Porn culture has led to women suffering injuries during sex

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Apart from all the violence etc porn portrays as normal, anal sex is definitely treated as an everyday thing that women enjoy. I don't personally. I know some women claim they do but I've certainly known men who pressure for it and I'm guessing it's only got worse in the years since I was dating.

This article suggests women are unknowingly entering into something that can cause serious injuries.

www.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

I think the modern 'consent' thing is the biggest bullshit I have ever heard. I 'consented' to many things when I was an idiotic 16 year old - if the culture around you is sexually toxic and too politically stifled to tell the truth about dangerous sexual behaviour it means that many people are going to suffer despite their so-called 'consent'. Being truly 'informed' the dangers of anal sex, would be politically controversial and people would not like it cos prejudice. So sexual liberation means rapey teen culture.

@justasking111 those comments are so unhelpful and actually set the whole issue back. As noted on this thread, anal sex can be pleasurable for both men and women. Many women enjoy it and want to include it in their sex lives, too. It's about safety and communication and education and risk reduction.

I'm guessing you don't know what a prostate gland is

@excitingusername

Yep thank god my mother was ahead of the times. Unfortunately I was still a dumb 16 year old who at the time consented to being filmed during another act. Young women really need this hammering home.

You'll never convince me that women like anal sex, no matter how many times some posters on here say they love it.

It's driven by men and porn and it's become mainstream and normalised and women 'think' they like it

And yes, I know full well I'll be pounced on but I don't care!

@UglyNameChange actually you are right, it probably isn't helpful to name call. It's just very frustrating that just because some people choose not to do something, and that is totally fine and completely up to them, that it makes certain topics more taboo and therefore less likely to be discussed when actually what we need is space for discussion. And people shut down when someone is so vehement against something and therefore might be less likely to ask for support when they need it.

This is a very interesting point, I’m glad you said this as I was just discussing consent with my teen and this is a point worth discussing. Seems so obvious now that I have read it.

@StClare101 absolutely I could not agree more! My DS is five and I already talk to him about consent!!

It concerns me that via porn and a sexualised society, young people are being exposed to a far wider range of sex acts, and thus desiring to try them. It seems a million miles away from young people exploring each other's bodies and discovering what feels good.

I find that sad. I'm not convinced education/porn- a greater knowledge- is actually assisting youngsters.

I’m so sorry that happened to you.

@ChickenChop @Mojoj

I think it's quite interesting that you both refuse to believe that I, and other posters, actually enjoy anal!

I am almost 40 and am confident in what I like and don't like- and know my body well enough to know what feels pleasurable and what does not.

YOU might not enjoy it. That's cool. But please don't reign to tell me what I do and do not actually enjoy. That really takes away any sense that women are autonomous beings with their owns needs and turn ons.

Shock horror, I often even enjoy anal toys when masturbating- no men around then to impress! Just me!

I was open minded, Tried it twice with both husbands, both times totally horrible peculiar sensation and felt like shitting glass for several days after. I can only conclude the sensation of pushing it up is more pleasurable than receiving it- maybe we should see if partners ok with a dick sized strap on up there first.

Around 25% of heterosexual couples have and enjoy anal sex regularly

Surely that should read “Around 25% of heterosexual couples who replied to the survey have and enjoy anal sex regularly”? I doubt that the less adventurous person would even respond to such a survey, so I imagine that the figure is a lot lower than 25%.

I wonder if they like it in the same way I used to like a one night stand. The thrill of a subversive act.

@picklemewalnuts I agree. The only thing is that without measured education, they look to porn for answers- and that has caused so many issues!

I don't have a problem if others genuinely enjoy it and not just to keep partners happy - I just didn't

@Crikeyalmighty actually you joke, but my current partner really enjoys receiving anal penetration. We have a vibrating anal dildo just for him.

It's not ALWAYS men pushing women to do something they don't want to

Unfortunately it often is, and so we need to talk about it more in general so we can start to differentiate.

Shock horror, I often even enjoy anal toys when masturbating- no men around then to impress! Just me!

I am horrified, not about you sticking things up your own arse generally. More that you go to so much effort to masturbate, honestly who could be arsed (couldnt resist) with that? Do you struggle?

@Crikeyalmighty and that's totally fine! It's not for everyone.

@Miffee I like it because it feels good. I like the sensation of the pressure inside me.

I have no problem with others enjoying it. I'm always amazed people don't like the things I like! I mean, come on. Ice cream?! But strangely some don't like it. I adore coriander. DS1 hates it and can smell a shred from 30 paces.

We all like different things.

We need to know when some of those things are dangerous if badly performed. Our girls need to know it's not just something they can do to please their partners, or something that might feel good. It's something that can cause them life long health problems.

@Miffee why would that shock you? It might feel like effort to you but if I enjoy it, why wouldn't I do it? I am genuinely curious why it surprises you so much that other people enjoy things you don't?

I mean don't get me wrong, I don't roll out the toy collection every time! Some times it's a quick shower head number or finger play. Other times a longer session with toys.

Why not?

@picklemewalnuts exactly!

@RampantIvy I'll have to look into the research more. All (good) research takes into account response bias and should endeavour to have a random and representative sampling, and I know some research has been conducted in surprising settings and that results remain consistent over the years. I'll find out mor and come back to you but we're not talking about a survey in cosmo- actual scientific research.

I'm guessing you don't know what a prostate gland is

@justasking111 can you read? I said men LIE. Men who say they don't like anal to their wives can LIE. A man who said it (anything in his bum) was gay (the most vile thing, in his mind) asked me to do that very same thing.