friend and have never had an ounce of doubt..

Thanks everyone for the reassuring posts. I'm going to ask DH.

They could be spam accounts

WhatsApp spam is a thing. It's very common if you use your mobile for business.

Then why check his phone

What you've done is such a breach of trust, I'd leave in his shoes.

I honestly wouldn’t worry, I have had this from males (clearly spamming) I blocked them straight away.

If my husband decided to invade my privacy yes

It's a huge breach of trust and controlling to boot

Well this thread has either highlighted why so many people fall for scams, or is full of people just wanting to cause unnecessary drama for the OP.

I have nothing to hide but would be very unimpressed if my OH decided to check my phone and even more unimpressed if they then felt the need to question me because some random MN posters encouraged it.

Sending kind thoughts op.

It makes sense if you have any idea how WhatsApp works

Just asked DH, he said they are spam and he blocks them straight away. He offered to unblock them, message them and ring them to show they are spam. He reassured me that I'm the only one for him and he loves me and our family more than anything. He wasn't angry I checked his phone as he understands what I've being going through the last while.

Thank you for all your support and reassurances mumsnetters.

@Thisdoesnotendwell, No not me.

I’m glad you believed re spambots because I’ve had several of the same.

However I do hope you’re seeking counselling and taking responsibility for your MH. Mental illness is not an excuse to be controlling.

It doesn’t look good but I’ve had women (I’m female and straight) add me on WhatsApp in groups and ask me if I want to pay to watch them masturbate. No idea how they have my number but I’ve had to block 4 people so far.

I am glad it was nothing, but this is really controlling behaviour. I hope you are receiving therapy and help for your mental health.

Whatever