To have said something?!

[Briony22]

At the supermarket earlier, and parked in a parent and child space with DH and 10 month old DS.

As I was getting DS out of the car a car pulled into the parent and child space next to us, and a woman got out and started walking towards the supermarket without any kids.

I called after her and said "You know you've parked in a P&C space, yeah?" and she started huffing and puffing that she had her son with her, who was in the car. I pointed out that the spaces are for parents with children who need the extra room to get them out of the car, and then she said that her son was disabled and that she had a disabled badge. I then said that the disabled spaces were in another area of the car park, at which point she started getting her son out of the car and telling him that he had to come into the shop "because that mental lady was kicking off".

I'm just so sick of entitled fuckers using these spaces without any need to when I've often struggled trying to get DS out of his car seat without sufficient space.

DH was mortified and said I should have just left it.

WIBU?

They're a courtesy, not a right.

It's incredibly hard to get a blue badge, and using a P&C space is a reasonable adjustment.

Look, enough idiots in fancy cars without kids use the spaces. So YANBU to initially question her.

They aren't a courtesy at all. They're designed and marked for parents WITH kids in tow. Not legally, but that's clearly the intention.

In the same way as you wouldn't park in a spot that says 'manager' if you weren't the manager.

But I think you probably went too far.

People like this inevitably meet someone who won't tolerate that shit. There was a local neighbour once who made everyone's lives annoying with her self-appointed policing of the street. One day she argued with the wrong person and now that woman doesn't speak a single word to anyone.

Why did you have to get your child out of the car if your DH was there as well? he could have stayed with the DC whilst you went into the shop.

I think the only "entitled fucker" in your OP is you.

Damn right is park in a spot marked manager if there were no disabled spaces and it was closer to the door and/or wider.

You should be ashamed of yourself Op, behaving so uncouth.

Mortified for you. Regardless of child or not, what gives you the right to comment? Should've minded your own business

Fgs how on earth did people manage before the special spaces came about? Bloody hell, you're arguing your right against a disabled person. You should be embarrassed!

The car parks need redesigning.
Disabled bays right up front - fined if you don't have your blue badge.

Parent and toddler right at the back of the carpark, with safe access to the store.
This would stop lazy people from using the parent spots - I've noticed particularly in bad weather that it's hard to park in these spots because no-one wants to get a touch of rain on them!!

This. Myob springs to mind.

YABU.

I used to take DS to tuition centre inside our local Sainsbury’s and I parked in the Child bay. I used to get some people shouting things at me, every time I parked to collect him from there. It made it so awkward and uncomfortable and I was anxious each collection time. DS has ASD so I had to park there as it was less of a walk through the car park.

Eventually, I stopped taking him there.

It’s a very good job for you OP that I wasn’t the driver you confronted.
If you’d tried to tell me your healthy normal children trumped my disabled daughter because she wasn’t immediately getting out of the car you’d have had an interesting day

who put you in charge of the car park?

I see it all the time, can drivers, woman driving alone… clearly they (& this woman) just can’t be arsed. But I’d never say anything, not because I’m afraid of confrontation just because I cba with the drama in my life. I judge them from afar though! YANBU. Mumsnet loathe child & parent spaces 😂

Why do you care ? Just mind your own business. You're not the police / have no authority to tell anyone else how to live their life. I saw a man in a white van parked in one, right next to me. With no Kids. I couldn't care less what he did. It is what it is.

I hope the op crosses paths with someone like you. The audacity to do this to someone is pathetic. I feel so sorry for that poor woman and child who had to prove their reason.

Sorry but I eye rolled as soon as I read this. You sound like one of those women who become ridiculously entitled as soon as they have a child like you're the only person in the world to do it. Stop being so precious, you don't own the space.

If the child wasn't getting out of the car, then I'd also have thought she was being cheeky - the spaces are clearly to allow more space to get children in and out of the car. I wouldn't have said anything though.

🤣

You must enjoy creating drama or something.. was it really worth it?
Tbh when getting my 14 month old out of the car I don't really pay attention to what anyone else is doing.. and even if I did notice something, I would mind my own business and not say anything! You don't know their situation. Your DH was right to feel the way he did!

Oh wow. She had a child in the car and you still kicked off? Poor child. That must have been a fun experience for him.

I don't know if she's entitled but you definitely are.

Lazy bastards! If you don't need it, don't use it

Maybe she wanted to keep the option open to get her child out later. Maybe because her disabled son was in the car she wanted to he able to get back asap. Whatever it is you never know what's going on with another person. And if you don't know what's going on why not assume good intentions? Why do you think you have a right to judge? And why do you think it's ok to make a child uncomfortable just because you get a kick out of having a go at people unnecessarily? Honestly this is one of the sadder posts I've read today. I hope I never come across someone like you op. You sound nasty.

Why did you use the space if your husband was in the car?