‘But there’s no toilet roll’

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Dh has just pissed me off.
Currently a sahm (worked full time for 17 years before having Dd)
Sat down eating dinner and Dh asks what we’ve done today…often says this and asked if we’ve been anywhere, with a look on his face as though I should’ve gone out. say no and that we don’t go out everyday, he gives a funny look and says ‘But there’s no toilet paper?’ I say, yes dd just finished the last of it before..and. He looks v clearly at me as though ‘Well shouldn’t you have gone out to the shop then’ type face.
Dd, 4, is a handful at the moment (as he’s well aware) it often takes me ages to get her ready to go out, we were out last night at a fair so she was tired, I was doing washing and making dinner for everyone when the toilet paper ran out,
Yes I’m usually on top of things and would’ve gone and got it..today I didn’t.
Also, yes, sometimes we stay in, I have jobs to do, Dd plays etc etc
Aibu to feel pissed off that I’m expected to act like some bloody stepford wife and immediately jump into action when required?

Your job as as a SAHM is to run the home; not just childcare. Your DD is 4, I find it impossible to believe you couldn’t have got out to a corner shop or at least made an online order for some shopping to arrive soon or let your DH know to pick some up on the way back home?

I would not be impressed if I was working and got home to no loo roll in the house. How does anyone ever "run out" of loo roll? Don't you just replace it as you go along?

Agree. Working beforehand is irrelevant.

I'd go out right now at this evening hour to buy some, take my time strolling down the aisles and looking at clothes. He can do bedtime routine all by himself

Just what I was going to say.

They both live in the house and use the loo roll so they are both responsible. Sahm does not equal slave.

Fucking hell he’s her husband, not her employer. He should be supporting her not judging her every move.

No one is perfect and I’m glad that my dh doesn’t react like this when I forget things.

After almost a decade as a sahm taking care of everything in the home, I've had to go away for a week to care for a sick elderly relative, I think this will have been the best wake up call my dh has ever had! In fact, I have friends who make the point of going away now and again to let their partners put a solid shift in, and they swear by it for redressing the balance with childcare etc. You should try it.....then come home and make a comment about there been no milk or something, and just let him put 2 and 2 together 🤯😅

@Innocuousname Exactly. This is it. I don’t need my time accounted for.

In that case you need to go back to work and share the household admin.

Of course its The Woman's job to notice the loo roll is getting low, and go buy some. If a man did it his penis would drop off.

OP said DD used it before he’d come home so unless she texted him and told him he’d have no idea.

If he saw it getting low then he would have assumed like all of us would that the person who is at home all day would have popped to the shops and got some.

I can only imagine the uproar if it was OP who was at work or went out for the day and DH hadn’t bothered to nip to the shops for toilet roll.

If I were you I would consider a subscription to Who Gives A Crap - that's one less thing to worry about.

And then go back to work and make your DH carry half the domestic load so he can bloody stop checking on how you spent your day, because that isn't OK.

Why on earth did you let the supply get so low? Sorry, but surely it is a matter of being a bit more organised overall, I would have got more when I was down to the last couple of rolls.

And your DH does t need to account for how much loo roll he used!

Slave 🤣
It's not hard to run a house
It's not really slavery

Thanks!

Me too!

Your job as as a SAHM is to run the home no its not! Dh is capable of being loo roll monitor on top of a full time job

Also this, weird sly comments implying your DH is a freak for how much toilet roll he uses feels really nasty. If he uses a lot even more reason to notice when you’re down to say 5 rolls, I presume it’s not a new thing!

Also this isn’t even about a SAHP vs a working parent.

If you see that the toilet roll has just run out then you nip to the shop and get some asap.

What happens if someone gets ill and you get through it quickly?

If it ran out today, then it must have been very low this morning, and he could have noticed, and then got some on his way home.

Also, people are being really harsh on here OP. It's not so uncommon to think I've got another whole pack of 9 rolls in the cupboard, and I only realise I'm fully out when I go to get them!

We use who gives a crap; it’s 48 or so rolls at a time so hard to get through surprisingly quickly, and you set your subscription to overlap, not so it arrives as you finish your last roll. Or, shock horror, you leave your house and buy an emergency pack from a shop.

@FallOutPloy Thank you, yeah some really strange, almost deliberately nasty comments 🤷🏻‍♀️

Then you nip to the shop between deliveries. It's not that difficult a concept, is it?

Jeez, you'd think no one here has ever had a day that just runs away with them.

OP was clearly not averse to nipping out after dinner to pick up the loo roll so she didn't need judgement on what has happened in her day. If this had happened in my house (not a SAHM but "stock taking" is typically what I do) my DH would have said "did you know there's no loo roll? Do you need me to nip out and get some?" To which I probably (like OP) would have said "nah, I'll nip after dinner while you watch DD. It's just been one of those days"

The interaction is the problem here, not the fact there was no loo roll.

Sometimes you just have one of those days. But it's helpful if your DH is part of your team.

Yeah shame OP didn't do that when she realised she'd run out?