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To not accommodate Very Important Neighbour's new home office?

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Knitwit101 · 09/08/2022 14:35

We've lived next door to these neighbours for years. Know each other well enough to say hi, put bins out on holiday, but we're not friends. We've been using our garden in the same way for years. No changes on our side, nothing new.

We've come back from holiday to find neighbour has re-organised his home office and he now sits at a massive (open) window right on the boundary between our gardens. That must have been a spare bedroom before maybe, I don't know. We never saw anyone in it.

I sat outside at our patio table this morning to have a coffee and I could hear every word he said through his open window, could hear every word his colleagues said on their online meetings. He might as well have been sitting at the table with me. Not sure there's much I can do about that, he can use his house however he likes.

Ds10 and his pals are sitting outside at the table trading Pokemom cards. There's 4 of them, they are laughing and chatting but they're not shouting or being silly. And it's a sunny afternoon in the school holidays, they can be outside laughing in the garden if they want to be.

Neighbour has just come to the door to ask me if I can take them inside because he has a full afternoon of work meetings and their noise is distracting him.

I said "what, the whole afternoon? You want them to stay indoors all afternoon?"

He said completely straight-faced "I'll be working till 6.30pm"

I laughed and said "well no, that won't be possible".

At this point he said in a very slow, careful, mansplaining voice just in case I couldn't follow him "I don't think you understand. I have a Very Important Job. These are very important meetings. I negotiate multi-million dollar contracts every day, I need to be able to concentrate."

Seriously? I always though he was a bit of a twat but who talks like this? Who actually says "Very Important" like that? Twice? He has no idea what my job is or how important dh or I might be.

I just said "no, we'll carry on using our garden as we always have. Maybe you could close your window when you're needing to concentrate. And just so you're aware, I can hear you and your colleagues when your window is open, I hope you're not saying anything confidential. I must get on, thanks for doing the bins while we were away" then shut the door.

He's gone, I can hear him on his Very Important Meeting. I could join in, I can hear every word on both sides. I suspect he'll be back, probably when dh is back from work so they can talk man to man.

He's unsettled me though, he was so self-confident when he came to the door, so sure that he would get exactly what he wanted. How do you get that kind of confidence? I wish I had it. Or is it arrogance? He made me think I was in the wrong at first.

We love our garden, we use it all the time. I'm not sure how we'll deal with this one, but I wasn't BU by refusing to bring the kids inside, was I? He's the one who has made the change, not us. I don't think wfh is new for him, he was just somewhere else in his house before I guess. Now he's on top of our patio with his big booming voice. I feel quite sad about it, if he's there all day every day it's going to be awful.

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Am I being unreasonable?

5480 votes. Final results.

You are being unreasonable
You are NOT being unreasonable
PatTesting · 11/08/2023 10:19

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Rosscameasdoody · 11/08/2023 17:24

OP you need to immediately invest in a garden bar, a hot tub, an outdoor TV system with surround sound and a trampoline for the kids !! If he has the brass nerve to approach your DH after you told him where to go, I hope he reinforces your response. What an utterly entitled dick !!

DocDonthere · 12/08/2023 20:50

Next time he’s having a loud meeting, shout out I’m his neighbor and can hear all of you, then suggest he gets some earbuds.

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 12/08/2023 21:23

Don't you have some very important loud music to listen to in the garden? What a bellend, I'd have laughed in his face.

Hoppinggreen · 12/08/2023 21:26

Mr VIP neighbour has probably gone back to working in the office now

LittleRedYoshi · 12/08/2023 21:26

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Eh? GDPR isn't a catch-all for any kind of sensitive data - it concerns the personal data of individuals and the OP hasn't mentioned anything that would fall under that.

reallyworriedjobhunter · 12/08/2023 21:31

YANBU. I negotiate million dollar contracts indeed. Maybe if it's so bloody important that it's quiet, he should go to the office. Twat.

cherish123 · 13/08/2023 00:49

Well done. You said the right thing. What an idiot. If he doesn't like the noise, he needs to close the window or move rooms.

balalake · 13/08/2023 08:04

@Knitwit101 have you had the same issue this summer?

Grimchmas · 13/08/2023 10:02

Folks, this is a zombie thread that gutter trash papers apparently like regurgitating. Let it rest in peace.

Daphnis156 · 13/08/2023 10:10

Anybody who has to stress they have a VERY important job is some kind of junior middle management!

You did so well.
Obviously don't let him get round your husband.
Record some of the VERY important meetings!

Housewife2010 · 13/08/2023 21:47

Daphnis156 · 13/08/2023 10:10

Anybody who has to stress they have a VERY important job is some kind of junior middle management!

You did so well.
Obviously don't let him get round your husband.
Record some of the VERY important meetings!

This problem happened a year ago! They may not even live there now!

Thesenderofthiscard · 14/08/2023 08:26

Ignore him! If it’s so important he can shut the window, go to the office or look into hiring flex office space nearby!

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