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CF Have come to stay - The morning after

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SeriouslyLosingTheWill · 19/08/2022 22:33

The first thread is full so I'll start a new one, in case there is a dramatic update in the morning.

I actually feel emotionally drained right now. I keep almost crying. Pathetic. Probably the wine thats doing that.

I'll be going to bed shortly and i'll update tomorrow if theres anything to add. I reckon they will be up early and go quietly though.

They don't drive a ford ranger (I remember that thread! haven't looked at a ford ranger driver the same since!) Its a bmw something or other.

Dp cleared up the kitchen and 1 dc (dd19) came down and helped, so thats all good. She then came out, gave me a little hug and said DP had explained about the food. She then lit up and offered me a cigarette (WTF! I don't smoke and although had an inkling wasn't sure she did) and said no ones perfect, everyone has failings. Honestly i'm in a parallel universe tonight.

Dp has put most of the beers away in the garage, just left in the fridge what was there. I do wonder if they will take them home.

Heres the first one if anyone wants to catch up as not sure I can give a proper summery right now www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4614982-cf-have-come-to-stay-how-to-handle-it?page=23&reply=119364945

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Rainbowqueeen · 20/08/2022 00:04

Well done OP.

I really hope that one day they look back on their behaviour and are mortified. Also that people in their day to day lives set them straight on what they have done wrong here.

Im sure they will head off in the morning. Bite your tongue on saying your usual “it was lovely to have you” and instead tell them to travel safe.

Then have a takeaway dinner and finish off the wine.

Itsbritneybitch22 · 20/08/2022 00:07

Wow can’t get over them spending so much money when they thought you was paying and then saying they wouldn’t have if they was paying 😩

So rude!

Scaredypup · 20/08/2022 00:13

Hope they leave early for you

Alexandria94 · 20/08/2022 00:18

Hope the morning goes smoothly for you, OP 🤞

Ellmau · 20/08/2022 00:19

Good luck getting rid of them tomorrow.

If they start being difficult about the money, say calmly but firmly, I think you need to leave now.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 20/08/2022 00:20

SeriouslyLosingTheWill · 19/08/2022 23:44

I went to bed but can't sleep.

I just wanted to say a massive thank you to everyone who commented and everyone who said some really lovely things about me. You have no idea how much this means to me right now.

I doubt myself so much and over so many things, and I have other things going on in life at the moment like we all do, and this was just a small few days of my life, but having this anonymous band of amazing people having my back is just something that I really really needed right now and is something I can never forget. You helped me shape what I needed and wanted to do. It was the kick up the backside we probably all need from time to time. At least I know I do.

I do feel a little bit like a hero inside. It might be fleeting, and it might be insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but thank you so so much for that lift I obviously so badly needed.

Its boosted me in more ways than you can imagine. Even if its just for a little while, I have that now. I can do this life stuff. I've got it. No more silly doubts and thats going to spill over into other stuff I have to deal with. I honestly feel so thankful to everyone of you.

So just thank you.

You forgot, "You're my best mates, you are!" while holding a wine bottle by the neck & waving it about vaguely (& swaying slightly).😂🍾

Booklover3 · 20/08/2022 00:21

Good luck for the morning

Trudij123 · 20/08/2022 00:23

@SeriouslyLosingTheWill you're brilliant - and how fabulous to have a husband and child that is just as great when needed!! Hope they clear out as soon as possible

MojoMoFo · 20/08/2022 00:23

I've read your previous post (and this one) OP and have been astounded at the CFery, selfishness of them! Shock
You are my hero 🦸‍♀️ and I'm so glad you were able to say how you felt. Never in a million years would I act like they have! Just horrid...
Hoping the two of them bugger off sharpish in the morning and never darken your door again FlowersFlowersFlowers

Cherrysherbet · 20/08/2022 00:23

Well done op. I’m so glad you stood up to these cf’s. Just can’t believe people would behave this way. You sound like such a kind, lovely person.
Good luck for the morning.

Cj19877 · 20/08/2022 00:23

Well done OP, you and DH have been 'couple goals' tonight. Be firm in the morning and don't let them push their luck any further!

JinxandBinx · 20/08/2022 00:23

This is one of the best threads I have ever read, and I want someone to make a tv show out of it so I can see CF faces drop 😂😂

dropthevipers · 20/08/2022 00:24

If they have any shame at all they will sneak off before dawn. However, I would make sure the family silver is in your bedroom.

Depopdee · 20/08/2022 00:25

OP you sound like such a lovely person and your family sounds great. You did so well to stand up for yourself, I know how hard it can be, especially when other stuff feels wobbly. Kudos to you!

LemonTeacake · 20/08/2022 00:25

HAHA what you did was bloody brill!!!
god how do some people get the nerve hey

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 20/08/2022 00:30

Well done OP!👏👏👏

uncomfortablydumb53 · 20/08/2022 00:34

I tried to post on the first thread after your update... Cheeky twats You were great speaking up so well done
The comments made as she went upstairs shows her true colours
She wouldn't have wasted her money but has been eating your food!
I wouldn't even bother with pleasantries in the morning... They haven't! Tell them to piss off and take their clubcard points with them.

MissConductUS · 20/08/2022 00:34

I've just skimmed the first thread. Brilliant move with the shopping. People can only take advantage of you if you let them.

User8273738273737 · 20/08/2022 00:38

I can’t wait for the morning!!!!

AgathaPastie · 20/08/2022 00:40

Caroffee · 19/08/2022 22:59

The C stands for 'cheeky'.

Hopefully you can now work out what the 'f' stands for.

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Cheeky fillet?

RenegadeMatron · 20/08/2022 00:41

Well done OP - they are next level CFs.

Good luck for the morning.

Flumpaphone · 20/08/2022 00:41

Just wanted to say we'll done OP. OK I'm also shamelessly placemarking

But I also wanted to say as I've got older I've found myself giving less of a shit about the consequences of speaking up and saying what is right for me. Done with thoughtfulness the consequences are rarely terrible and people tend to respect you more

AgathaPastie · 20/08/2022 00:43

They probably used the early night to line up another place to stay.
They sound fucking vile and should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves

treesandweeds · 20/08/2022 00:46

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treesandweeds · 20/08/2022 00:47

I'll believe when you post the £103 receipt also.