Porn culture has led to women suffering injuries during sex

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Apart from all the violence etc porn portrays as normal, anal sex is definitely treated as an everyday thing that women enjoy. I don't personally. I know some women claim they do but I've certainly known men who pressure for it and I'm guessing it's only got worse in the years since I was dating.

This article suggests women are unknowingly entering into something that can cause serious injuries.

www.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

Backtotheninties paraphrasing "she won't shit right for a week."

I love anal. Not because of porn or being coerced by men. I just really like it. My partner enjoys anal aswell, being on the bottom too. We take turns.
You can do what you like with your body but shouldn't tell others what they can and can't do with theirs. Stop telling women what they enjoy is wrong because you don't like it. Its like any other sex act just don't do it if you don't like it. If it's being forced on you then it's a consent issue like any other rape or sexual assault.

@TeaStory being old enough to remember when it was illegal for gay men to express their sexual orientation is not exactly something to be proud of- it was an awful time in history and many, many men died either by suicide or murder simply because they loved other men. Equally chemical castration was rife and police brutality towards gay men was actively encouraged. Fine not to want to practice anal yourself but please let's not pretend that anal sex being illegal was a good thing!

Backtothenineties (sp) ⬆️

Actually I was referring to when the act was illegal for heterosexual couples, but thanks for your unfounded and incorrect accusations of homophobia.

@Luredbyapomegranate women are not more vulnerable than men, at least not when it comes to anal sex. Gay and bisexual men are just as at risk if they have unsafe and non consensual anal sex- with just as much damage. The difference is IN GENERAL they seem to be more clued up about how to do it safely.

The difference is IN GENERAL they seem to be more clued up about how to do it safely.

this! And I think this arises from a place where if you’re having encounters with another bloke and you’re trying to do that without any preparation he might well justifiably tell you to F off!

the problem with anal, young women, and porn is that you have a toxic intersection of

• entitled young men pressuring women as ever to do something - but this time it’s from a place of ignorance as to HOW to do it

• lack of any prep massively multiples risk of tearing

• some young women that age are hugely reluctant to say “go to hell” and try and go through with something massively painful

so yeah. very dangerous when you take into account the difference here

Savoir most of your post is really sensible and I agree with you.

I think your being unfair to accuse others of pearl clutching though. You can't deny that modern porn now and the ease of access to this material specifically is teaching many young people that it's totally normal and to be expected. This is a major factor in the horrific injuries girls are experiencing.

Absolutely and I really believe porn plays a huge part in this.

@TeaStory you did not clarify that. In any case no distinction was made. The "anti-buggery" law was finally lifted in the UK in 1994. It wasn't specific to sexual orientation but to the act itself. You'd be silly to believe that the law didn't disproportionately affect gay men.

@SavoirFlair exactly! It isn't the act but the culture around it, and as ever, the lack of education.

Around 25% of heterosexual couples have and enjoy anal sex regularly. That is surprisingly not that different a statistic to how many gay or bisexual men do-
Many MSM don't have penetrative anal sex, and some either only "give" or "receive".

It's tighter so can give a stronger sensation. I wonder whether there might be a feedback loop here whereby men who wank too much to hardcore porn and have desensitised dicks due to death grip, then require the stronger stimulation of anal to feel anything during sex.

Which is not to say that the dominance and abuse is not part of it as well.

Personally I've done it a couple of times with girlfriends in the past, but didn't see the big deal and prefer the feeling of a vagina.

Untrue. Anal sex between men over 21 was made legal in 1967. For heterosexual couples it was 1994.

www.stonewallcymru.org.uk/help-advice/criminal-law/sexual-offences

And considering the thread is specifically about the experiences of women having anal sex with men, there was no need for me to ‘clarify’.

@tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz I think the issue is that the pearl clutching about anal sex being awful, a one way door, something for gay men only, etc makes the act itself seem shameful and disgusting, when it isn't. It therefore becomes a taboo so those who have it/enjoy it don't talk about it, meaning less information gets put out there to counteract the negative portrayal in porn, etc. we need to talk about it as a healthy part of a sex life FOR THOSE WHO CHOOSE IT and then support safety and communication. All these "anal is disgusting I would never do it and straight people shouldn't do it" posts really actually harm women.

@TeaStory I stand corrected. I'd love to see statistics which show persecution or straight couples who engaged in anal between 1967 and 1994...

Fair point.

The article specifically says women are more at risk than men because of their anatomy.

@TeaStory also, could you clarify, you do think it was good that anal sex was illegal for heterosexual couples? If so, why?

No, I don’t think it was ‘good’. I mentioned my memory and experience because the shift from it being illegal and taboo to being a “normal” and commonly-accepted part of sex feels like it has happened really quickly. I’m a little surprised at how much and how quickly the culture around sex has changed.

I remember watching a porn or prostitute documentary when I was in my teens & one women was quite badly incontinent from anal sex, tbh it put me off for life. I then thought that maybe the doc was extreme as it's never discussed.

I agree.

I did not know that Women have less robust anal sphincters and the education for young women seems so critical given the potential impact.

This.

Sometimes I am so bloody glad I'm old.

The article specifies it is more dangerous for women than for men.

I'd imagine, the changing cyclical levels of hormones (as is known to affect sports injuries in women), the greater vulnerability of the pelvic muscles that need to both contain an extra organ- that gets pretty damn heavy during pregnancy- and also allow the baby out. So it's a sling with a designed weak area.

I don't think it's right to deny the additional risk for women.

The internet completely changed access to porn and fuelled demand. It's the only reason why practices that were niche are now seen as mainstream.

I'm dreading my dc being exposed to it all. Already I've heard of some unexpected stuff that's been picked up in the primary playground.

It's not pearl clutching. I've done my fair share of experimentation and I've slept with more people than many.

I think it's extremely sad that this generation's expectations of sex are so influenced by porn.

I sort of knew it could cause long term issues but I didn’t know that physiologically women were more likely to suffer injuries than men. Teens absolutely need to be educated in that because the expectation now is that girls will be having vaginal and anal sex with their boyfriends.