To expect kids to eat bbq food?

[whynowe]

DH has invited his uni mates for a bbq at our house tonight. it was planned a few weeks ago.
However yesterday a few have asked if their wives and DC can come too. Of course we said yes.

We had plenty of food for everyone. Beef burgers/ chicken burgers/ chicken drums/ sausages & halloumi on the bbq + quite a few salads/ potato salad/ fries/ pasta salads etc

So I assumed the 3 DC (aged 5-12) would eat the same food as us

two wives( mothers of the children) got all emotional on me as I didn’t have anything “acceptable” for their children to eat. “Oh they can’t eat any of this!! “
They said next time I should ask before having children over .. but they will forgive me because I’m not a mum yet (I’m 32 weeks pregnant with our first)

Anyway the 2 wives left early and will HAVE to stop at McDonald’s on the way home as the children are starving. We had burgers too not McDonald’s ones though 😂

I said to DH I don’t want to ever see them again. He agrees they were rude to me and kept using “you’re still young, we will forgive you on this occasion”
I’m a little younger than any of them in this group.
AIBU to have expected the kids to eat same as the rest or should I have asked in advance? I thought there was plenty of choice between meats/ cheeses/ veg/ breads/ potatoes/ pasta etc 😅 not sure what else I could’ve done.

you’re still young, we will forgive you on this occasion

Bunch of rude bitches! I would have asked them to leave at that point and take their spoilt brats with them.

Did DH back you up?

Don't invite them again. They're trying to bully you.

PS: Do you have any leftovers? I'm starving but too hot to cook! Your BBQ sounds lovely and full of different choices.

What @BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz said.

I'd even go so far as to say that they were deliberately rude and in cahoots with each other.
It's what puerile, jealous bullies do.

My extremely fussy 5yo with ASD would have eaten fries, potato salad and a plain burger bun and he eats about 10 foods. Very odd there’s lots of choice of very plain food there. We survive eating out on the basis that most places can offer plain bread/fries/pasta or rice. Sure it might not be the most healthy diet for one night but then neither is fishfingers or pizza. Sounds like they just wanted to pick a fight.

Perfect.

What an absolute piss take. Your BBQ sounded perfect and my kids would have loved your food. I'm so pleased you and DH have agreed not to have them round again. How rude and patronising. Just coz they gave birth before you does not make them superior. Easier said than done but try and forget about them.

I'd understand if you were cooking my type of bbq food but beef and chicken burgers are average food for children. The parents are idiots and you should ignore them. Perhaps suggest they skip the BBQ and take the children to McDonalds without the guilt trip for everyone attending.

That’s absolutely ridiculous and they should have told you if the kids need to eat something special. What were they expecting?

@Lwren I literally just had the idea of doing Smiley Faces on a BBQ on kebab sticks....but if I used Alphabites instead I could make words....
"EAT ME"

Bugger that uninvite them.of course they can eat burgers etc the mothers are being bloody ridiculous. 🙄

Also good on you for hosting when heavily pregnant

I feel like the most annoying part is the "forgiveness" comment. Forgive you for what exactly?

That's ridiculous, I wouldn't even do separate food for my 1 and 3 year old! Plain rude

Potato salad, sausages and halloumi would have made my 5 year old VERY happy. They are weird and rude. Although if my DS was there, nobody else would have got any food, so swings and roundabouts!

Dd5 loves a bbq

thrif kids are weird as are parents. Burgers sausages chicken drumsticks bread chips

all normal

and love squeaky cheese

My 15 month old and 4 year old have been eating bbq kebabs and stuff since they was 6 months old.

Wish I was at your BBQ OP!

Your food sounds delicious. My youngest DC wouldn't eat what you have on offer but that's my problem not yours!

YANBU. If you have a fussy eater, you ask beforehand what's on the menu so you can offer to bring something that your child will eat. Better yet, teach your child to eat. There was plenty of choice in your menu. Enough for almost anyone to find something they could eat enough to to stave off the hunger pangs for a few hours. 🙄

These women sound like a pain. I wouldn't invite them again. Or if I did, I'd tell them exactly what I was serving and suggest they can stop at McD's on the way there, if the menu isn't to their liking.

Why wouldn’t you take your kids to a bbq? 🤔

How bizarre and rude. My kids are very fussy but they will eat sausages and burgers, as will most other kids I know.

You may "not be a mother yet" but you will by far do a better job of it then they are. Absolutely ridiculous. I cannot think of a child I know that would not eat from your menu

What on earth were they expecting you to serve at a bbq?! That sounds like perfect food for kids and adults of all ages. And if their kids are that extremely ridiculously fussy they should have brought their own food for them. Especially seeing as they invited themselves!
they sound extremely rude and entitled, and they sound like the immature ones. I’d avoid ever hosting them again.

Just so I understand this correctly. These wives invited themselves and their children to a BBQ and failed to mentioned in advance that the children don’t eat standard bbq food?

That’s bonkers.

I can’t read the full thread as I’m laughing so much.

‘They did ask if I had fish fingers they could have or a pizza. The unfortunate answer was no’ - Brilliant answer.

They’re ridiculous. And very rude.