Women blocked on DH What's App

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Feel sick to my stomach writing this. Currently on holiday with DH and 3DC. DH went to the shop and left his phone on the table. I never go near his phone but I checked it.

No messages on what's app or text messages that were suspicious. Nothing on his email in the inbox sent or archived.

On his Whats App contacts there were three female contacts I don't know. One was a picture of a girl and her name the other two were saved under initials and they were in lingerie but couldn't see their faces with suggestive emoji after their name. He had them all blocked and no conversations.

I don't know what to do. I've never ever doubted him. He works really hard for our family. He's loving affectionate and attentive towards me.

I set my Instagram to private as I kept getting random accounts following me and trying to engage... they were all young women in lingerie, pouting and suggestive poses. I blame my masculine name!!

I've had a couple of these and I'm very obviously female - all along the lines of 'hey big boy / sexy guy' etc. Blocked them straight away. Sometimes the contact detail has been initials instead of full names.

How's he got their numbers is my question?

Same here. Half naked woman messaged asking if I wanted to go on a bike ride with her then a few days later a different one asked me to play golf!!
They are in my blocked contacts now so could be something similar.

He won't need to have "got their numbers". They will be spam messages from WhatsApp scammers that he does not know.

He has literally blocked and deleted them, I'm not sure what else he should have done.

Remove your WhatsApp pic and add them on your contacts, message them saying

"Hi it's "DH Name" x "

See what they say, I would.

No, don't do this. Engaging with scammers isn't going to enlighten you in any way at all.

@middleofthelittle You need to get more tech savvy if you use any social media or messaging at all. Strangers contacting people in WhatsApp either phishing or pretending to be someone else in order to scam money is ridiculously common.

Suggestive emotes in their WhatsApp names? Could they be sex workers he has previously used OP?

@Octomore

You have no idea if they're scammers. Complete guess they could be local sex workers.

Scammers can't do anything If you message them and then block and delete IF they are scammers.

Not sure why this is a red flag for you

Tbh you checking his phone is a far bigger issue

Sexstortion scams and general fake accounts are common on WhatsApp. They put a sexy picture on, and try to send messages.

If you get the message from an unknown number on WhatsApp you can block and not accept, hence the no conversation history

Telling them that yours is a valid phone number will guarantee you receive plentiful spam for years to come..... enjoy!

Scam accounts wouldn’t be saved, especially under just initials and with suggestive emojis (what grown man saves numbers like that anyway?), maybe they started as scammers messaging him but there’s clearly more to it!

Ive got people blocked on WhatsApp for innocent reasons but they are either a name, or most likely just a number as I never had their number or deleted it when I blocked them. Why would I need the number of a random creep saved in my phone? Especially not as “JP 🍆” or something equally gross.

Personally I’d unblock them the next time he’s out for a bit and just message hi and see the responses but then I’ve been hurt in the past so I’m pessimistic about things like this. It doesn’t sound good to me OP, sorry x

@middleofthelittle

He doesn't have to have their numbers

Ffs this thread is a crash course in online illiteracy

They will be spam accounts. Please don’t worry xx

i have loads I’ve blocked x

My ex husband had a phone number blocked but he had dialled it and it didn't make sense to me either. I called the number and found out it was someone he had told he was a single father to and that he was trying it on with the woman. After speaking to her, that was the final nail in the coffin and now he's my ex husband.

I say trust your instincts, it doesn't feel right for a reason.

I add people to my contacts so I can block them from contacting me completely. Otherwise you just block them on WhatsApp and it doesn't stop them texting you.

Like others I’ve had a few scam accounts try and contact me on WhatsApp and I just block them. Sounds like that’s what your DH has done.

There’s a reason you checked his phone though, you need to work out why and work on that. 20 years in our relationship and I’ve never felt the need to check his devices and vice versa.

I've had several WhatsApp messages from what appears to be Asian sexy bot women, asking when we're next meeting/if I can send them money. I block them every time.

This has happened about 6 times in 2 years. It could be that.

I get these they are random spam accounts, I block them.

I was pretty sure that you could only see a profile pic in WhatsApp if both parties had the other saved.
why would the names come up as contacts rather than just the number if they had not been saved in his phone?

I dont know the answers but I would try and find this stuff out and then keep an eye on things. I’m sorry OP. I would be feeling uneasy too.

Because that's how these scams work

You do see the pictures and it comes up with the name they've saved themselves as on WhatsApp

That's not true.

Also, adding people isn't necessarily dodgy. Like I said above, I add people to my phone contacts then block them, so they can't contact me via phone, text OR WhatsApp.

You can set your profile pic to be viewable by everyone, and the emojis and names will be ones they've set themselves. I just got a message the other day from 'Jessica'. I blocked the account. I am not having an affair with Jessica.

Both me and DH get slightly dodgy messages from scantily clad women from time to time, we always instantly block them. I wouldn't worry about this at all, his phone number is probably just on a list somewhere

With phishing scammers, sometimes if you block them, that tells them its a 'live' number (they send out messages to tons of numbers, not all of which will be live, have whatsapp etc etc). So then they may try to text the number instead.

So the work around for that is to save them as a contact then block on your phone as well as whatsapp - we've had to do it at work as we work via whatsapp, and at one point the person who looks after the 'work phone' (literally used for the whatsapp and nothing else but has to be kept charged, but we all log in via our computers) was finding the phone was pinging endlessly with spam from whatsapp phishing we'd blocked only on whatsapp.