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CF Have come to stay - The morning after

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SeriouslyLosingTheWill · 19/08/2022 22:33

The first thread is full so I'll start a new one, in case there is a dramatic update in the morning.

I actually feel emotionally drained right now. I keep almost crying. Pathetic. Probably the wine thats doing that.

I'll be going to bed shortly and i'll update tomorrow if theres anything to add. I reckon they will be up early and go quietly though.

They don't drive a ford ranger (I remember that thread! haven't looked at a ford ranger driver the same since!) Its a bmw something or other.

Dp cleared up the kitchen and 1 dc (dd19) came down and helped, so thats all good. She then came out, gave me a little hug and said DP had explained about the food. She then lit up and offered me a cigarette (WTF! I don't smoke and although had an inkling wasn't sure she did) and said no ones perfect, everyone has failings. Honestly i'm in a parallel universe tonight.

Dp has put most of the beers away in the garage, just left in the fridge what was there. I do wonder if they will take them home.

Heres the first one if anyone wants to catch up as not sure I can give a proper summery right now www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4614982-cf-have-come-to-stay-how-to-handle-it?page=23&reply=119364945

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custardbear · 20/08/2022 09:12

Holy shit! I've only read your comments but FFS how rude of them and clearly they're professionals at it so guess they've done this to others too - perhaps you're the ex-family victims as the family know their game!
Is your DH going to speak to his ex wife?

3ShotsOfEspresso · 20/08/2022 09:13

StarCourt · 20/08/2022 08:51

Why does everyone suddenly think this is made up?

Because some jerk wrote this thread about it. www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4615300-to-wonder-why-people-believe-any-old-shit-on-here

Meltingsocks · 20/08/2022 09:14

Wow OP!

Have they left yet??

BettyBootsie · 20/08/2022 09:16

I wonder will they have the brass neck to NOT leave and try to stay longer?! 😮

ArabellaDrummond · 20/08/2022 09:19

Omg OP I am so so proud of you! I think you have handled this amazingly - you definitely have more patience than me! Please don’t doubt yourself 💐

ArabellaDrummond · 20/08/2022 09:19

Omg OP I am so so proud of you! I think you have handled this amazingly - you definitely have more patience than me! Please don’t doubt yourself 💐

pictish · 20/08/2022 09:22

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WitchDancer · 20/08/2022 09:22

I think you handled it really well last night. You must have been channeling your inner Mumsnet! I hope they leave quietly today without being nasty, you deserve nothing less Flowers

Creepymanonagoatfarm · 20/08/2022 09:23

Imo the Grande Finale is that they aren't relatives and there really is absolutely no need to ever clap eyes on them again!!

LookItsMeAgain · 20/08/2022 09:24

notanothertakeaway · 20/08/2022 08:13

I think it was a bit cheeky to send them out to buy a list of specified food. I would have asked them to pick up "something for dinner"

But, they have had 4 nights food and accommodation for £100. That' £12.50 per person per night. So they did get a good deal

Maintain the moral high ground. Don't hide the croissants

Eh, what's that now?

The OP didn't send them out with a list to buy specialised food. They suggested the steak and the OP agreed that it would make a nice meal.
The rest of the stuff they bought themselves (probably expecting to take whatever was left over home with them today).

Maintain the moral high ground??? The OP did that perfectly last night. The croissants are a 'thank you' for putting up with our crappy behaviour over the past few days, so the OP is allowed to consume them (as a middle of the night snack) or whatever she wants to do.

Her freeloading guests can have toast.

SapphosRock · 20/08/2022 09:25

I know it's not the point of the thread but I salute people who work full time, have DC yet still have the time, energy and resources to host guests for multiple nights without taking annual leave.

I can barely find the time to see my closest family and friends when I'm working, let alone have strangers to stay.

OP - hope you are having a nice lie in. Perhaps see if DH or DC can bring you a croissant in bed?

CaveMum · 20/08/2022 09:26

Billybagpuss · 20/08/2022 08:22

She then lit up and offered me a cigarette (WTF! I don't smoke and although had an inkling wasn't sure she did

there are days in politics known as a good day to bury bad news. Death of Diana, 9/11 etc OP DD heading for pm?

In the US they refer to it as “take out the trash day”, usually a Friday as they know a lot of people don’t read newspapers at the weekend.

A recent case in point is the release of Brian Laundrie’s “confession” to murdering Gabby Petito on the same day of the Supreme Court’s Roe v Wade ruling.

starfishmummy · 20/08/2022 09:27

Piccy · 20/08/2022 06:56

Probably, but I'm enjoying it anyway!

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Exactly.
I had a friend who used to tell us the most fantastical stories. We all knew they were a load of rubbish (and she probably knew we knew) but they were very entertaining!!

theviewfrommywindow · 20/08/2022 09:27

Wow, just wow! So, have they gone? Unbelievable CFery!

Aklop · 20/08/2022 09:28

Looking forward to the morning update OP :)

gettingalife · 20/08/2022 09:28

Please tell us they've now left. And not taken the food/beers with them.

You've handled it brilliantly, well done OP!

gettingalife · 20/08/2022 09:29

Please tell us they've now left. And not taken the food/beers with them.

You've handled it brilliantly, well done OP!

Pompom2367 · 20/08/2022 09:29

Hope it all goes ok op

KitKat1985 · 20/08/2022 09:31

Have they buggered off yet? I need to know!

HoneyFlowers · 20/08/2022 09:33

Good luck getting these idiots out. Years ago I had a friend stay who was very bad mannered. She arrived slightly early and I had two friends just leaving, she stood at the door talking to them for an hour!!! She didn't know them from Adam, it was so embarrassing! She just couldn't get the hint to shut up and let them go.

I said she could use any of my toiletries, I wasn't prepared for her to empty a brand new bubble bath just for herself.

She kept over stepping boundaries, for example coming into mine and husband's bedroom first thing in the morning when we were still asleep.

If I was in the bedroom getting dressed and door was closed, she'd just walk in and not knock.

She followed me everywhere around the house!

We came back from a walk, baby had poo'd nappy, friend said she was hungry so I said okay you can make yourself a sandwich whilst I sort baby out, she said she wanted me to make her lunch.

She's never been invited around again. I remember when she left I stood on pavement waving her off up the street and then car went out of vision and I stood there for about another five minutes as had a vision she was going to return!!!

LookItsMeAgain · 20/08/2022 09:33

Give her a chance 😁She's probably still asleep...check back after 10am (UK time) 😆

Tandora · 20/08/2022 09:33

LookItsMeAgain · 20/08/2022 09:24

Eh, what's that now?

The OP didn't send them out with a list to buy specialised food. They suggested the steak and the OP agreed that it would make a nice meal.
The rest of the stuff they bought themselves (probably expecting to take whatever was left over home with them today).

Maintain the moral high ground??? The OP did that perfectly last night. The croissants are a 'thank you' for putting up with our crappy behaviour over the past few days, so the OP is allowed to consume them (as a middle of the night snack) or whatever she wants to do.

Her freeloading guests can have toast.

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No OP suggested steak and the accompaniments and the beer and wine. She did give a list. I think they have been CF af but also agree with pp this wasn’t the best way to handle it without creating a misunderstanding/ argument. No question about it though, they should NOT have asked for reimbursement for the meal.

KentuckyDerbyandJoan · 20/08/2022 09:34

TenoringBehind · 20/08/2022 07:57

assuming it’s true, I think you and your dh were awesome yesterday but I do think hiding the croissants is juvenile and spiteful.

‘Spiteful’? Oh behave 🙄

Tandora · 20/08/2022 09:34

LookItsMeAgain · 20/08/2022 09:24

Eh, what's that now?

The OP didn't send them out with a list to buy specialised food. They suggested the steak and the OP agreed that it would make a nice meal.
The rest of the stuff they bought themselves (probably expecting to take whatever was left over home with them today).

Maintain the moral high ground??? The OP did that perfectly last night. The croissants are a 'thank you' for putting up with our crappy behaviour over the past few days, so the OP is allowed to consume them (as a middle of the night snack) or whatever she wants to do.

Her freeloading guests can have toast.

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No OP suggested steak and the accompaniments and the beer and wine. She did give a list. I think they have been CF af but also agree with pp this wasn’t the best way to handle it without creating a misunderstanding/ argument. No question about it though, they should NOT have asked for reimbursement for the meal.

Maireas · 20/08/2022 09:36

Count your towels