Would I be unreasonable to raise an issue with what a so-called friend said to me?

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I have always looked very young for my age, which was a hinderance as a teenager and young adult but as I have got older I have embraced and taken upon the fact that that I look young as a blessing (I am now 28 btw but look like I am in the teenagers years range)

I bought a bottle of wine for dinner from the shop on the way home for me and my DBF last night (we are in a same-sex relationship) amongst other stuff and expected to show ID as normal and didn't get asked, so I jokingly said "Are you not going to ask me for ID for the wine?" and the (obviously gay a nd young) guy who was on the till stared at me and looked me up and down and said: "no, I don't think that's necessary."

I paid for my things without much further words and went home but was a bit upset. Later, I had a VERY SMALL cry to myself in private about it in the toilet and then when I told my friend later and told him what happened he was very nonchalant and said my crying was for attention-seeking and I always do it to try and get attention, even though I had JUST told him that I had cried to myself in total private and for very briefly, about ten seconds in total, if that!! I spoke to my DP later and he agreed with me that it was horrible but AIBU for being furious by the callous words from a so-called friend and should I lessen contact with them?

Haha snap, I was thinking given up or now forgotten the details they used to sign up to post this.

What are you going on about? I can't even begin to understand what you were crying for. How would you react if something happened that was actually serious? Get a grip

Person who claims not to be an attention grabbing drama llama flounces around on an internet forum known for being picked up by shoddy journalists for click bait articles.

But of course they aren't dramatic at all 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Guess you’re not a Twinkie anymore, huh?

This thread has had me in tears .. of laughter!
Seriously, OP, get a grip! There's a war in Ukraine, a cost of living crisis, people dealing with bereavement and serious illnesses etc.
Although with the way prices are rising, we soon won't be able to afford to buy wine anyway so that'll be the end of being ID'd!

Does anyone remember Craig Coates from Big Brother 6 ?

Ugh yes he was a nightmare. And exactly how I’m picturing OP now

So you're a man? Going out with a man? Really??

Yes, really. I don't know where it is on the planet you reside, but in the UK in 2022, this isn't really controversial.

I didn't mean that two men going out was controversial; I was just amazed that you were a man and you posted this. Seems even worse than a woman posting it, for some reason.

You kind of asked for that response from the guy in the shop. No-one under age would ask to be carded!

by the way I think your hair might be receding and you have crows feet. That should give you something else to worry about! Just kidding. Relax x

Clearly most people are not recognising where I am coming from, so I'll just take that I'm BU and will not go out in public again and bother people by living my life.
Hahaha if mumsnet ever introduces reaction buttons, I want one of them to be “don’t go out in public again”. I’d like to have suggested that to a few posters over the years.

Fucksake OP.
If you are this passive-aggressive to your boyfriend no wonder he's exasperated with you.

Billions of humans manage to not indulge themselves in pointless emotions based on shop staff not playing along with your "oh I look SO YOUNG don't I? Don't I, eh? Don't I look YOUNG!" nonsense.

I'd have more sympathy if you weren't misrepresenting yourself as non-attention seeking. A private cry is fine & dandy - but whern you feel the need to broadcast it to your b/f, it's no longer private, is it? Which, again - is fine. It's ok to tell a loved one you've just been upset, but you can't simultaneously claim to be being "private" about your emotions, & this double standard is possibly what is winding PP up & getting you some fairly bracing responses.

Please don't consider having any children until you have grown up a bit. It's disproportionate to have such a huge reaction to a non-event, & if you can't see that, you maybe need some counselling to find out what's really going on to make you kick off about it like this.

😂😂Reverse?

Right that's it I've cracked, & have to call bullshit on you being a 28 man OP.

You are clearly a post-menopausal jewish momma, & should be telling everyone not to bother putting the lights on purely for little old you, because you can just sit in the dark on your own ...

YANBU. I went to fill my car up with diesel today and NOT ONE PERSON came up to me and asked to take a photo of me because I am breathtakingly beautiful. I mean, I am. And they’d definitely all have been thinking it. But it did hurt that nobody bothered ASKING, and I did have a little cry in the car after I’d refuelled. It caused a bit of a queue as I just sat in my car for 10 mins crying, but I wasn’t being dramatic or anything

...Because he was wearing his "I ❤Grindr" cap and T-Shirt and was idly thumbing through a copy of "HardCox" between put downs.

Have you ever seen the Sistene Chapel OP?

You sound exhausting.

Yes YABU.

Derbee, I feel your pain. Just today a builder was telling me about his 54 year old dad. At NO POINT did he say "but he looks a lot older than you, madam".

I mean, I'm only 60, & am sure I could pass as 59 on a good day.
Is it ok to have a sniffle, or should I just make some passive-aggressive remarks about it & call the builder "ugly" & "obviously het"?

If this is all you've to worry about OP then you live a charmed life.

Is this an attempt at you trying to be funny? Hint: You aren't.

No, but I plan to one day actually. What has that got to do with this thread?

Just to be clear.... Are you upset because he thought you didn't look young for your age, or because you tried to start some funny banter, and the shop worker was unpleasant to you?

😂

You are a 28 year old man who CRIED at the thought of no longer looking like a child? I've heard it all on here now.

Oh behave yourself OP 😂😂