Whether I have or like anal sex or not is irrelevant to this thread. This is about a societal issue, not our personal preferences.
It's unhelpful when posters state as if incontrovertible fact that X sexual practice, whatever it is, can't possibly be liked by any woman / is 'gross', or that any woman who claims to enjoy it is 'brainwashed'. There are plenty of things I have no interest in trying, but I accept that other women may enjoy them. Similarly, the women who do enjoy activities which carry a higher degree of risk than the norm have a responsibility when they talk about those activities. There is a difference between normalising a practice and normalising conversation about that practice, which should highlight the risks. For example, there is simply no safe way of sexually choking someone, and anyone who claims otherwise has merely been lucky to date. That is a practice where there needs to be conversation about it, but that conversation needs to be "this is extremely risky, women die, yes some women may enjoy the sensations of being partially strangled and if you're one of them that doesn't make you weird, but the benefit is absolutely not worth the risk". Similarly, the more we learn about the risks to women of anal sex, the more we should be highlighting those risks.
There is a big difference between a woman in a sexual relationship (whether short- or long-term) with a man who respects her, her boundaries and her preferences deciding to try something from a position of being informed and confident of being able to stop it if she finds it unpleasant, and what is happening to far too many young women because of the pervasive influence of male-gaze porn (which is the majority of porn, of course) and particularly violent porn.
We need to find a way of empowering girls to feel comfortable saying "no", and when the time comes, only saying "yes" to something they feel fully informed about - especially any risk - and enthusiastic towards. We need to help them recognise what is genuine sexual curiosity, and what is a potential trauma response. We need to support them that it's okay to say "I don't care if everyone from the old woman down to the fly and spider she swallowed are trying this, I DON'T WANT TO", and we need to teach boys to respect their sexual partners, to accept "no" without coercion or shaming. Both sexes will benefit from understanding that the majority of modern porn is misogynistic and fake and is not a template for a healthy sex life. For girls, I think it starts not with setting healthy boundaries in sex but setting the bar higher in male partners full stop. We need to teach and support and model behaviour around not settling for any man because it's perceived as somehow better than being alone.
And we all, including on here, need to stop categorising women into 'prudes and pearl clutchers' or 'brainwashed cool girls'. Set your own boundaries for your own body; don't police other women setting theirs.