Porn culture has led to women suffering injuries during sex

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Apart from all the violence etc porn portrays as normal, anal sex is definitely treated as an everyday thing that women enjoy. I don't personally. I know some women claim they do but I've certainly known men who pressure for it and I'm guessing it's only got worse in the years since I was dating.

This article suggests women are unknowingly entering into something that can cause serious injuries.

www.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

This is where I stand. There is a lot of thrush in the pressure, porn, men taking advantage and committing assault. But from someone who's done it, I've had both good and bad experiences. If you've never done it, you can't possibly know enough, but that's absolutely your choice to refuse.

Calling women brainwashed is plain stupid and offensive, to those who have. Sucking a penis means you're equally brainwashed, it gives you zero sexual pleasure and is commonly in porn.

I think perhaps Miffee was thinking about coordination and organisation. I can't speak for her. I know that's where my mind wanders... it's a bit like taking something perfectly good, and turning it into something very elaborate. Why bother?

No need to explain. I'm just musing to myself. I won't be organising anything elaborate anytime soon!

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www.nhs.uk/conditions/bowel-incontinence/

A lot of people especially young women don't have much of a voice once something is 'mainstream' and normalized it is more difficult for them to say no. One thing is for sure it is not a natural thing to do nature didn't intend for it and most young people think it is harmless, there needs to be more of this in sex education
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6595871/Online-porn-horror-Girl-16-forced-colostomy-bag-attempting-group-anal-sex.html

@Miffee has just about finished me off here Priceless and says it better than I ever could

Look, just think of all the fun you'll have on the fecal incontinence wards in a few decades and crack the fuck on!

Of course it doesn't affect me one bit, what you choose to do with your bottom. But I renin steadfast in my belief that women only enjoy it because men have taught them to

I hate the attitude, prominently displayed on this thread, that if a woman actually likes anything that you don't, or anything that a man likes, she's a pick me cool girl who's brainwashed by the patriarchy and desperate to be special.

Stop patronising and putting women down, and take your superiority complex back to your echo chamber.

(Happy to describe in graphic detail exactly what it is I like about anal but I thought I'd leave it)

Idk I find it weird how you can claim to care about women and simultaneously mock them. If you truly believe women are pressured into it, surely you should be more compassionate? It's good to spread awareness of risks but you don't come across as genuine but doing that.

I dont understand why straight men like this)Ok had a sheltered life I guess!) Surely this is a gay practice? Anyway good that it has been picked up on by Doctors now . Lets hope no young girls are coerced into this unwholesome practice

I'm don't think I did claim to care about women did I? However that goes without saying.

I really care. I really care that my daughter is fully aware that anal sex and choking may well be normalised now but it isn't something she should be pressurised into doing.

Like I said, if you say you like it, carry on. My opinion is that women don't like it, they just think they do (and that's my OPINION which differs to yours)

What age did you start talking to your daughters/sons about this? I don't think not educating girls or boys is ever the answer even if the conversations are difficult.

People often enjoy many sexual things that are transgressive, a lot of sexual enjoyment starts in the mind rather than strictly with the act only.

@Mojoj could you be any more patronising???

Is it coincidence that the Anusol advertisement appeared next to this thread?

eeeww.. I've had enough problems after childbirth!!

Same, but I'm 42. I'll also educate my dc.

This. ^ I tried it once (with my DH) some 20 years ago. He didn't coerce me or anything, we both collectively decided to try it. I had to have 4 shots of whiskey, and get quite tipsy, to get enough confidence to do it!!!

I fucking HATED it. As a pp said, it felt like having a shit backwards. Even though I consented and we used lube, I still hurt and ached afterwards, and it felt so weird and horrible. It was about 5 days before I could shit! (Sorry, TMI!)

DH kept saying he was so sorry, as I said it had hurt, but it wasn't his fault. I said I never wanted to do it again, and he was fine with that. He was not bothered.

As @ChickenChop and some other posters have said, I find it very hard to believe that anyone enjoys it, and I think they have been brainwashed. In addition, even if women do consent, and they are not instantly hurt, the long term affects can be dire. They can suffer from anal incontinence, and a slack anus (anal sphincter muscle damage.) Anal sex is a common cause of faecal incontinence.

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The actual article is a very brief commentary that uses one study that imaged anuses to support their findings. I am not syaing it isn't true but the article isn't all that convincing or well supported

www.bmj.com/content/378/bmj.o1975

THAT is the last thing we should teach young women. They need to learn that they have a right to enjoy sex and that their pleasure centres (very rich pleasure centres)are not located in their anus, that orgasms start in another place and that anal sex is gross anyway.

I should add that more health education is always a good thing and teaching both gay men and young men about the safest and healthiest ways to engage in anal sex if they choose to do so is important.

The article really just doesn't have evidence to support that it is any different for women than men and many gay men engage in anal sex.

Some people enjoy a bit of pain and fear, but really it belongs in s and m. Blame 50 shades. It's different for men who have the prostate and can get some pleasure from it. Women who say it's fun must have some unique wiring going on with pain pleasure sensors. Don't like men thinking pressuring women into this is ok. It goes with all the choking, spitting, slapping misogyny of porn. Utterly depressing for women.

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Women's anuses are no different than men's- what nonsense!

It's not only the anus involved, though. Receiving anal is physically pleasurable almost immediately for most men because it indirectly stimulates the prostate. Sure, some women certainly can experience pleasure from the same act but it's not the exact same set of physical sensations from the same sources. I think part of the issue - not with porn but with regular old non-rapey men pushing for anal sex from women - is that a lot of men genuinely don't know much about female anatomy and women's sexual response as distinct from male, and are expecting any and all women to feel pleasure almost immediately and without much preparation or foreplay. Which, I suppose, is confusing for him and disappointing for her if it doesn't happen.

Don't sleep with so many men.

Many men find anal sex to be quite uncomfortable or painful and not pleasurable at all. Some gay men choose to never receive as they do not find it pleasurable at all. A penis near a prostate is not an automatic pleasure source. Some men enjoy it as do some women.