‘But there’s no toilet roll’

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Dh has just pissed me off.
Currently a sahm (worked full time for 17 years before having Dd)
Sat down eating dinner and Dh asks what we’ve done today…often says this and asked if we’ve been anywhere, with a look on his face as though I should’ve gone out. say no and that we don’t go out everyday, he gives a funny look and says ‘But there’s no toilet paper?’ I say, yes dd just finished the last of it before..and. He looks v clearly at me as though ‘Well shouldn’t you have gone out to the shop then’ type face.
Dd, 4, is a handful at the moment (as he’s well aware) it often takes me ages to get her ready to go out, we were out last night at a fair so she was tired, I was doing washing and making dinner for everyone when the toilet paper ran out,
Yes I’m usually on top of things and would’ve gone and got it..today I didn’t.
Also, yes, sometimes we stay in, I have jobs to do, Dd plays etc etc
Aibu to feel pissed off that I’m expected to act like some bloody stepford wife and immediately jump into action when required?

Two adults being responsible for ensuring it doesn't run out probably increases rather than decreases the probability of running out.

(I think it's just that witching hour when the kids aren't quite asleep, and the wine's not kicked in yet 😉)

All those giving the OP a hard time here, shame on you.. are you for real

Its a bloody toilet roll, attitude of DH is more in question, he needs to back off her. A DD age 4yrs whilst rewarding and you only get that time once is hard work at that age. Sounds to me like the OP is doing a terrific job just didn't see how much the kids used until too late. Hardly crime of the year is it, get over it.

Hopefully the OP takes mine and others advice to buy online in bulk. Alternatively DH can pop to the 24 hour garage LOL

Ah thanks yes that makes sense I though it was like a monthly box then that's it

OP
Oh good grief, it's easily done!
Some days your brain just doesn't do all the stuff, the wife work, because you are tired or stressed or whatever!

My solution, well, my wife's ☺️ is a subscription to Cheeky Panda.
Really good value and eco positive.

Your husband needs a day off, minding DD when she's tired and doing all the stuff you usually do.
No being fun Daddy, step up and be a responsible partner in the home.

It shouldn't though if anything they might both end up getting loo roll

Oh! There's a rival loo roll subscription!

I think most of us have had a four year old, we know how they work! I had a 2.5 year old to go with them.

I managed to run the house and not run out of loo roll!

Amazing!

Surely you know everyone on MN is perfect.?
Posters have been incredibly harsh. I work full time and have a LO and it's easier than being a SAHM.
You could have texted your husband but if he used a load of it this morning then why the hell didn't he pick some up?

I don't think this is about the loo roll. It's about OP's H's attitude re the loo roll

Indeed. Why is one 4 year old being touted as the most extreme burden any sahm could have placed upon them?

Yes, they might get too many rolls, due to wrong assumption about what action the other might be taking, and for the exact seem reason, neither might get rolls. So it's riskier than having one person who knows if they don't get rolls, there definitely will be a shortage.

Yup. Literally your job.

You could have texted your husband but if he used a load of it this morning then why the hell didn't he pick some up?
Maybe he didn't?! Op was home all day, maybe she did.

Amen

Get a job OP and you’ll feel much less resentful. I was a SAHM and hated the fact o was responsible for everything and no one gave a shit what I did just if I missed something. Now I’m working we share everything and I’m a lot happier and feel respected in my job - I didn’t as a SAHM. I just felt like a slave

Op, shit happens ….

"It's not about the toilet roll!!!! Your DH is talking down to you, expecting you to justify yourself/your day etc to him and implying what you do isn't good enough. The toilet roll situation that everyone is getting so hung up on isn't at all the point! Sorry you are getting yet more judgement here OP."

@Innocuousname has it spot on. He's demanding that she accounts for all her time at home. I would guess that he's resentful of having to work while OP is "at home all day, drinking coffee". Or some such nonsense.

Your whole lives would crumble if you didn't do... what, exactly?

The OP is getting a ridiculously hard time here. I'm especially dumbfounded by the responses claiming not to understand how popping out with a 4 year old might be tricky. Given the proportion of people on here who are parents I would have expected way more understanding and empathy.

I think running out of toilet roll is easily done and no big deal. Particularly with a tricky 4 year old.

My DC are teens and on my days off I could quite easily fail to top up on loo roll. Admittedly home organisation isn't one of my strong points- and luckily my nearest and dearest are ok with that.

We have run out on occasion and substituted with cotton wool pads, packets of tissues or even kitchen roll. No one died, life went on and anyone who tried to make me feel I was a failure for letting it happen can quite frankly "do one".

Hope you're ok OP, and that you have a chance to get some time to yourself this evening.

He's not, he says we've got no loo roll, not can you write me an itemised account of your day.

I think I would have just said this tbh-that I'd go now that he was home-that's if I hadn't asked him to pick some up on the way home as it had just run out & I was busy getting dinner,

As a parent, I'm sorry I don't see how it's difficult to go put with a four year old at some point during the day.

I really can't see the issue.

I'm not a SAHM now i work FT as does my husband we have two 18 year olds - i cannot keep up with buying loo rolls one minute you have 9 next minute zero! and remembering what it was like when DS was little and i was pretty much SAHM for a couple of years and can easily see how you could run out - OP i would also be irritated if my DH questioned my movements for the day, if he doesn't like your style of housekeeping suggest a job swap!

I know what you mean, the hassle of getting a 4 year old ready and the drama can be too much some days.. It's never just nipping to the shops!
I'm guessing you hadn't noticed it was about to run out so didn't ask him to pick up any - It's easily done imo. I'd be a bit annoyed with him for that comment.

Those horrified that you let your toilet roll out need to get a life. Nearly everyone has an alternative at home until you can get to a shop. eg. pack of tissues, kitchen roll.. husbands shirt etc