Taking kids into adult caffe at leisure centre

[mamasharkdoodoo]

I've recently joined a huge gym/ leisure centre.

There is an area for kids, with tables and games etc.

There is only one caffe and today I took my DC there.

I have never seen other kids in the caffe. It's like they only hang out in the kids room with their parents.

I felt like I had a few looks. My toddler kicked off after a while and I left immediately, as not to disturb people. Normal procedure.

Kids are definitely allowed in the caffe. I find it a bit sad and telling of our society that other parents don't seem to take their kids in the caffe. Kids are part of life.

Would you just stay in the kid area ? Do you think it's rude to take your kids to the caffe ?

@Johnnysgirl I removed the child as soon as I needed to. Barely made any noise. And Even if they did, we all need to coexist don't we. You can't just lock Children away. Tough luck! They should ban them entirely if it's that bad. And you can stay at home if you never want to listen to the sound of a child !

What is the point of this thread? You took your child to a cafe that's not adults only. When child kicked off you did the appropriate thing and took the child out.

You've posted this complete non issue here, and are now responding to anyone who replies in a way that implies you posted purely to have a dig at folk who don't have the same views as you.

I like kids, I don't mind kids being in cafes that are not adult only cafes. I do however think I'd rather not be in a cafe with most adults. Maybe I'll start a thread about it.

You’re making yourself sound awful, OP 😂. I’m not sure I’d trust your version of events. Do you take your kids to theatre?

What a weird post! What on earth is your gripe, op? You're not really making much sense.

The point of the thread was for me to prove a point to myself - that I wasn't imagining that people gave funny looks, as most people think it's not appropriate to take children to a caffe at the posh gym.

It's not a coincidence I've not seen other kids in there, as my post has proven to me. I've made it clear I disagree and that's annoying some posters clearly.

I think the OP is complaining about kids being separated from ordinary public life.
But my kids would have preferred being in a free kids room with games where they can run around and be noisy, than in a cafe where they have to sit and be quiet. They did do the latter, but in this gym I would take them to the kids room - when they were that age. Nit to segregate them, but because they would enjoy it more.
I think when your baby is a bit older you may understand this choice more.

You forgot miserable and joyless - because of course the only way to be happy is to put children first all the time, whether they are your own or not!

They'd played for ages and we needed to get a snack. They'd also been in the crèche. Of course if there was food in the Kids are, I would have stayed there.

What does it all meeeeeean????!!!

Why do you keep saying over and over "kids are a part of life".

No, they're not part of my life. You don't get to speak on behalf of everyone.

I wouldn't take a child to the gym if I had one, think that's weird, but wouldn't be bothered about its presence in cafe as long as quiet and not bothering me.

But your the world revolves around children thing is inaccurate and weird.

I honestly wouldn't think like this - I personally wouldn't take mine to a posh gym cafe because they would far rather go somewhere else. But if it doesn't say no kids I'd take them if I thought they'd like it. I take my kids to all the places I need to go, unless it's inappropriate eg adults only. I certainly don't hide them away!

Ahh

I like kids and appreciate all their needs, ages and stages. For the record I thought mine was some sort of prophet of joy.

But.
If I paid a lot of money for a posh gym, for a bit of rare head space at a place that I thought adults mainly went, the very last thing I would want is to end the session with kid stuff. I feel this way about pubs, the quiet train carriages, sections of the library and basically anywhere that doesn’t need to know who Duggee or Bluey is.

Thankfully, kids aren’t a part of all parts of society, and if you respect society and other people then you should also respect the fact that not everyone likes or wants to see/hear kids especially when they’re at a posh gym café to switch off a bit and not be bothered by noisy children as it’s a bit selfish to inflict others with your kids being disruptive.
Not that I think op was in the wrong, as soon as little one started op took action.
Dont get me wrong I love kids but I choose when if I am able, like when at an adult café for instance.

The point of the thread was for me to prove a point to myself - that I wasn't imagining that people gave funny looks, as most people think it's not appropriate to take children to a caffe at the posh gym

Thats not what people are saying. People are saying it’s not appropriate to take noisy, rowdy children to a posh cafe. It’s not appropriate to take children to a designated adults only cafe but that’s not what this was.

From what I'm reading, most people are saying it's not appropriate to have taken children to the caffe at the posh gym. In fact, I think all people are saying that.

It’s caffe if it’s Italian

Oh well, can’t argue with stupid

From what I'm reading, most people are saying it's not appropriate to have taken children to the caffe at the posh gym. In fact, I think all people are saying that.

You’re reading a different thread then.

I have a kid, she’s very much part of my life. She doesn’t have to be part of someone at a posh gym’s café though, they are allowed childfree downtime whether they love or loathe children.*

Just one example

*Honestly I would hate this. I went out to lunch at a really nice restaurant yesterday. A couple turned up at the next table with a couple of twin toddlers who screamed and ran around and cried and were generally really bloody annoying.

They ruined everybody else's lunch.*

Another one

*I like kids and appreciate all their needs, ages and stages. For the record I thought mine was some sort of prophet of joy.

But.
If I paid a lot of money for a posh gym, for a bit of rare head space at a place that I thought adults mainly went, the very last thing I would want is to end the session with kid stuff.*

Another one

Who cares? There’s nothing morally wrong with wanting some peace and quiet.

Not sure it’s a cultural difference as our parents also took us everywhere but back then , unlike now, children were secondary to adults and we knew how to behave in all different situations. There are some places that children should be on their best behaviour and not be a nuisance to others. Nowadays lots of people think children should have everything they want and to be able to behave however they like. That’s really selfish and thoughtless, you have no idea what other peoples lives are like and why they want/deserve peace away from other peoples life choices.
As another commenter said, kids are not a part of life (for everyone) but they are a part of yours as you chose to have them. This doesn’t mean that they are the most important to anyone else.
I don’t mean to sound so harsh but just reading your comments makes me think you don’t care about anyone Barr your family which is actually what’s wrong with society, thinking you’re special and deserve special treatment, get over yourself

You said “most people are saying it's not appropriate to have taken children to the caffe at the posh gym. In fact, all people are saying that”. That’s clearly nonsense. Not all posters have said it is not appropriate to take children into posh cafes. Just go back and read again.