Refusing to pay back my "friends " mum money I owe aibu?

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6 months ago I borrowed a friend £300 and they promised to pay me back.
I didn't pressure them and mentioned it after 5 months ..to be told "I can't right now"
This person now has plenty of money(I won't go into detail how but she does)
She said she would give me them on her pay day (28th )
Pay day came and went and she didn't give me a penny and said she would have to take it from the kids school uniform money and did I want her to do it.
Whilst the day before uploading pics of new trainers she bought herself and designer glasses.

We bought concert tickets and she put them on her mums credit card £100 in June.
I said great il pay on my pay day.
My pay day came and she asked for the £100
I was fuming and said "just take it out of the £300 you owe me and just give me £200

All hell broke loose calling me a thief and told her mum I was refusing to pay her
Writing all over Facebook how you can't trust anyone blah blah

Aibu ?

And she is not your friend. Find new ones. Block her.
Life's too short for this bullshit.

Comment on her post. Yes I no I recently lent a friend some money and go into details…you just can’t trust anyone.

Please learn the difference between borrow and lend!

Please learn when to capitalise ‘and’.

Did you really think that nobody else would have pointed this out by now?

Here's a spoiler - many, many people did.

And they all looked nit picking and silly to do so...

Not read the whole thread ... but the original post stated " ...she put them on her mums credit card £100 in June." That suggests that the mum either knew nothing of it, or had some sort of arrangement with her daughter (more likely). In other words, I don't think it is certain that you owe the mother £100 as many posters have stated. So I wouldn't be 'repaying' the mother, until and unless the daughter repaid the whole £300.

As many other posters have observed, it is never a good idea to lend money to friends. It can turn out fine, but if it doesn't you lose a friend and the money.

It would be interesting to know -

Why she used her mother's credit card?
Did she pay her mother back or she also ripping her off?

Oooooh, random and edgy and original aren't ya? 😎

Bashing someone's grammar is sooooo radical and original, and not all fucking shitty and rude and breathtakingly ignorant.

slow hand clap...........

@Pumperthepumper
I agree and thanks for pointing it out. 😁

I will not, as others have done, rely on the fact that 62 years ago I left school with no 'O' levels not having sat any examinations and my knowledge of the written word is entirely gleaned from life and a love of books. 📖📚📗📙
I realise I still have much to learn.

Pay the £100 directly to her mum, definitely not her, then block your "friend." She has no intention of paying you your £300 back. She sounds horrible, you deserve better.

You should remove the ‘and’ and make two sentences. This is a run-on sentence with two topics as you’ve already used a comma. You’re welcome!

I like your pettiness OP, you were patient but ensured you got your revenge in the end by giving her a taste of her own medicine😂

I don’t think her mother changes anything here as the roles are still reversed. How will you recover the other £200? Your friendship is pretty much over.

Hmmm but if OP never gets the ticket I suppose they’re still £300 worse off. The friend could sell the ticket to someone else and recoup the £100.

This person isn't a friend, she's used you.

I would personally, pay her £100 for your ticket *so you have done the right thing by yourself. Then I would cut all ties with her and forget getting the £300 back.

Regardless, its lent.

Its not small minded...or stupid @Kanaloa it's incorrect use of English, and what's called colloquial English. I studied a-level English Language for 2 years 18 years ago...believe me when i say nowhere in written English would it say 'I borrowed....x....something' to call people small minded and stupid is absolutely abhorrent!!

IT'S! IT'S! IT'S!

Pay back the mum..
and take your friend to the small claims court for the £300

No, don't pay the mum back. Ask her to get it from her daughter.

We say "I borrowed her ...." in the part of town I am from

Hard to believe part of any town in the UK uses such confusing English.

I’m actually with you on this. Your friend is taking the piss and has no shame about not repaying the money she has borrowed from you. She’s had six months: age shouldn’t even be buying concert tickets or other luxuries until it is repaid, so why didn’t you express surprise about that? Anyway, now the shoe is on the other foot. She has no choice but to repay that £100 to her mum so her hand will be forced. It was her decision to buy the tickets and let you repay her, and her decision to put your purchase on a card that didn’t even belong to her.

she, not age

You can’t owe her £100 when she owes you more. It simply reduces the balance of what she owes you. You do not owe her money because she still has £200 to go before she’s even with you. She’s refused to pay. You’d be an utter mug to give her £100 - don’t be ridiculous! You should be kicking up a bigger fuss about her owing £300 for six months while taking the absolute piss with her disposable money and buying concert tickets!

Respond to the post… “you owe me 300 pound and have for months. It’s entirely reasonable you pay my 100 pound ticket. Send the other 200 asap please”.

If I were you I would pay the mum back directly - the ‘friend’ may well just spend it and not tell her mum you’ve paid. Tell her mum and any mutual friends exactly why there was a delay and then ‘wipe your mouth’ of the £300 and do a Meghan - Ghost her completely and totally.

But OP doesn't owe CF's mum money! CF chose for her mum to make a payment on her behalf.

But that payment was made on the presumption that OP's debt would have been repaid in advance and that the informal contract was between OP and CF.

It's not OP's fault or burden that CF uses her mum just like she uses OP.

Why on earth should OP be any more out of pocket?!