Porn culture has led to women suffering injuries during sex

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Apart from all the violence etc porn portrays as normal, anal sex is definitely treated as an everyday thing that women enjoy. I don't personally. I know some women claim they do but I've certainly known men who pressure for it and I'm guessing it's only got worse in the years since I was dating.

This article suggests women are unknowingly entering into something that can cause serious injuries.

www.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

God this is awful.

Why does this make me feel lucky that as I approach 40 I've not only never had someone 'accidentally' try it but have never even been asked?

I don't give a fuck what consenting adults get up to. I do give a fuck that young, inexperienced women (and girls!) are being led to believe that so-called 'vanilla' sex is boring and therefore they are boring.

But I renin steadfast in my belief that women only enjoy it because men have taught them to

I know, it is amazing that some women actually claim to have some agency in their decision making or be able to decide independently what turns them on. Silly girls.

People are capable of saying no.

Genuinely cannot imagine any woman enjoying it. Grim. Don’t believe a word it . Plenty of ways to get your kicks but having a willy up the bum sure isn’t one of them.

Completely agree with this.

some of the comments on this page come across like it’s wrong to like something.

it’s not for everyone and I would never make anyone feel ashamed of things that they get sexual gratification from (unless it’s illegal!).

I’d love to see your source date for that ( and something tells me it will be gathered from a website frequented by anal sex enthusiasts).

No she didn’t- she talked utter rubbish. Read the guardian piece . Doctors make it clear that the female anatomy is different there.
To my mind anything in sex that you have to prepare for mentally is not happening.

Previous post referred to a pp claiming 11 grumps said it well.

Don't like it don't do it. I tried it and didn't particularly like it but if some do then carry on. Totally up to the individuals and their relationship. As long as it not under duress or coercive.

What is it?

Fully agree with you here! It's not for everyone, but some of us do like it. If it's safe, consensual and you do it correctly its absolutely fine.

I agree that porn culture has made this a more common sexual act. Women are shown in porn as really enjoying it and I hear that there are women on here who say that they do and that is obviously their choice and hopefully they have made that choice without being pressured as I am sure some people have, but I wonder how many women feel they have to consent to anal sex to keep their partners. It worries me, especially with young women who may not feel confident saying no. I have one friend who is around the same age as me who said she consented to it as she felt she would lose her partner and then felt awful afterward. I have never tried it as when I have had medical procedures that involved even a finger or instrument up the backside it has not felt pleasant! Plus I don't see how a woman can get stimulation from anal as there is not anything there like your clitoris.
As an older woman in my mid-50s I do not remember this being "a thing" and I think the wide availability of porn now being on the internet has popularised it. My husband who has more experience with porn than I do lol said that anal sex in porn films became more popular when videos etc came over from the USA in the 90s.

I have had a fair few sexual partners, not that many lol, but I have not been with the same man for life, and no one ever asked me or attempted it.
Same as shaving pubic hair off completely this was not something that many people did, we just gave it a bit of a trim or did the bits that hung out of bikini bottoms before holidays! Now, apparently, most women under 30 do not have pubic hair according to a gynae nurse colleague. This I think has been popularised by porn, obviously, it is a lot less harmful, just itchy in my limited experience. Just wondered if any other older women on here have had the same experience of not being asked for anal sex.

I think it's wrong to talk about liking it.

Truly I do. I have utterly no doubt some women like it. And being whipped and choked and all types of other harmful things. Why wouldn't women have a wife range of fetishes and kinks? Men do.

The issue isn't the liking it. The issue is normalising it. Women don't need widespread education on anal sex anymore than we need it on being whipped or choked. What we need is a widespread understanding that those things are potentially very dangerous and should only be done with somebody who cares about you and who can be trusted.

Apart from most women not liking anal, I just feel sad that there’s no romance anymore. And that is why I’m very unlikely to have another relationship.

I tried it twice (just to check I didn't like it) - the second time ex was scandalised when his penis came out with a little poo hat, and I remember wondering what on earth he expected!

It is all part of the utter disregard for women's humanity - ex was going down that path, with me he'd just got to 'I do not care if you enjoy it' but what made me end it was the actual, in my hands evidence of his cheating, and that being a poor woman - girl really - covered in bruises, telling him she couldn't wait for him to come back and give her some more. I just couldn't have someone that could do that in the house with me and the kids for one minute longer when I found that.

It's tighter basically.

What's in it for women? Not sure, I know people who like it though, or say they do. For me it's just weird, I mean that's the shitter.

Poo hat! 💩😂

It's a real issue and the thing is these people are growing up in a world where their main sources of political socialisation; their school, is a place where it's normalised. It's terrifying. I'm just thankful my daughter is still young I can work to pre-empt what she'll be told there. She already said today 'daddy you don't have any milk because you're a man' and I thought 'ah what a transphobic ba- I mean great! She knows what's what BEFORE she goes to school'

She's not been in school yet and I'm glad because I want her to have a basic grounding of reality before the system attempts their indoctrination.

Yanbu.

Teenage girls are being taught in school that it’s just another kind of sex, one which conveniently doesn’t cause pregnancy. It’s very sad.

It has nothing to do with sex and should have a different name.

Was heterosexual anal sex illegal in England? I never knew that; when was the law changed?

@CrazyBatLady66 I think women in porn use drugs to relax muscles and to be a bit out of it. That maybe why they look like they are enjoying it. I am old and still remember the days when men thought cunnilingus was the ultimate thrill.

I think girls do think or are made to believe it is "standard" and as a result there may be more girls having anal sex but it is not the norm, it is becoming normalised by the hardcore porn that is available on every teenagers phone.

My anus is a one way street. Stuff comes down, nothing goes up.

Anal sex was illegal in UK up until 60s or 70s It was referred to as sodomy, correction have just read it was only mad legal in 1994!

I don’t believe 25% of heterosexual couples engage in anal sex regularly - or if it’s true, the percentage in younger age groups must be huge to make up for the lack of anal sex in my age group - 40s! Of all my friends (who I’ve ever discussed it with that is!), only a couple have even ever tried it and all of the others have never tried it and don’t want to either.
I do understand that there are women out there who like it but in my whole life I’ve probably only met one or two.

I’ve no problem with what consenting adults get up to but I do worry that many young women do it not because they genuinely enjoy it but just to please their man and because they want to be seen as sexually adventurous as that’s much cooler than vanilla sex and being potentially labelled ‘boring in bed’. Of course, if you genuinely enjoy it, fine go for it but make sure it isn’t just something you’re doing because you feel you have to. You really don’t need it to have a great and fulfilling sex life.