Refusing to pay back my "friends " mum money I owe aibu?

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6 months ago I borrowed a friend £300 and they promised to pay me back.
I didn't pressure them and mentioned it after 5 months ..to be told "I can't right now"
This person now has plenty of money(I won't go into detail how but she does)
She said she would give me them on her pay day (28th )
Pay day came and went and she didn't give me a penny and said she would have to take it from the kids school uniform money and did I want her to do it.
Whilst the day before uploading pics of new trainers she bought herself and designer glasses.

We bought concert tickets and she put them on her mums credit card £100 in June.
I said great il pay on my pay day.
My pay day came and she asked for the £100
I was fuming and said "just take it out of the £300 you owe me and just give me £200

All hell broke loose calling me a thief and told her mum I was refusing to pay her
Writing all over Facebook how you can't trust anyone blah blah

Aibu ?

Tell the mum the situation, that you can't pay her the money for the tickets till her thieving daughter pays you what she owes. Also put a post on Facebook saying you can't trust anyone these days. Then block.

Regardless, its lent.

Its not small minded...or stupid @Kanaloa it's incorrect use of English, and what's called colloquial English. I studied a-level English Language for 2 years 18 years ago...believe me when i say nowhere in written English would it say 'I borrowed....x....something' to call people small minded and stupid is absolutely abhorrent!!

You're in the right. Drop her like the sack of shite she is.

I'm sure the Op is aware of thatv,having had it pointed out quite a few times now.

It’s ‘it’s’, which is short for ‘it is’. Your sentence structure is poor, and there should be a full stop after ‘something’. You’ve used too many exclamation marks. ‘I’ should not be in lower-case.

Not in written English ,but in my part of the Northwest people do say" can I lend a fiver ",or will you "borrow me a fiver" ,I don't as i know it's not grammatically correct ,but it's not hard to work out the meaning .

I wouldn’t have lent that money in the first place but if I had I wouldn’t have then booked to go a concert with someone who owed me money.

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FFS I thought MNHQ said ages ago they were going to start deleting people for all this 'correcting' other posters shit.

It's not big, it's not clever and it can really put people off posting when they have problems, if they have to witness this self-important crap from other members

What have you done, OP?

Say something along the lines of "oh I don't have spare cash and was actually going to waiting for the money you owe me pay your mum, if you can't pay me the money then I unfortunately haven't got it to pay your mum"

Firstly go and pay her mother the £100 you owe her and explain the situation, if you don't get your money back, then you're going to have to chalk it up to a lesson being learnt. Then remove yourself from her as far as you can, the next time anyone comes begging, I hope you've got a good excuse ready. Good luck OP

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'I can't give you the £100 you put on your Mum's credit card for my ticket in June until you repay me the £300 you borrowed from me in February.'

Tell her, text her, email her, copy everything to her Mum, and quote it in reply to all her social media posts.

Oh, and end the 'friendship', obviously.

I don't agree with paying beck mum

Unless you knew mum was buying the 2 tickets for you and friend and you agreed to pay mum back after payday.

Else mum is irrelevant. You owe your friend the money but she owes you more. So it gets offset. Or she gives the mum her half owed and says it's for you so now she owes you £200 and she owes mum £100.

But you had no agreement with mum

(I can't see this concert ticket ever becoming yours though. Unfortunately

This.
Or go directly to her mum. She sounds like pain in the arse tbh, so it wouldn't surprise me if she didn't actually put anything on her mums credit card.

I'd want the ticket in my hand before paying anyone. I wouldn't trust the friend to have actually bought it tbh.
Tell her to sell the ticket to someone else, write off the £300 and block her.

Can't believe how brass-necked your "friend" is. Tell her you really need the money and it has been too long. Give her an actual deadline - no more than a week! If she doesn't pay back, then take her to Small Claims Court. You can use text/WhatsApp messages where you have discussed the loan as evidence. Really, just do that. She deserves nothing else. If she tries to gaslight you with your "debt" to her mother, tell her you need proof it was her mother who bought the tickets as you don't believe that. And that you thought you could pay the £100 back by X date ONLY because you were expecting friend to have paid the £300 by then. Play her at her own game 🍷
Oh and to the Grammar Police - OP is trying to get help here, so unless you have something helpful to say, butt out.

All sounds very childish, life isn't fair, by not paying her back, you are just as bad as your friend, think you both need to grow up.

Lent, if you’re being an arse about it. Leant is the past tense of lean.

You’re welcome

Say you will pay it when you get the £300 from her. Do not give her £100.

YANBU and stuff her mum as well. That’s her and the “friend’s” problem , not yours.

block her and write off your £300 x

Frankly I'd have done exactly what you did. It's her duty to pay her mum back. At least you're only £200 down now so well done for recouping that much.

I can’t believe people are saying OP should pay back the mum, some people on here are total mugs.

Brilliant.