Refusing to pay back my "friends " mum money I owe aibu?

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6 months ago I borrowed a friend £300 and they promised to pay me back.
I didn't pressure them and mentioned it after 5 months ..to be told "I can't right now"
This person now has plenty of money(I won't go into detail how but she does)
She said she would give me them on her pay day (28th )
Pay day came and went and she didn't give me a penny and said she would have to take it from the kids school uniform money and did I want her to do it.
Whilst the day before uploading pics of new trainers she bought herself and designer glasses.

We bought concert tickets and she put them on her mums credit card £100 in June.
I said great il pay on my pay day.
My pay day came and she asked for the £100
I was fuming and said "just take it out of the £300 you owe me and just give me £200

All hell broke loose calling me a thief and told her mum I was refusing to pay her
Writing all over Facebook how you can't trust anyone blah blah

Aibu ?

Fuck me, there are SO MANY arrogant pedants on this thread, attacking the OP's spelling and grammar, and the fact that they're making worse mistakes than the OP is as funny as fuck!

Read the whole post and maybe some replies and your small brain will understand exactly what she meant. It's not rocket science. Some of you weirdos are insufferable.

Oh god are you 14? But just say "I'll happily pay but I need the £300 you owe me first, as promised, as I was planning to use that money to pay for my ticket". But basically kiss goodbye to the money and the friend and consider it lesson learned.

How about a public "I'll be able to pay her back once you pay me the 300 you owe me"?

Can you only read one post per day or something?

I can't see why you haven't figured out the answer to your stupid question otherwise.

She is a thieving rat.

If you have a way of contacting her mum, contact her mum directly, tell her that friend owes you £300, you did not know that friend would charge her mum’s card for this £100 ticket, and that while friend still owes you £300, if the mum desperately needs it, you will pay the mum and ONLY THE MUM the £100 via bank transfer.

But before doing that, think about all you’ve said about your friend. Have you seen a receipt for this ticket? Do you even know it actually cost £100 and not £60, for example? Do you know for certain it’s already been bought (do you already have the ticket)?

Meanwhile, if you’re that worried about social media, there are a million succinct things you can reply to indicate that she’s already had £300 off you, you have no proof she used her mum’s credit card, you have no proof the ticket even cost £100 (if this is true), and until you get the £300, you’d be a fool to make it £400. Don’t throw good money after bad.

I don't think I know anyonne personally who doesn't know the correct word to use but as the OP is being advised to go to the small claims court it's essential that she knows to make her claim using the proper words

As far as I know there isn't a special legal system for her part of town, she will get nowhere unless she can explain the problem correctly in the first place

For the love of god don’t give her the money, tell her that you will pay her the 100 when she pays the three hundred as thay will provide the cash

You need to pay her mum the money you owe her mum.

You need to take the former friend to small claims court.

Then you need to dump her.

I'd pay the money, OP. It's so shit, but I would.

Then respond to her posts saying you have paid it and look forward to getting the money she owes you before x date, or you will be going to small claims court

Bloody love it when the grammar police are illiterate.

Made a right twat of yourself haven't you.

Pay the £100 directly to the mum.

FFS, have any of the posters who have picked up on the use of 'borrowed' in the OP managed to do it without fucking up their own SPAG?

Messy because her Mum paid, not her. If she’d paid then I’d say YANBU not to send the £100 because she obviously owes you triple. What I will say is you need to contact her Mother directly if you’re able to do this and explain the situation. Her Mum might be a more reasonable person than her daughter and may tell you you don’t have to pay it. Either way, don’t send the friend any more money because she clearly can’t be trusted and definitely isn’t a friend.

Applauding Kanaloa, the only non-knob on the whole thread...

You should never have said you’d pay her on your payday if you didn’t intend too. You can’t take the moral high- ground here you are both as bad as each other

Don’t lend friends money! Both myself and another friend were owned more than £35000 that we lent to a struggling actor friend. That was in 2004 with the promise he would pay us back as soon as his business in film production took off! This is someone we both trusted. Till this day, neither of us have seen a penny despite even getting a debt collector involved. The guy who owes us the money is raking in money and living a great life, but every time he was asked for the money, he would threaten us. Our mutual friend died abroad in hospital not having the funds for urgent surgery. I know I will never see a penny. I cannot see you getting back your money OP unless there’s a miracle coming your way. I am sorry you learned the hard way too. At least you didn’t lose all your savings.

OP does NOT owe the mum any money! That's crazy. If I borrowed money from my mum to buy you a ticket, then you pay ME back and I pay my mum back. There's zero obligation from you to my mum. What if I borrowed the money from the bank? Would you owe the bank money? What if I stole the money? Should you go to jail?

This thread is crazy.

I suspect that those hearing the case will be intelligent enough, and experienced enough, to establish the facts. People of all levels of education need to use the courts so staff and judges involved have the nous to interpret such dialect errors, and ensure that they have the correct information.

What did she say when you said to her, why does it have to be out of the kids uniform fund if you bought trainers and glasses yesterday?

Can we all stop discussing the term borrowed or lent it is getting boring poor OP came here for advice we are grown woman on this chat - right?

And you think the professionals wouldn't advise her of the correct term? I swear some of you need a slap across the head.

I would imagine if there’s terrible confusion she’ll be asked to clarify, which she then will.

Much like how someone might use slang or dialect when chatting to friends but will of course be aware that they shouldn’t use it in a form they’re filling out for work.

And unlike posters on here, most who work in the legal system are intelligent enough to understand contextual information and ask for further clarification if they need it.

It is. I grew up in an area where people used borrow this way, and presumably still do. My mum was a SPAG pedant though, so even though my friends would say they'd borrowed something TO someone, I never did.

There are many errors that are particularly prevalent in certain regions. Unless you're lucky enough to have a level of education (or a pedant for a parent) to overcome then, they can be hard to avoid.