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CF Have come to stay - The morning after

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SeriouslyLosingTheWill · 19/08/2022 22:33

The first thread is full so I'll start a new one, in case there is a dramatic update in the morning.

I actually feel emotionally drained right now. I keep almost crying. Pathetic. Probably the wine thats doing that.

I'll be going to bed shortly and i'll update tomorrow if theres anything to add. I reckon they will be up early and go quietly though.

They don't drive a ford ranger (I remember that thread! haven't looked at a ford ranger driver the same since!) Its a bmw something or other.

Dp cleared up the kitchen and 1 dc (dd19) came down and helped, so thats all good. She then came out, gave me a little hug and said DP had explained about the food. She then lit up and offered me a cigarette (WTF! I don't smoke and although had an inkling wasn't sure she did) and said no ones perfect, everyone has failings. Honestly i'm in a parallel universe tonight.

Dp has put most of the beers away in the garage, just left in the fridge what was there. I do wonder if they will take them home.

Heres the first one if anyone wants to catch up as not sure I can give a proper summery right now www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4614982-cf-have-come-to-stay-how-to-handle-it?page=23&reply=119364945

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PatientlyWaiting21 · 20/08/2022 07:12

OhMerde · 20/08/2022 06:59

You host parties and expect guests to come laden with booze? That's really not what hosting a party means. In future, to avoid upsetting yourself, be clearer on the invite. Dear guest, I'm providing you all with a venue to get together but please bring your own food n drink. Something like that and then wait until absolutely no one turns up.

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I would never go to a party empty handed, I’m embarrassed for you.

kateandme · 20/08/2022 07:13

You see now,with the other thread going on I feel really bloody stupid.i became invested in this.

OhMerde · 20/08/2022 07:16

I dont go empty handed. I take a bottle, as did the guests the previous person was referring to.

purplepandas · 20/08/2022 07:17

You are awesome, love how you handled this. I hope that they leave asap this morning. I cannot believe people could be so rude and deluded, I am gobsmacked. Have a more peaceful rest of the weekend, you deserve it.

Whatsonmymindgrapes · 20/08/2022 07:18

They are so rude!!!

Ithinkitsenoughnow · 20/08/2022 07:18

Taking the croissants etc upstairs is very childish

AgnestaVipers · 20/08/2022 07:22

EmmaGrundyForPM · 20/08/2022 04:33

My sister is like this. Comes to stay with husband and 2 kids for a week, doesn't contribute to the food or drink. Drives me mad. They have much more money than us - own 2 houses, kids in private school etc. One time they stayed for two weeks, I did all the cooking (tbf, I like cooking so that's not an issue) so dsis suggested we all go to a restaurant one evening. I assumed she was offering to pay but when the bill came she split it down the middle.

That's the reason they have more money than you. In my experience, rich people are cheapskates.

Fadeout83 · 20/08/2022 07:22

kateandme · 20/08/2022 07:13

You see now,with the other thread going on I feel really bloody stupid.i became invested in this.

Me too! Was convinced this was real

saraclara · 20/08/2022 07:23

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MissMeowCat · 20/08/2022 07:25

Good luck this morning op! Be prepared to re-ask when they are leaving today I suspect they may try and skim over last night x

sleepygal · 20/08/2022 07:26

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I Have to admit I think this is all made up. But it's a great yarn and has cheered a lot of people up! Thanks OP for the entertainment 😁

Delphinium20 · 20/08/2022 07:26

Sad that I'll be sleeping when half the globe away OP will wake up and tell us more about those CF! Wishing you pleasant dreams cause you're the heroine!

harriethoyle · 20/08/2022 07:27

whatdodos · 19/08/2022 22:55

I literally cannot believe these people seriously who raised them!? When I staybwith anyone I'm tripping over myself to make sure they absolutely know I'm thankful probably to the point if annoyance. My grandma would be turning in her grave reading this, she once bought us chocolates to thank us for staying at HER house 🤣

OMG. That is adorable! 😆

Cognacsoft · 20/08/2022 07:28

My dp’s had ndn’s who were total cf’s. This is exactly the sort of stunt they would have pulled.
They had an immaculate garden and asked if they could put their dc’s rabbit hutch on our garden so not to spoil their’s.
When out for drinks Mr CF always said to my df ‘you only want a half don’t you?’

Ithinkitsenoughnow · 20/08/2022 07:30

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Quite

paintedkites · 20/08/2022 07:31

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NanaNelly · 20/08/2022 07:31

Fadeout83 · 20/08/2022 07:22

Me too! Was convinced this was real

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But you don’t know that it isn’t.

Have faith in yourself.

FormerlySpeckledyHen · 20/08/2022 07:31

Hurry up with the next episode OP , I’ve got to get to work!

WimpoleHat · 20/08/2022 07:32

Well done! Standing up for yourself is hard if you’ve been brought up to ‘be polite’.

It is! And people like that rely on it - that’s how they mooch off others so successfully. Because they know that nice people like the OP and her DH won’t call them out on it. Well done, OP. Hope they leave early tomorrow……

WimpoleHat · 20/08/2022 07:32

….today, I mean!

Ineedtoletgo83 · 20/08/2022 07:34

The bit where male CF used his Tesco Clubcard to get you cheaper rump steaks 😂😂

IglesiasPiggl · 20/08/2022 07:35

Waiting for the croissants update!

Sanch1 · 20/08/2022 07:36

Hoping they've already upped and left op!

stoppedmyselfwastingmoneytoday · 20/08/2022 07:37

@SeriouslyLosingTheWill You seem like a lovely person and an excellent host. Honestly, the guests you have had to endure are seriously deluded and entitled and are not people you ever need to see again. I'm not sure how old you are but all I can offer is that nearing 50 now I no longer put up with this sort of behaviour from any of my guests. I will cook a lovely meal and provide wine and drinks on the first night and then they are expected to contribute. I had some guests once who raved on about saving thousands on car hire, accommodation etc and when they left I realised it had cost me over £1000.00 just for the pleasure of their company! Oh, and me being a cook, cleaner and taxi driver as well. That was my Eureka moment! Hope you are feeling better today and the CFs have left!

Youaremysunshine14 · 20/08/2022 07:42

I hope you wake up this morning still feeling a bit of a hero, OP. It can be so hard to stand up for yourself in the moment – I definitely find myself after the event wishing I'd said x, y or z – so you did brilliantly with these CFers. You just need to keep it up today! They are off-the-scale entitled so I can't imagine they're going to leave without a fuss.