To have said something?!

[Briony22]

At the supermarket earlier, and parked in a parent and child space with DH and 10 month old DS.

As I was getting DS out of the car a car pulled into the parent and child space next to us, and a woman got out and started walking towards the supermarket without any kids.

I called after her and said "You know you've parked in a P&C space, yeah?" and she started huffing and puffing that she had her son with her, who was in the car. I pointed out that the spaces are for parents with children who need the extra room to get them out of the car, and then she said that her son was disabled and that she had a disabled badge. I then said that the disabled spaces were in another area of the car park, at which point she started getting her son out of the car and telling him that he had to come into the shop "because that mental lady was kicking off".

I'm just so sick of entitled fuckers using these spaces without any need to when I've often struggled trying to get DS out of his car seat without sufficient space.

DH was mortified and said I should have just left it.

WIBU?

Maybe she likes to swing her door wide when getting out of the car so needs the space? 🤷‍♀️

If you were already parked it wasn't your battle.
It doesn't take 3 of you to do a shop.
You can get a 10 month old out of the car reasonably easily even in a normal space if needs be.

Well I've well and truly had my arse handed to me here.

Just to point out, (1) the woman wasn't displaying a disabled badge; and (2) I had to take my DS into the supermarket to change him or I absolutely would have left him in the car with DH while I picked up a couple of items, and not parked in a P&C space.

If there's a way to get a car seat out of the back of a car without opening the door wide I can honestly say I don't know how. I have no problem parking further away in a non P&C space if there's sufficient room but the car park was busy.

I've seen so many people parking in P&C spaces without children and while I accept they're not a legal requirement, it is frustrating and I just snapped today.

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

Thanks to those who took the time to consider things from my POV, and those who, despite disagreeing with me, at least remained civil.

I had my husband park in child spaces when I broke my leg and I needed extra space to get out if the car with a full leg plaster cast and trying to negotiate a wheelchair from a car. If you had said something to me I would have told you to fuck off. Hope that helps.

You don't actually know that she was going to leave the child, just because she moved away. I will sometimes leave my disabled child in the car just long enough to collect a trolley that she can sit in.

You didn't need to park in the P&C space. Your DH could've stopped and you got the baby out and then he could've parked.

That woman was using the space because she had a disabled child with her.

It's incredibly hard to get a blue badge - especially for non mobility issues such as ASD.

If there's a way to get a car seat out of the back of a car without opening the door wide I can honestly say I don't know how.

At 10 months just sit him in the trolley. No need to take the seat out.

I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

Oh the irony. Like you considered hat was going on in this woman’s life, OP. She didn’t do anything wrong. I wonder how your vitriol made her feel.

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

Like you did to the woman?

Oh god - pfb most definitely.

You do know you are not the only person in the world to have a child and that many people managed for years to shop before parent and child spaces were even invented !!

Did you care about upsetting the other woman..

Did you know what was going on on her life?

She didn't need to display a disabled badge, she wasn't in a disabled space! She doesn't need to dance to your tune.

I don't believe you see so many people parking in p&c places without children, you're saying that to suit your narrative.

Bit rich of you to say 'you don't know what's going on in someone's life' .. You should have thought about that when you started being giving a random person crap without knowing there circumstances. They could also have not needed your judgemental shit today.
Hopefully this teaches you a lesson

You don't need to take the whole car seat out of the car every time you take the baby out, just take the baby and leave the car seat where it is. I've had four babies and have never once needed to take the car seat out of the car.

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

You didn't think of that today though@Briony22 .
You made another women's life harder today.
You didn't exactly think of her

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

That's hilarious. Pot, kettle.

Hm. You say we have upset you but you are still just thinking about yourself, aren't you? How do you think that poor woman felt having to haul out her disabled child to prove to you that she's got a right to park there? How do you think the son felt? Don't you think they might still be upset? Don't you think both her and her son will remember this incident and feel stressed next time they park anywhere? I mean maybe not but maybe they do.

"I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life."

Yes you are right and I hope you will really think next time before you have a go at someone. You never know what might be going on in their life.

The woman didn't need a blue badge in a P&C space anyway.

I hope this is a joke. My parents often have to use the parent and child bay’s, when the disabled bays are full-often with people who do not have blue badges.

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

I have zero sympathy towards OP.

I am more concern how the women OP verbally attacked, in front of her child, are doing this evening. I hope they are both okay after such a nasty experience.

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

You can use the same logic before chasing after and reprimanding a total stranger.

Honestly OP, accept it, own it and move the fuck on!

I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

Like before going off on one at a poor woman with a disabled child in a car park? I had 2 under 2 for a while, still 2 under 3, and I would have/still would be happy for a person with a blue badge to take a P&C space over me. You also had your DH with you, there really shouldn't have been a problem with 2 of you there. I am still hoping this didn't actually happen, surely no-one would behave like that.

Precisely why you should have mind yo business!