To put dirty knickers in my own laundry basket?

[Megapops]

I've lived in houseshares for many years and always had my own laundry basket in my room. I've been living with DP for 4 years now, we have a great relationship, can talk about anything, and share everything BUT I prefer to put my used/worn underwear in my own little laundry basket I have for them. Sometimes I have period leaks or discharge and I dont want anyone seeing that/dealing with that. (Yes, it happens, I'm not embarrassed of my period but I'm quite a private person in general). I don't like using liners every day because it's bad for the environment.

Anyway, DP thinks this is weird and funny, and always jokes about my 'stash of underwear' I keep in their own basket! Is this really that weird? Does everyone else just put your worn underwear in the family/shared washing basket?

I think it's weird 🤷🏼‍♀️ but if it would make you feel self-conscious to put them in a shared basket then it's an easy solution I suppose.

All washing together in my house

I keep mine separate from all the other washing as I don't want them to get discoloured or ruined in the washer, they go into a mesh bag and are washed on a delicates setting. Nothing weird about keeping them separate IMO

I keep all my washing separate.

I don't think it's in any way weird to do what you want with your own laundry.

I think it's somewhat weird of your DH to comment, let alone frequently joke about it.

Is this really that weird? Does everyone else just put your worn underwear in the family/shared washing basket?

Yes. And yes.

I have never heard of anyone having their own laundry basket to hide their knickers from their partner.

You and your DP have a sexual relationship. They are absolutely not going to be shocked or disgusted if they catch a glimpse of your underwear. They know about periods. They know about discharge. They know about these things because they are very intimately acquainted with your genitals already.

Do you what you want with your knickers, but yes, your DP is right: it is absolutely weird to be scared of a partner seeing your pants.

Why not try some washable panty liners. I get mine from Honour Your Flow and use them for post menopausal leaks. That in itself wouldn’t help with the laundry issue but they come in lots of colours. I have mine pegged out on the line to dry, but I have no shame!

Everything goes in one basket here (it’s just the two of us).

I find it odd that you’re coy about your pants when your husband is intimately acquainted with what they contain.

I didn’t think it’s weird at all just not something I’d bother to do.

if I had expensive/delicate underwear I would but it’s just big standard cotton stuff !

I keep mine separate from all the other washing as I don't want them to get discoloured or ruined in the washer, they go into a mesh bag and are washed on a delicates setting

That's a bit different from hiding them because you don't want your partner to know what they look like after you take them off, though, isn't it?

Have your own laundry basket - not weird. Having a laundry basket just for knickers - weird.

Each DC has a laundry basket in their room and then DH and I share one in our room, which I put all my stuff in. If we did have a shared one, it wouldn’t bother me because I’m the only one who does the laundry in this house so who else is going to be rooting through it?

Yes it’s weird. He’s surely intimately acquainted with your nether regions anyway, putting your knickers in the same laundry basket isn’t going to make any difference?!

I throw them in the laundry with everything else but I also carefully hang them up to dry inside out on the lowest rung of the clothes horse so any discoloration or staining is not in anyone’s line of sight but the sun can still help fade the stains…
If your system works for you keep doing it.

This.

We share but have lived together since we were 20, fifties now. I certainly don't think it's weird that you have your own though.

I use a seperate laundry basket for delicate items like underwear, lingerie etc but it's not because I want to hide them, I just wash them seperately on a delicate wash. It's weird your husband jokes about it though

Sorry, not husband

I think it's a bit odd. Who cares if he sees your dirty knickers?

Not that it matters because it's completely normal to want privacy and not people seeing the remnants of your knickers

The weird one here is your DP, weird that he cares and weird that he comments and jokes about it.

I don't separate my underwear but no one should care, comment or joke if I did.

What you're doing hurts no one and it's annoying when people can't let others just 'be'.

We can't help how we feel about things. I like to poo on my own. Doesn't matter of they have seen me give birth, it is something that i like to do on my own. May not make sense to some people but it is what i am comfortable with.

I like to poo on my own

Er…..I don’t think you’re alone in that…

We just throw everything in one washing basket in this house but what I do find strange is when visiting friends and they have underwear drying on radiators when they know people are visiting 😳