Porn culture has led to women suffering injuries during sex

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Apart from all the violence etc porn portrays as normal, anal sex is definitely treated as an everyday thing that women enjoy. I don't personally. I know some women claim they do but I've certainly known men who pressure for it and I'm guessing it's only got worse in the years since I was dating.

This article suggests women are unknowingly entering into something that can cause serious injuries.

www.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

😂Pol, is Sunglasses your kid? Or spouse? Either way, you've definitely got a avid follower of the crusade. Doggedly loyal.

Bye, lovelies.

I agree, it’s the blatant misogyny that’s the problem. If teenagers watch it and it’s their first experience of sex then it’s very damaging, for boys and girls but I have to say mostly girls as it’s usually about using and abusing women.

Anal sex comes with risk of tears

having Just read a cosmopolitan article and another aimed at safety this is mentioned at the end

but that apparent quite normal and with the advise don’t be alarmed if you see a small amount of blood

how is that safe it isn’t would we claim that was safe with vaginal sex or oral sex no but this is the narrative now

@excitingusername

They can judge situations and decide it's not for them

They don't however get to judge those who do things differently to them

That's nasty, not something many parents would want their child to be doing

I'd have failed as a parent if my child grew up like you, thinking anything between two consenting adults is disgusting and wrong.

I don't like oral sex, doesn't mean I think those who do are disgusting whores

I don't like the missionary position, doesn't mean I think those who do are boring.

You can have a difference in opinion without negatively judging those who don't share that opinion. Unfortunately it's not something you were taught. That's a shame

So does child birth

In fact there is a significantly higher risk of tearing with child birth than anal sex

Do you propose teaching children to never get pregnant?

What an achievement for you to look back on in old age.

Indeed, and campaigning for education on safe sex when we are facing catastrophic climate change and dealing with the consequences of a global pandemic while attempting to managing lack of food and energy resources in am increasingly polarised and undemocratic world. But hey, let's talk about anal sex baby! 😁

I mean, just how much does it take to be educated on this seemingly intricate activity? It doesn't sound like rocket science 🤔? On the other hand, who knows, a Manchester University Phd student is conducting an 'anthropological' study of masturbating to child SA imagery. Perhaps the meaning of education has changed?

Indeed, and campaigning for education on 'safe' anal sex.

childbirth is necessary to keep the human race going

anal sex isn’t it’s a sex act some may enjoy

what a stupid point to make

This is possibly the most stupid reply I've ever read

If you could read as well as you can rant you would have spotted that I am arguing for education. Explain to young people that this is risky activity and there is no “safe” way to do it. Encourage young women to question the motives of men who suggest it. Why does he want something which may damage me? Is that a sign of a good person with healthy attitudes to women?
you want to train for compliance with what is ultimately a male demand motivated by porn. That’s not education

It is normal to bleed a little when you first have sex if the hymen hasn’t previously ruptured. That was the proof of virginity on the marriage bed. These days with use of tampons etc most girls have ruptured before they have sex.

But blimey, bleeding from the rectum after anal sex is a sign of damage.

Agreed @Silverfinch yet, they long to educate the next generation on obscure matters, it's frankly bizarre.

Anal sex comes with risk of tears

I imagine it's quite eye watering yes

I thought anal sex was rampant, now it's obscure?

I know it will take some beating 😆

Agreed @Silverfinch yet, they long to educate the next generation on obscure matters, it's frankly bizarre.

But the whole of this thread is that it's being 'normalised' and 'expected' because of exposure to porn'.

hang on .

It's not about 'longing to educate' it's about educating to protect.

I'm very confused as to why you keep equating tears/damage due to childbirth with tears/damage due to anal sex.

Yes childbirth is risky. It can't be made safe. However without childbirth the human race would die out, and as animals we have an innate drive to reproduce. Not having children is not a feasible solution to childbirth injuries.

Anal sex is something people choose to do - we don't have an innate drive for buses. Educating people to avoid anal sex as a way to minimise risk of anal injuries has no effect whatsoever on the human race.

It's very interesting that the discussion is about "shaming" and how much fun anal is.

It's arguable how "fun" anal actually is given as stated upthread not that many people do it. In any case though, lots of harmful activities are fun- that's why people do them even though they are risky. I'm interested as to why we think we should educate teenagers about how to enjoy risky sex "safely" - it seems different to other high risk activities.

So for example, we don't educate teenagers on safe ways to procure and take heroin. That's fun though, and people use it so the horse has bolted. If we advocated the same approach you are suggesting for heroin as anal, we'd educate children how to take it safely and make it their lookout if that went wrong.

We don't educate children how to minimise the risks of smoking - we tell them smoking is harmful and to avoid it, we make it difficult and prohibitively expensive to smoke. If we used the approach you advocate, we'd tell them they could die of cancer but not increase the price of cigarettes and slap graphic warnings on the packets to make them ashamed.

You can tell children things are risky, harmful and best avoided without "shaming" them. We do it all the time for lots of things, why is anal different?

😂*Pol, is Sunglasses your kid? Or spouse? Either way, you've definitely got a avid follower of the crusade. Doggedly loyal.

Bye, lovelies.*

you're amazing @excitingusername all that bile before 10 on a Saturday. Have a coffee.

There is a huge gulf between making someone (usually female) choke and consented, prepared for and planned anal sex; l don’t think we should combine the two.

With skill and preparation anal can be pleasant as a once in a while change. Anal is nothing new and was depicted in collages in Ancient Greece and Rome, including the bathhouses. It really does require discussion and communication between those involved and someone you can trust. Porn is acting, so is James Bond, but the former is often bad acting. As in a lot of matters sexual it shows wrong techniques, if you can call it that, gives the wrong signals to young males and belittles females.

Should someone try to choke me, they would go through the bedroom window.

If you could read as well as you can rant you would have spotted that I am arguing for education. Explain to young people that this is risky activity and there is no “safe” way to do it.

I'm with you @TullyApplebottom but somehow I don't think that warning young people about the physical and mental health risks of anal sex is what pp who bang on about anal sex education have in mind.

In her day men used it as a way to 'punish' their wives and it seemed relatively widespread among her friends, Co-workers and her army of Avon ladies

Horrible😥

Wow. What an idiotic post. I'm baffled at you.I said that I would have anal sex with someone that I trusted . And you said that was stupid.

You're calling women stupid, that wait to trust their partners before they have anal sex with them. You are bizarre.

I would much rather have anal sex with a man that I trust.
Before I had anal sex, I talked with the man for a long time about it, we agreed boundaries, we agreed that if it hurt me he would stop. Yes I trusted him and it made the experience really good

Calling me "beyond stupid". What a horrible post. Did you get your bullying out of the way now for today. Feel better ?

Depends who you're hanging out with, I suppose?

Another one who can’t read. What is stupid is suggesting that an act which carries risk of physical harm becomes not risky if you do it with someone you trust. That’s utter bollocks.
if you feel the risks worth running, that(and any consequences) is on you. Good luck with it, but don’t suggest it’s fine to impressionable young people

Most advocate for balanced education

Just telling children something is bad doesn't help. It's the 'get pregnant and die' fallacy

People need to have all information available to make informed consent. Not just the positives seen in porn or the scare tactics many on here are advocating for either.