Would I be unreasonable to raise an issue with what a so-called friend said to me?

[Keyansier]

I have always looked very young for my age, which was a hinderance as a teenager and young adult but as I have got older I have embraced and taken upon the fact that that I look young as a blessing (I am now 28 btw but look like I am in the teenagers years range)

I bought a bottle of wine for dinner from the shop on the way home for me and my DBF last night (we are in a same-sex relationship) amongst other stuff and expected to show ID as normal and didn't get asked, so I jokingly said "Are you not going to ask me for ID for the wine?" and the (obviously gay a nd young) guy who was on the till stared at me and looked me up and down and said: "no, I don't think that's necessary."

I paid for my things without much further words and went home but was a bit upset. Later, I had a VERY SMALL cry to myself in private about it in the toilet and then when I told my friend later and told him what happened he was very nonchalant and said my crying was for attention-seeking and I always do it to try and get attention, even though I had JUST told him that I had cried to myself in total private and for very briefly, about ten seconds in total, if that!! I spoke to my DP later and he agreed with me that it was horrible but AIBU for being furious by the callous words from a so-called friend and should I lessen contact with them?

You cried in private (over a really ridiculously trivial thing) and then told people about it which is basically the same as just crying in public, attention-seeking-wise!

If this is a big problem to you then you must be living a very blessed life. Jesus...

Saying that, i like dramatic people

Thoughts and prayers. Stay strong OP.

I've heard it all now, thanks for the laugh😂

🙄

My reading of the obviously gay and young server is that they thought you were coming on to them and were just making it clear that they weren't interested in a polite but not obvious way ? But yes, life will be full of millions of such tiny disappointments, and you (and those around you!) will find it easier once you find a more adult way of dealing with them .

leaving aside the fluff.. the issue here was you felt the cashiers dismissal of you was intended to a put down/insult, it upset you, and your friend said you only cry to get attention.

If the cashier WAS rude, then you're entitled to feel a bit cut by it, and your friend is a bit mean to say that.. if thats the general opinion they have of you, then probably better to reduce contact because they're not your friend.

However, it might be worth considering if there is any truth in what your friend had to say, and maybe see if you need to toughen up a bit.

😂 you just won the internet for me

I looked quite young for my age until about five years ago and then noted a significant difference in how old I was taken for. It did make me a bit sad as I am not good-looking but at least I could say I looked young, so I can empathise.

I suspect that your friend may have meant that the telling them about crying was the attention-seeking behaviour, not the crying in private?

You sound like an absolute drama queen. Grow up.

Face it, darling, you're no longer a stud-muffin.

You are utterly ridiculous. Like the women who post on here " how old do you think I am" and get upset when someone guesses correctly. Or says 53.

Haven’t read the full thread - saving it for when I think I can cope, emotionally ( laughing til you cry is an emotion isn’t it) but has anyone already advised the OP to avoid the .Sistine Chapel?

Wait til you get jowls - that'll give you something to cry about!

I was very smug all through my 20s as I always, always got IDed.

On my 30th birthday (the actual day) I bought some booze and cigarettes, and for the first time literally ever, wasn't asked for ID.

It stung quite a lot, but I didn't cry and I didn't fume, clearly I woke up on the morning of my 30th birthday with more wrinkles than the night before!

Wow, really ? 🤦‍♀️

Not sure if you're still reading but it's worth remembering that youngsters think ANYONE over their own age looks old!
Hope you're feeling better now anyway.

Blimey, I was never ID'd even when I was just 18. Talk about a first world problem.

Crying in the loo wasn't attention seeking (just a bit ridiculous), it was telling your friends about it and telling them you cried - you were seeking attention from that person.

Asking the guy on the till to ID you sounds like you were flirting, especially as you made a point of saying he was gay and young. So maybe what really upset you was more that your flirting wasn't reciprocated.

Has anyone offered the OP a biscuit?

They sure have. Now I can’t get that image out of my head.

Oh Jesus. YABU.

I have always looked older than my years. I've never really been asked for Id since I was 20. I don't cry about it.

Or save your emotions for things that matter. By all means cry in the toilet about the small stuff it that's your thing, but don't expect tea and sympathy when you tell someone that you did that.

Because you then went and told someone