Refusing to pay back my "friends " mum money I owe aibu?

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6 months ago I borrowed a friend £300 and they promised to pay me back.
I didn't pressure them and mentioned it after 5 months ..to be told "I can't right now"
This person now has plenty of money(I won't go into detail how but she does)
She said she would give me them on her pay day (28th )
Pay day came and went and she didn't give me a penny and said she would have to take it from the kids school uniform money and did I want her to do it.
Whilst the day before uploading pics of new trainers she bought herself and designer glasses.

We bought concert tickets and she put them on her mums credit card £100 in June.
I said great il pay on my pay day.
My pay day came and she asked for the £100
I was fuming and said "just take it out of the £300 you owe me and just give me £200

All hell broke loose calling me a thief and told her mum I was refusing to pay her
Writing all over Facebook how you can't trust anyone blah blah

Aibu ?

You have no reason to believe you owe her mum anything.
'Friend' asked her mum for a favour putting concert tickets on her card. She is responsible for that debt.

She owed you £300, she owes you £200 now.

Ideally you should have had that conversation before agreeing to the concert tickets arrangement.

If you want to set the record straight on the posts be very clear.

"You owed me £300.
You asked your mum to pay for concert tickets on our behalf, my share of which was £100, therefore you still owe me £200".

Or lent?

Don't lend people money unless you can afford to gift it away

Don't book expensive tickets with friends who owe you money.

Or…. I’ll pay your mum back her £100 once you’ve given me the £300 you owe me. You said I’d have it last payday so I budgeted for having it back when I agreed for you to purchase the tickets.

As for all grammar police with nothing better to do. If they were as smart as they are trying to make out then they would easily have been able to work out the jist of the initial post either from your original post or latter comments.

At least you got £100 back
It's the only way thieves like her understand

Post on Facebook or whatever archaic social media platform you're on about what she's done to you - embarras the lowlife

You don't need this scum as a mate so don't worry about the crap friendship you have being lost

Learn to speak properly too - you loaned her money not borrowed!
Dictionaries are online now - no excuse.

It's unnecessarily rude comments like this that will stop the OP coming back to give an update.

because you are never going to see a penny of the £300 back if you refuse to pay her mum back.

she's wasn't ever going to see the £300 back

now though she's £200 down

strange how its ok to not pay a friend back but when it happens to one of your own its terrible

YANBU I'd reply to all social media posts with an accurate account of what has happened and I'd explain the same to her Mum too. I'd then write off the money and the friendship.

Tell the mum her daughter owes her now so your debt is reduced. Why should you be £400 Out of pocket.

I do see why you did it but if it is her mum’s bill she’ll no doubt not get it back from her daughter so she’ll be stuck paying it, plus interest. There’s no way I would have agreed to the concert tickets in the first place mind you whilst she still owed me the money. I think I’d contact the mum directly and ask to see her credit card bill- if she had paid it I would pay it back and then sell the tickets if possible, then write off the rest. If she can’t prove her mum paid I’d not pay the money back. But overall I think you need to chose your friends more wisely and establish some boundaries.

I don’t agree that you owe her mum money
she bought the tickets , that she used her mums card is neither here nor there and not your concern
its her responsibility to pay her mum back the money , regardless of wether you give her the 100 or not
you can turn round and say , you don’t have the money right now just like she says to you .

i don’t lend ppl money I give it , ppl who tend to need money are never in the position to pay it back
she might look like she has money but is probably using credit or borrowing hence why she used her mums card

You bought the tickets from her not her mum

Incorrect she gave £100 to her friend to buy the tickets , who then put them on her mums credit card .
the ticket transaction was with her friend not her friends Mum .
that her friend used her mums card is neither here nor there and not op concern . Debt is to the friend not the friends mum

It’s embarrass. Sentences should end with a full stop. Basic writing lessons are online now - no excuse.

You still owe your friend £100 to be fair. She’s not her mum.

Personally I would pay that back, forget the £300 and steer clear of them in future.

Are you even sure you will actually get these tickets?

I assume you won't now due to this falling out so zero point paying for them.

@Banana2079 I must of missed that OP had given £100 to DF? OP stated that she would pay DF on her payday and when DF asked for the money she changed her tune and was not happy about paying £100 when DF owed her £300! Which I don’t blame OP for her response but should of been upfront when DF offered her mum to buy the tickets!

Missing a letter or a full stop whilst using a mobile phone that auto corrects incorrectly is very different to not knowing the difference between two very different meaning words.

Hopefully, you correct your child's homework and don't excuse it like you are trying to with the OP .
No wonder she gets ripped off.
Ill education is a symptom of other weaknesses.

Maybe you should let your state schools know about these writing courses - the education and GCSE results in this country are laughable.

You’ve used a comma incorrectly after ‘hopefully’. You’ve also left a gap between ‘OP’ and the full stop at the end of that sentence, which is a symptom of poor sentence construction and other weaknesses. Your paragraph formation is also very poor.

Wow. What an incredibly insensitive post. I hope you’re not like this to your kids when correcting their homework? 😳 I for one would much rather engage with someone who was ill-educated rather than someone with your nasty streak! Vile!

Low life friend . I wouldn’t have paid the $100 either . Let her take it off the $300 .

I have a Sibling who borrowed some money last year that doesnt want to pay it back . They see it as they have got away without having to pay me back. I see it as good excuse to no contact. Certainly improves my life not having that tiprat in my life

Sorry but not everyone's typing on they're phone is perfect. I hope you don't mind me pointing out though I am slightly confused. I've never heard of lll education so please explain.

The poster might be dyslexic for all you know. But aside from that something most of us learn as young children. If you have nothing nice to say then it's better to say nothing.

@Somethingneedstochange78 - I think @Pumperthepumper was pointing out the irony of @TSIFT correcting the OP’s spelling and grammar, whilst making mistakes in their own post.

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