To ask my sister to not walk around our house in states of undress!

[JenGin]

My younger sister often stays with us for a few days at a time as she lives fairly far away and we like to spend time together and have always been a close knit family.

The last few times she's obviously getting more and more comfortable and has starting coming downstairs in the mornings and evenings wearing her, really quite skimpy, pj's. I guess they could be described as lacy hotpants and a crop top. She's now even go as far as strolling around in just her underwear after her shower!

I have no insecurities about my husband being interested in her or checking her out but for some reason I am finding it a bit uncomfortable. Am I being unfair to consider asking her to at least put on a dressing gown? The most I've said is along the lines of "aren't you a bit cold in just that?" but she obviously didn't see it as a hint and continues to do it.

Is it really too different to her being in a bikini when we're all at the beach or does it cross some sort of boundary? I know that if I did bring the topic up she'd laugh it off and tell me I'm being a prude and genuinely not understand what the problem is. Maybe it isn't a problem and it's something I need to get over? I just don't know.

we have both sunbathed topless in front of each others husbands

So why are you posting? You've all seen each others tits. Get your husbands to get their know out and have done with it.

Attention! Attention! Give me more attention!

I'm sorry you feel this way though I cannot see your mind changing. Just be direct with her.

Because that comment was tongue in cheek and a beach on holiday and my house are very different settings. Thanks for your insight, though...

I think she probably isn't doing it entirely because it's comfortable for her; if she was doing it totally for comfort then she'd be wearing baggies and granny pants, because lacy undies, bralettes and thongs just aren't as comfortable. She's wearing the lacy undies, bralettes and thongs because she's 25 and hot, and she knows it! Even if she's not single she will still want the validation, most people do at that age.

Not that that's a problem per say; it's just that it's an inappropriate location and an inappropriate audience for her validation efforts. It stood out to me that not only do you not feel comfortable, but you said your husband does too, he doesn't know where to look - and that's not fair at all, because he's not in a position to tell her to put some more clothes on. He'd be the bad guy if he did.

So you need to do it for him, as well as yourself.

Er OP……didn’t Amy seduce Ross? 😁

No no no, just no! You need to enforce some boundaries

Social norms re beach wear is appropriate-on a beach, not in a house. Lovely that she’s comfortable in her own skin, but thoughtless when in someone else’s house and shows a lack of consideration, imo.