To think this is unnecessary and a bit braggy?

[ThingInTheAttic]

Mum in my son's year whom I'm Facebook friends with has posted a gushing congratulations message to her DS on his GCSE results, details of said results and how proud she is of him etc etc.
The DS lives in the same house. She can literally just speak to him and tell him how proud she is, as I've done with mine. I can't therefore see any reason for posting to him on Facebook, other than it's a stealth brag.
I get that some people have hoards of RL friends/relatives all over the world etc and FB is a then a good way to let them all know family news, but she isn't in that situation.
She does tend to do this for every single thing the DS does well, and
I fully accept I may just be old and out of touch with how people use FB as I'm not one to splash every bit of my life all over it. I just don't get why she address congratulations to the DS? Just tell him to his face

You don't need to give someone's name to tear them down. As I was saying to some stupid ugly cow I hate just last week.

I thought this was fairly standard. It’s not nice to be begrudging. You are choosing to engage with this stuff.

Always makes me feel depressed at the life my children could have had if they didn't have they're disabilities. No GCSES for them I would be greatful if they could just read and write.

YABU
Its not up to you what someone else posts on their social Media. You can choose to unfollow or unfriend but not sensor.
I have several people who I regularly snooze when I dont want to see it, and Im sure Im that person to others, and thats fine.

Well I'm bursting with pride with my son's results, with his permission (because he's bursting with pride, after doubting himself) I posted my congratulations on Facebook. Have loved seeing my friends posts too.
They have had a tough time and deserve a public well done 👏

@MummyInTheNecropolis

This.

I'm guilty of this - the reason is I’m no contact with my abusive parents and siblings - their choice not mine and they refuse to speak to the children. I don’t have family support and my child’s father and this family have never seen her or had anything to do with her so I don’t get those couple moments of relaxing and having a family moment of celebration. If I don’t use Facebook no one knows or asks and you don’t like to ring someone and say how were x’s gcse results in case they didn’t go well.

maybe if my parents were interested I might not but I am proud and Facebook sadly is one of my support networks

Both my girls have got their GCSE's results today,yes I put up a post about how proud of them I am and how proud I am they've achieved this in spite of Ill health;do I care one bit about what other people think of this?

If people don't like it;tough luck;it's really nice for my DD's to read the lovely messages people have left on the post for them;they've both had a really crappy couple of years and they deserve the praise.

You aren't guilty of anything @Hopeandlove, it's a fairly normal thing to do. Nothing wrong with showing your proud of your children.

Don't hate, congratulate!! 😁

#BeKind

It’s not a “stealth brag” it’s just a brag.

The way it is expressed is just a writing convention used in social media. You must have learned about that sort of thing in school- varying your style to make it more interesting to the reader? Your version is a bit plodding.

Why do you have people who are only "friends" on there, especially given you hold them in such contempt?

I don't know if the OP feels this way but I sure do.

To clarify, I would be unlikely to post something similar and I don’t enjoy reading them really, but it’s not the writing style that is the issue.

I rarely post anything on FB. However, most of my FB friends think I never post on FB as I have only accepted their friend request to be polite but they are not in any of my posting groups.

why do people post anything on social media then?

I know what you mean OP. Its like the "Thank you so much to my hubby for taking me out to x restaurant for my birthday" posts. I often think about writing "Oh sorry I didn't realised you weren't living together" underneath. Otherwise surely you could just turn and thank him yourself, he is sitting next to you.

Instead one cold write, "Had a lovely birthday, we went to x restaurant and the food is amazing" #makingmemories #soblessed #familytime #iambetterthanyou #icaretoomuchwhateveryonethinks

If you don’t like it, hide them, unfriend them or scroll by.

Oh, I just love AIBU 😅
I am jealous.
And mean-spirited.
Despite the fact I've already said I'm happy for him & I like both the mum & DS in RL.
It mildly grates on me, yes. I get that I'm a pedant, and I don't see the point of addressing congratulations to someone on a public forum when you are literally standing next to them, but casually asking whether any other people find it irritating hardly makes me jealous and mean-spirited. If you want to tell everyone on FB about it, then just address it to everyone?
I'm not jealous. My son got ten A*. And yes, I think that if I went on FB and posted 'Congratulations (son's name) I'm so proud of you for getting TEN A STARS today, blah blah' he'd have forty fits.

The "open letter" is a very old literary device. Think of all those love poems actually addressed to someone!

I like it one because I’m nosy! And two to celebrate I was just as proud to post my Ds2 getting his hard worked for 4 in Maths as I was for DS1s mainly 9s

Despite the fact I've already said I'm happy for him & I like both the mum & DS in RL.

Well yes, you SAY that, but what you DO is start mean spirited threads about them.

My son got ten A. And yes, I think that if I went on FB and posted 'Congratulations (son's name) I'm so proud of you for getting TEN A STARS today, blah blah' he'd have forty fits.*

How many does he have when you post it here?

I don’t use Facebook because it’s full of people doing that and it’s not for me. I use mumsnet, it’s anonymous and that suits me because I’m quite a private person or at least don’t want my life too much online.

I do roll my eyes a bit when I hear of couples that live together wishing each other happy birthday on there, or telling their 3 year old that they love them to the moon and back, when they can’t read and aren’t on Facebook! But that’s just me being a bit intolerant really because they’re not doing any harm, as long as they’re communicating this stuff to people in real life too.

They probably are bragging but that’s what a lot of humans do. Someone did presume that our son hadn’t done well in his GCSEs when he did them because his dad didn’t put them on Facebook. They genuinely couldn’t get their head around the idea that someone wouldn’t post results. They even asked to see his results when they visited, I think they thought we were lying. 😬

Sometimes you read these things and it’s sweet, sometimes it’s annoying - I can’t really point my finger on it what it is. I think some people just give up braggy and boastful vibes and sometimes people are genuinely happy sharing.