Would I be unreasonable to raise an issue with what a so-called friend said to me?

[Keyansier]

I have always looked very young for my age, which was a hinderance as a teenager and young adult but as I have got older I have embraced and taken upon the fact that that I look young as a blessing (I am now 28 btw but look like I am in the teenagers years range)

I bought a bottle of wine for dinner from the shop on the way home for me and my DBF last night (we are in a same-sex relationship) amongst other stuff and expected to show ID as normal and didn't get asked, so I jokingly said "Are you not going to ask me for ID for the wine?" and the (obviously gay a nd young) guy who was on the till stared at me and looked me up and down and said: "no, I don't think that's necessary."

I paid for my things without much further words and went home but was a bit upset. Later, I had a VERY SMALL cry to myself in private about it in the toilet and then when I told my friend later and told him what happened he was very nonchalant and said my crying was for attention-seeking and I always do it to try and get attention, even though I had JUST told him that I had cried to myself in total private and for very briefly, about ten seconds in total, if that!! I spoke to my DP later and he agreed with me that it was horrible but AIBU for being furious by the callous words from a so-called friend and should I lessen contact with them?

I’m 39 and still get asked for ID op. I don’t give it a seconds thought.
28 IS young, so not much of an accomplishment to be asked for ID really, is it 😜😜😜😜

Having a cry was dramatic. Asking the shop assistant if they were going to ask for ID is cringe. Your friend has a point. Your boyfriend was siding with you out of loyalty

Clearly most people are not recognising where I am coming from, so I'll just take that I'm BU and will not go out in public again and bother people by living my life.

Good job you're not dramatic, OP.

Dunno about lessen contact with your bf it sounds like you've lessened contact with reality. Jesus Mary and the wee donkey why did you go into the loo and cry about such a trivial thing, god knows what'll happen when you cut your little pinkie

That’s what I call a flounce. Not sure if the veracity of this tale either.

..of the veracity

It was a fairly legendary troll thread.

Dare I say that gives it one thing it common with this thread

The important bit of what your friend said is that ‘you always do it to try and get attention’, it sounds like he was making a joke but a joke with a grain of truth in it. I’d listen.
Does shop assistant being gay mean he didn’t look at you ‘properly’ and hence didn’t notice your youthful looks?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

And the prize goes to @BMW6

Dare I say that gives it one thing it common with this thread

Best not, @Loics apparently it's a worse offence to call out bullshit than to tell a pack of lies round these parts

Wtf have I read?

I don't know whats funnier...

The OP's drama..

Or that 99% of mumsnet doesn't even get what the insult was.

OP if you want to seek attention from Mumsnet you'll need to pick a more relatable experience - no woman WANTS to be thought of as a naive teenager!

I'd recommend not doing it in AIBU, its far too savage in here for your delicate self.

I’m confused what made you cry on the first place 🤷

😂😂😂

As if this is real.

As if anyone is as fragile and self-absorbed to actually weep over non-validation of their ‘looking like a teenager fantasy’ when they are pushing 30 - but also to come and post it on a site where dozens of people are sharing real life concerns daily about how they are going to feed their families this year, heat their homes, get through another 6months on an NHS waiting list and other similar, serious problems.

As. If.

Your sexuality and the cashier's has nothing to do with this petty, irrelevant situation.
Grow the fuck up and act 28, not 8.
It so rare that I read a MN post and think "shut up", but this is one of these.
@mnhq, please delete if I am breaching rules by speaking like this.

genuine LOL on the train at the Sistine chapel 🤣

@Keyansier Mate, I am in my early 50's now, and when I was 46 - FORTY SIX, I went to get some shampoo from a pharmacy in a town I don't often frequent.

The assistant (who looked around 55-ish IMO,) said '£1.79.' I said 'Oh I thought it was £1.99..' She said 'we give 10% off on Tuesdays for pensioners!'

PENSIONERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was FORTY SIX. FORTY FUCKING SIX!!!

Did I say I was forty six???

I shed a wee tear then. I thought 'fuck me I must look like SHIT!!!!!' I feel your pain. 😂 You do sound a tad OTT though. (A bit.)

p.s. Someone did think I was in my early 40s some weeks later, when I was in a hobby group, and met someone new. So I felt a bit better then.

I'm 28 (well I'm nearly 29) and I have a squishy baby face. I've joked about being upset when no id is needed but most of the time I'm simply worried as I don't have photo ID right now and it's embarrassing to have to put things back. I don't think I look really young but I have had some well meaning but slightly offensive comments as I have 3 DC, so people assuming I'm even a handful of years younger and commenting about DC in the same breath feels like there is an undertone of criticism.

That aside, I see your OP isn't really about the event itself but more that your friend said you were attention seeking and do it all the time. That must be hurtful but, is there any truth in it? You don't have to take it on board at all but sometimes it's useful and eye opening to hear how we are perceived even if it's not our intention

Just try and learn and grow from it and if you don't think it's a worthy criticism then distance yourself a bit from your friend and hold your head high. To thine own self be true and all that.

There is nothing wrong with looking your age.

This. ^ I have no idea why some people are SO DESPERATE to be thought of as looking much MUCH younger. Especially on here!

Squishy baby face! Wtf?

Bless you for that, @WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps ! 😂😂
These threads are usually full of people sadly inconvenienced by being asked for ID well into their 40s....🤔

Stealth boast

Well I think it was funny.

It's an amazing place to visit.
In the meantime, pay no heed to requests or otherwise for ID. It's not an objective measure of your appearance.
Truly.