Refusing to pay back my "friends " mum money I owe aibu?

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6 months ago I borrowed a friend £300 and they promised to pay me back.
I didn't pressure them and mentioned it after 5 months ..to be told "I can't right now"
This person now has plenty of money(I won't go into detail how but she does)
She said she would give me them on her pay day (28th )
Pay day came and went and she didn't give me a penny and said she would have to take it from the kids school uniform money and did I want her to do it.
Whilst the day before uploading pics of new trainers she bought herself and designer glasses.

We bought concert tickets and she put them on her mums credit card £100 in June.
I said great il pay on my pay day.
My pay day came and she asked for the £100
I was fuming and said "just take it out of the £300 you owe me and just give me £200

All hell broke loose calling me a thief and told her mum I was refusing to pay her
Writing all over Facebook how you can't trust anyone blah blah

Aibu ?

I’m surprised it wasn’t the first post! I’ve no time for pedantry for the sake of it, but I do think it’s worth using the right word when the wrong one completely switches the lender and borrower 🤣 I did have to read it twice.

Don't give her the money, make sure it is paid directly to mum, otherwise I'd bet mum never sees it either.

It's lent, leant means something different entirely 😆

If you're going to correct people you need to get it right. Using borrow the way OP does is regional, but the meaning is clear.

Why did you tell her you’d pay her on your pay day?

That was your mistake. You should have said then and there that she could take it out of the money she owes you, but you didn’t. If you wanted her to take her non payment to you seriously, you shouldn’t have been booking something with her that was going to cost her £100. So although you are right to expect her to take it from the money she owes you, you don’t come out of this smelling of roses either.

Did you see my other post? Autocorrect got me unfortunately! 😬🤣

I should have double checked but I know I typed it right!

Why did you lend someone £300 when they already have money?

Did you know these tickets were going on on her mother’s credit card?
If so, you’re in the wrong.
Although, I’d deal with mum directly.

But - sorry - you’re a fool. Who books to go to a concert - expensive or otherwise - with someone who has stolen £300. That’s just idiocy.

Grammer Police alert!

You lent £300 to your friend. She borrowed £300 from you.

Muphry's Law innit.

I'm clearly a horrible person because I'd tell her to take the £100 off the £300 she owed me, reply to all the FB comments about the £2/300 I was owed and if I had anything in writing or even a text message as evidence that she owes me money, tell the 'friend' that I'd take her to the small claims court if she doesn't pay me back the rest by the end of September.

Can't stand piss takers who borrow money then claim to be skint while buying themselves all sorts of treats.

tell her to pay her mum

Yes, the meaning is entirely obvious from the op. Some people think they look really clever when they correct others but I think the opposite - it shows a lot of ignorance I think. Ignorance of regional uses of words/language, ignorance of other people’s situations and how not everyone has had the opportunities you’ve had and so on.

What a mess!

Why not contact her mum & deal directly with her?

Why would you even let her book tickets when she owes you 300?

They are two separate people, I can see why you are upset but it's not the mums fault.

This

Grammar Police.

YABU to say you 'borrowed' her money, you leant her money.

Whilst I see what your saying the £100 if her mums money not yours, so I think you should pay.

On the other hand, you are never going to see it anyway.

I would agree with the PP who said to respond publicly with "I want to pay your mum back but I can't afford to until I get the £300 I loaned you in March"

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Honestly if you’re so clever you can’t resist correcting others, don’t make mistakes yourself.

We say "I borrowed her ...." in the part of town I am from.
I'm torn between just paying the £100 then at least my conscience is clear.
I don't want to pay anything like her.

You love to see it. 💯

You borrowed, or you lent? Your first sentence is unclear.

No advice, but my husband lent one of our NCT friends £300 three years ago now. Yep, 3 years ago, claiming he was going to pay it back at the end of the month.

in that 3 years, my husband has been diagnosed with cancer, lockdown etc, I lost my job - have we ever seen a penny?

if he’d even paid it back £10 a month it would’ve be paid back by now. I told my husband the exact same thing when he was asked for a loan - “never give what you can’t afford to not get back, and you’ll never seen that money again”

exact same thing here - you’ll never see that money again. But I do agree with the fact you should pay the Mum back, although I understand why you feel the way you do

Plenty of people say it. It’s a common phrase in lots of parts of the UK. Some people are just very snotty and love to try to look clever but they just end up looking stupid and small minded.

I get why you’d want to pay it. But I also get why you did what you did. It’s tricky. The ideal would have been if your friend had been a bit more reasonable and you could have agreed how/when she’d repay you, but she’s obviously not going to be a decent person about it. Which is a shame.

Most posts on here would be relatively unclear if you tried to answer after reading only one line.

If you pm me your address I could sent you a workbook my son uses. It’s to help him with contextual reading. He’s 8 years old but if you get a friend to help you I’m sure you could read up to his level.

I wouldn't be paying but I'd be writing off the friendship. After I'd put the story straight on whatever she's posting first. Some people need to.learn the lessons.