CF Have come to stay - The morning after

[SeriouslyLosingTheWill]

The first thread is full so I'll start a new one, in case there is a dramatic update in the morning.

I actually feel emotionally drained right now. I keep almost crying. Pathetic. Probably the wine thats doing that.

I'll be going to bed shortly and i'll update tomorrow if theres anything to add. I reckon they will be up early and go quietly though.

They don't drive a ford ranger (I remember that thread! haven't looked at a ford ranger driver the same since!) Its a bmw something or other.

Dp cleared up the kitchen and 1 dc (dd19) came down and helped, so thats all good. She then came out, gave me a little hug and said DP had explained about the food. She then lit up and offered me a cigarette (WTF! I don't smoke and although had an inkling wasn't sure she did) and said no ones perfect, everyone has failings. Honestly i'm in a parallel universe tonight.

Dp has put most of the beers away in the garage, just left in the fridge what was there. I do wonder if they will take them home.

Heres the first one if anyone wants to catch up as not sure I can give a proper summery right now www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4614982-cf-have-come-to-stay-how-to-handle-it?page=23&reply=119364945

Just RTFT Part 1 - in fact I devoured it. Well played OP. Sorry you feel emotional after but that’s just because you’re a decent person.

Really hope they leave quickly and quietly this morning. 💐

Good luck OP
It's breakfast time now ...

I quickly scan read your comments on last thread to understand this one

So this is relatives of DP's ex wife? No actual relation now ? They are free loaders

I can't believe the gall of them for their behaviour and for them to expect you to "pay them back" £103 for steak & snacks (for them) that they bought AND they expect not to replace beer and wine they'd drink but for you to pay for it!

If they say anything this morning I hope you are ready with a reply,,,

"We work and have 4 DCs and our own bills to pay. When you said you were visiting for a few days, we fully expected to host you the first night Not to pay for 5 days worth. We're not rich,

Most people would have offered to buy food and brought wine and beer with them to say Thankyou to us. They would have offered to help clear up.
I'm surprised you didn't get the hint when I eventually asked you to go to the shops. I had to ask you!!! Most people would have offered after the second day!! To leave the receipt out when we clearly spent far more than that on your food & our drink you helped yourself to all week.

We have been lovely to you . We are shocked and disappointed you see no rudeness in your behaviour. I can't imagine anyone else wanting you to stay if you freeload like this , eat them out of house and home and drink all their alcohol bringing nothing yourself!! . "

Girls and women are so conditioned to be helpful, supportive and kind, that many do find being assertive difficult.

there are days in politics known as a good day to bury bad news. Death of Diana, 9/11 etc OP DD heading for pm?

Ha! The daughter casually lighting up a cigarette was a nice touch!

Sorry for repeated post
The app was playing up

Looking forward to the update. We all know CFers and love how you handled it. Pushed you to the limit to the point you explode 💥

In the meantime if anyone can link the Ford Ranger story please? I have new NDN who recently got one and they are currently pushing me to my limit in overstepping boundaries so I'm hoping this might give me a laugh 🙏🏼

Are you always such a mood hoover.

I can't imagine they'll hang around this morning OP. Hopefully they'll be up and off.

Hope you managed some sleep op. I also hope the CF have fucked off by now

I can't imagine they'll hang around this morning OP. Hopefully they'll be up and off.

I'm here for the croissants 😀

OP you did great modelling for your kids there

OP you did great modelling for your kids there

The crying isnt pathetic at all. Its releasing all the tension from whats been happening. It took a lot of strenght to handle it so please be kind to yourself :)

Hanging on for the update OP!

but am still waiting for my ability to throw people out of the house to develop and show up. I'm 50 and in the grips of menopause so it must be coming along soon.

@SummerLobelia
It's coming....! im 51 and mine arrived ..

I say what I want by thinking out loud

"Well I can't afford & get exhausted by all the visitors that want to stay with me as I live in such a nice area. It's very expensive as some people arrive and expect an all inclusive hotel stay from me who works, am on my own and don't want to spend my savings on visitors. You can stay nearby and we'll meet up for a dinner one night . / I think I could manage you staying 2 nights but you'd need to buy the takeaway/ food for the second night and bring a couple bottles.. I'll cook a meal first night. "

I’ve lurked mumsnet for two years and made an account just to say that OP is an utter shero.

what a journey these threads have been.

so long, CFs!

hundreds of mumsnetters are gathering to wave you off

This used to happen to us a lot when we lived abroad. Extended family wanting to visit to see us, telling us that they’d missed us and wanted to see the kids. We barely saw them when they arrived, clearly here for the free accommodation- so a bit cheeky in itself. They used to chip in with the food etc, so we didn’t mind too much. This is cf’ery on another scale though!
It’s the lack of awareness with some CF’s though, genuine extreme self entitlement!

Well done OP. Following the update with interest. The absolute brass neck of this woman! I recently stayed with friends of my partner’s late wife. They had never met me before and were overwhelmingly wonderful hosts. I made sure I bought copious amounts of alcohol, helped out without being asked, took them out for decent lunches, participated in conversation, went on walks, made them laugh etc. Also stripped the beds before we left. And wrote a thank you card. We’re chatting on WhatsApp now like old friends. I’m staggered that people can behave so appallingly. Sadly there’s a lot of CFs about. I do hope you tell them that you never want to see them again. And why you were so disappointed. Probably be like water off a duck’s back though with these idiots. Good luck today!

Wishing you a peaceful, stress free, cf-free morning!

This has got me through the morning from hell reading this. Currently in a hotel with a family with young kids above who run and jump off the bed. Honestly sounds like they are coming through the ceiling. I mentioned it to reception last night saying I can handle it during the day but please can they be asked to be mindful in the morning. 7am. Bang bang bang. I'm really pissed off.

Really hoping they've buggered off. Cheeky Fuckery at its finest.

I'd be tempted to prepare an invoice itemising food, drink, bed, bath, housekeeping, tour guide charges. Hand it over if they're unpleasant as they leave.

We used to live in Paris and had friends like this. We haven’t seen them since we left. They just used to call us and announce that they were coming to stay that weekend - which was OK, we’re quite laid back. But one Friday they called and said they’d managed to get cheap flights and would be arriving late that night. We already had house guests staying so told them we couldn’t put them up. They said “Well what are we meant to do then?” I suggested a hotel…

I wouldn’t have anyone to stay again, I had a friend stay for a week and she didn’t get up until 1pm then in evenings she would moan if DD wanted to watch her programmes. Couldn’t wait for her to leave.

I wouldn’t put myself on anyone either, if I wanted to to see a friend and visit a place I’d book somewhere. Just did this in London and it’s a much more enjoyable experience for all.