It terrifies me that anyone could watch that video, hear her genuine and justified fear and tell her she shouldn't have been scared.
In fact it doesn't just terrify me, it angers me.
Impact not intent. Whether or not he is aware of how his behaviour makes other people feel, their response is entirely justifiable and valid.
That poor woman was scared shitless. I would have been too.
And if someone doesn't understand boundaries or expectations due to a diagnosis, that doesn't make it any less scary for the person on the receiving end. In some ways it's scarier because they might not understand the impact their behaviour has or the fact it could get them in trouble so may just continue.
A number of my loved ones are autistic. I adore them. It is not the responsibility of women to feel guilty for being frightened of frightening behaviour, even if that behaviour is due to a diagnosis.
My relative has dementia and is sexually inappropriate due to this. He would have been mortified at his behaviour now, if he could have seen it before he became ill. He cannot help it. The behaviour is not his 'fault'. But the impact it would have on a woman is no different to that of the impact if he didn't have dementia.
Impact, not intent, should be the consideration when it comes to the victim.
That poor woman in the video was terrified.