CF Have come to stay - The morning after

[SeriouslyLosingTheWill]

The first thread is full so I'll start a new one, in case there is a dramatic update in the morning.

I actually feel emotionally drained right now. I keep almost crying. Pathetic. Probably the wine thats doing that.

I'll be going to bed shortly and i'll update tomorrow if theres anything to add. I reckon they will be up early and go quietly though.

They don't drive a ford ranger (I remember that thread! haven't looked at a ford ranger driver the same since!) Its a bmw something or other.

Dp cleared up the kitchen and 1 dc (dd19) came down and helped, so thats all good. She then came out, gave me a little hug and said DP had explained about the food. She then lit up and offered me a cigarette (WTF! I don't smoke and although had an inkling wasn't sure she did) and said no ones perfect, everyone has failings. Honestly i'm in a parallel universe tonight.

Dp has put most of the beers away in the garage, just left in the fridge what was there. I do wonder if they will take them home.

Heres the first one if anyone wants to catch up as not sure I can give a proper summery right now www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4614982-cf-have-come-to-stay-how-to-handle-it?page=23&reply=119364945

Sadly this is quite a normal experience for many of us, hope they leave gracefully this morning and realise what they have done but doubt it.

This but was hilarious!

Op, you handled that terrible awkward situation so well. Exactly how it should have been handled. I just hope they have reflected on it over night and if not apologise to you, at least thank you for your hospitality.

What a bloody nightmare 😣 another one to say hope they go quietly (and apologetically) today

Definitely very difficult to say hold on a minute and that's what they rely on!

Op, just read both threads. Well done for standing up for yourself! DP did well too (the receipt is in the bin, did you need it? 😅)

It's very easy to tell you what to do and another thing actually doing it, so I think it's great you put them in their place. Hopefully they'll leave quietly this morning and theyll think twice about doing this to someone else.

I can't actually believe there are some people like that out there.

You guys handled it brilliantly. I can't imagine the extent of CF'ery someone needs to think they can spend £100 on dinner and get the money back when you've paid for everything all week plus you didn't even know them!

Reported your posts for pretty malicious troll hunting

Hope they leave quietly this morning

Hope they leave quietly this morning

I can believe it based on other people's experiences
Somehow thinking if you host you pay it all

Hope they leave quietly this morning

Not going to lie, just here for the next update!

Well done OP!

Probably, but I'm enjoying it anyway!

Same!

If they say something again about how you should have told them they were paying for the shopping, you could reply with

'perhaps you should have told us when you invited yourselves that you expected us to pay for everything for you for the duration of your stay as we would have said no'.

You host parties and expect guests to come laden with booze? That's really not what hosting a party means. In future, to avoid upsetting yourself, be clearer on the invite. Dear guest, I'm providing you all with a venue to get together but please bring your own food n drink. Something like that and then wait until absolutely no one turns up.

@Mummyoflittledragon yes, I do think it’s odd to expect presents unless it’s a child’s birthday party! Going to an adult party some booze is generally very welcome but don’t expect to be showered in gifts! However, staying as a guest overnight I would definitely bring gifts and extra food/wine/flowers.

I would never go to a party empty handed, I’m embarrassed for you.

Well done OP. Second thread, 10 pages and still going strong
Loved it all 👏👏👏

Omg - I have just caught up with all this.

Well done OP - they are very rude and clearly taking advantage.

I was nearly wetting myself when u suggested steaks then your DD stating they dont get steaks much

I am so looking forward to the next update!!

@OhMerde it’s good manners to NEVER turn up empty handed. Ever. Even if I’m invited over to someone’s for coffee I’ll bring a small bunch of flowers or home baking. If I’m invited to stay I go all out and bring a proper gift, as well as copious wine and some nice contribution to food. And I’ll pay for a restaurant meal, pick up the groceries etc. going to a party - at least one bottle of wine. It’s just the way I’ve been brought up and it’s how my friends and I operate. The rare CF exception, like what the OP, has encountered, is very noticeable and is commented on in my social circle.

today we’re hosting a large party and have spent over £1000 on food and drink but people have been falling over themselves to offer to bring side dishes and puddings.

OP I’m praying for your septic tank.

My God, you are a heroine OP.

You will find this a turning point in your life. Honestly, you took this situation by the ball sack and twisted hard…. And you’ve survived.
You have been trampled over for the last time! Good for you!

Me too!

Me too!